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    Congratulations on your healthy baby boy. I hope soon youŽll feel relaxed and in peace again
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    Congratulations Nini, (I don't know you, but I can tell) you are a wonderful mum for wanting happy healthy children, and that baby boy is going to be unconditionally loved! I can only imagine how heartbreaking it would feel to know (or think) it's your last shot at getting your dream, and it not materialising for you. I'm sorry you're going through that feeling and hope you work through your emotions and come back quickly.. I'd love to get to know you! Hugs xx
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    Feeling much better today. Felt awful yesterday, was sooo emotional and tearful. Today I see things a bit more clearly.

    What made me break down yesterday is the fact that my friend (who has 2 healthy girls and has lost many pregnancies before, inbetween and after incl. 2 BOYS during the last trimester, one lived for some time!!!) was desperately hoping for just one boy... I prayed for her while ttcing myself that I would rather have a boy if she only gets hers! That is how I phrased my prayers in a childish, naive way. Well, she is having another girl (and this is defintiely her last, she cannot have more with all the health issues she and her kids have had -mainly chromosomal- and all the losses she had to cope with.) The idea that she had to carry 2 sons to the grave and will not get one and I get one, when I watned another girl so badly... its just hard to believe. She will have 3 girls when she had always hoped for one son. We are both blessed to have healthy children, dont get me wrong, but it does feel unfair. I havent told her yet. I think we will give each other a long hug and remember how we talked about swapping newborn clothes once she has her boy and me my girl. Of course I know I am in a better spot since I havent lost any daughters and I have one in my arms!

    In a weird kind of way I am actually looking forward to working my way through this, I need to work out my own past. Take a break from ttcing and popping out babies (3 in 3 years!) and the emotional turmoil the 2 boys have brought on. The time I have spent on in gender, WOW! It has been part of my life since... 2009. I am looking forward to not being pregnant and just enjoy the children I have. I am looking forward to getting my shape back, to wearing normal clothes again. And maybe, just maybe, once this little man is in playschool, I am slim agian, I might have another baby... one to enjoy, no double buggies, no multiple kids in nappies, my older kids in school and just one little baby at home, one child that will stay longer in the house when the others have already grown up. But maybe, this son will cure this whole gender topic for me. Maybe, hopefully, I will work my way through this to the point where I know my family really is complete, I am complete with the children I have, regardless of gender. That is my new dream now. I so grateful I am only 32.

    Myloves, what was your user name back then? When did you know and feel you were done? Did your husband leave it open to you like mine (I wish mine wouldnt ha ha).


    oh, and I see a little Saskia in the making, sending you lots of positive vibes all the way down under xxxxxxxx

    If I could have changed one thing about my sway it would have been to be less head controlled and more spiritual. I wish I had had my body and mind together. I swear I will never ever check my vaginal ph again in my life. Never. This is one thing I know and I am so relieved about it. Ha ha ha. If I swayed again I would do light LE everything, skip breakfast and not worry about anything else. Nothing. I would even monitor my cycles. I wonder what that would feel like, huh....

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    IŽm glad youŽre feeling better today and I love your attitude!
    I will read back what you just wrote if IŽll have a little boy in July, so thank you.
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    So happy to hear your feeling better. Let all your emotions out! It's a vital part of the GD healing process .

    I understand what you mean by wanting to enjoy a child without looking after a toddler at the same time. Although ds2 was almost 4 when dd was born, it was still exhausting and I never want to go through that again.

    I do feel done now - I don't think about having a BFP anymore. My husband and I only planned on having two kids orignally - I didn't mind having 3 or even four, but he definitely didn't want more than 3!
    I thought I'd get two girls or even boy/girl, but when ds2 was born dh saw how upset I was and agreed to go for one more. Even if dd had been a boy, I'm 99% sure we'd have been done either way.
    I think the main reason I'm happy to be done is because I want to enjoy life and watch the kids I already have grow up, instead of worrying about pregnancy/birth. Having another baby for me means I'd have to go through the newborn stage all over, as well as the baby and toddler stage, etc - I feel like if I had another I'd have less time to focus on the three I already have. The more I have, the more I have to divide my attention, kwim?

    Oh and I changed my name on IG . Twice in fact. My username was Myloves first and then I changed it to MyWishCameTrue, and lastly I changed to Up&AwayIGo! because I wanted to leave IG for good and migrate to this website.
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    After ages of praying for a sister for DD, I am proud to announce the birth of my twin baby GIRLS born Oct 31st.

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    Nini,

    your words are truly inspirational.

    I feel the same...if this is boy 3 for us, I will take a step back, enjoy the children I have, and lose some weight and enjoy my body sans baby, and then....if in a few years, if i really need a 4th child to complete our family (boy or girl), then I will try again, but I don't think I would go for a 4th unless I could be 100% content to hear boy.

    Right now, I am definitely closer to that goal than I was with DS2 (I was totally, utterly unprepared to hear boy and it def. affected me).

    You are so strong and I'm so glad you took the time out to write how you feel. It is just lovely, and I know you will love that little man with all your heart
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    Nini, just reading this now as I have not logged on here for a few weeks (I have been avoiding it as I keep hoping to come back in with a BFP). I am really happy for you that you have a sweet Libran boy headed your way!! Regardless of whichever gender you are having, I still think this this is one lucky baby, to be born into such a loving family and to have you as a Mum! You are honestly so sweet, caring and nurturing... I think I want you as MY Mum! even though I think I am older than you so not sure how that would work.... anyway!

    I continue to love and be inspired by your positive attitude to everything! You are so right too about never checking vaginal pH again, I too have given up with that rubbish. It has all meaning to me in the midst of continuing to try to TTC. Instead I am trying to continue to be spiritual as you say and realise that there are less and less things I can control in life, and that it is ultimately up to God. We are lucky as you so to have our sweet babes in arms and not have to worry with having lost a child. What will be will be.

    All the very best for a happy, healthy 9 months and I can't wait to hear all the details about the arrival of the newest addition to the family, maybe also see some pics of the newest addition with the proud siblings!!

    Thanks as always for being such an inspiration to us all xx
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    Thinking of you Nini, but so proud of your mind set now. This baby is very lucky to have you as its mummy!
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    Thankyou genderdreaming!



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    I know how you feel, I was so desperate for a girl, I suffered with depression badly after ds 2, it took alot of convincing my dh to ttc dd the third time, I did sway but not so great as I was un aware of these websites with so much advice. When I was pregnant the third time I convinced myself it was a girl, and so at 20 week scan I was deverstated. I cried for most of the pregancy and took anti depressants and saw a councillor. Did it help ? I don't know Its only other women who suffer from GD that understand the pain and the gulit you feel. My little boy is now 6 months and yes I did fall in love at first sight, he is the easiest and happies baby ever. Where ever we go people stop me and say he is truely gorgeous, whihc he is. So why do I still get these feelings and dream of having a dd one day. I hope and pray for the future. The other day my DH said he didn't want any more children and that it would prob be another boy. I felt like my world had come to an end. I need to hang on to the dream, what do I do if he wont let me. Has anyone elso been in this situation. I pray for a miracle. I know you will love your little man, but the longing for a dd never goes away. Three of my frineds have also had girls and I find it very hard to visit them. Why !!
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    Glad you have peace of mind and a beautiful baby on the way!
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