Part 9: Due December 2017, January, February and March 2018

[LMSM]

Will come back later but for now...just thanks so so much my lovelies

[maximbella]

LMSM, so many hugs!!!! I would do anything to trade places with you, trust me. Just wanted to tell you that I know exactly what you're feeling. I'm constantly on the verge of tears, I'm always thinking of what I could have done differently in my sway, wondering what I could have adjusted, etc. I wake up all night long thinking about this and it just hurts. If you need to vent, trust me when I say that I understand.


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[4blue2pink]

blue booties so glad to hear those results came back all clear

[4blue2pink]

LMSM hate to admit i had all consuming gender desire and then gender disappointment with baby #1 we had #2 and got our little girl..but then we lost her, next came 3 boys in a row, cant even begin to describe the devastation (as awful as that sounds) but its true, it felt like our girl had been taken from us and then we were being punished with boy after boy after boy. even now after 2 healthy girls in a row i would be crushed if we had another boy, i dont think a baby boy will ever be a positive experience for me.

i hope you can feel better about your baby girl soon, though i do understand that it doesnt always work like that with GD, i think that relative who said same sex siblings suck is an idiot, for what it is worth 3+ girls is my dream family, but i also understand that having lots of one gender when all you want is the opposite can be such a dark place to be, it certainly was in my experience. big hugs and everyone is here for you when your ready to come back

[4blue2pink]

Max yes of course you were waiting on NIPT!! cant believe i didnt remember that!!

in all honesty i am shocked you heard boy, i must admit its things like this that really bring home the fact that luck or chance or whatever you want to call it really do play a fairly big part in all our sways, he must be one very determined little man!!

i completely understand your feelings, hearing "boy" was never a positive thing for me, in all honesty it was devastating, and i think when we sway we feel like we are more likely to be guaranteed our boy or our girl because of all the things we do and change. how have dh and your girls reacted? i hope you are ok i am very glad baby is healthy but i am sorry that you didnt get your all girl dream, i know how much you wanted it and how much it meant to you, i hope your little boy can surprise you in ways you never imagined xx

[maximbella]

4blue, thank you. It was just that when I heard boy...devastating. The logical side of me KNOWS that I'm going to love him, and knows that he can still be close to his sisters despite the gender and age differences. However, the emotional side of me is really, really struggling. I think I was possibly too confident in my sway that it was a girl, but all along the way I did have doubts (low hcg which was different than my girls, delayed positive hpt, different cravings, etc). Its just crazy to me, especially with LMSM, Kat, srg having girls and wanting boys. You know?! DH is happy and girls are excited, although DD2 told me she wished it was a girl so she could have another sister. Those words stung and are still with me...


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[Mommy2apples]

Lmsm: so many hugs it doesn't make you a bad person. I felt like an awful person I sobbed in front of my dh, dd, ds1, and sis and sil. I felt like a monster crying over a healthy baby. Then it didn't help when I called my mom and told her the gender, she was like are you sure? That just made me cry harder. Anyways it's okay, and it doesn't make you a bad person! Wish I could give you so many hugs!


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[Shannshaff]

LMSM - I wish I could give you so many HUGS!!! I am the same way. Some days are better than others. I still have my horrible days of GD. You are not at all wrong in the way you feel. And I too am like Max and wonder how so many of you wonderful ladies would give anything for a boy and some of us would give anything for our girl. And we got opposites. But for some reason, these little people found us and picked us as their parents and we will not know for a while, why that was. It is ok to struggle with it and I am still struggling at 34w. We still have no name and really nothing ready for this little man. And I feel so bad about it. He can come at any moment, and I am still not bonded or anything. UGH. HUGS to all of you!!!!!! The struggle is so real, but I also know you are a wonderful mother and will love this girl like you do your others!!! Time will help heal and you will get past it. I know with time I will forget the baby years and craziness because it will be replaced by so much love and chaos from my boys!!!
4p2g - I fully understand the feelings of having your girl ripped away from you and hearing boy after that. The same thing happened when we lost our twin girls and here I am having another boy. It really was devastating, but I will get past it. HUGS We all have struggled so much, I am so very happy that we have this place to share and not be judged. Thank you for allowing me to be a part of this group.

[Shannshaff]

Oh and blue - I am so so so so happy to read that the preliminary results look so great!!! Huge sigh of relief.

[Lolabelle]

Hi ladies! I'm so sorry I've been so out of the loop lately!!! Have I missed any big news??! I've been able to keep up with the Facebook posts a little better, but life has been busy & stressful lately...just downright exhausted! I did have my "sprinkle" on Sunday & it was perfect! Maybe I'll post some pics on FB. Hope all of you are well xoxo