The big question...to find out gender or not??

[Yahmama]

I'm in the same boat right now, except being currently preggers and trying to decide before our big scan.

I know that for me I struggled with really bad GD last time that totally melted away when I held my baby girl in my arms. I keep wishing I just hadn't known and had enjoyed my pregnancy then felt that joy as soon as I met my baby. So now I am thinking I really want to stay Team Green. I'm having a great pregnancy and don't even want to really risk GD when I know I'll love my baby whomever he or she is.

Going out and buying lots of blue would be fab, but I don't think it would outweigh knowing the GD that would come from hearing "girl" instead of "boy." So right now I'm leaning Team Green and that's why, at least for me. It's hard to decide though, because part of me is dying to know and I stalk the u/s forum lol.

Always a great thread topic!

Wow...I could have written this word for word! I have my gender scan in 4 days and up till recently was doing good thinking of staying team green...but a HUGE part of me wants to find out cause I have a really strong feeling this is boy...and my nub guesses have mostly been boy...but I think of the chanc of hearing girl and want to cry...just trying to figure out what to do. These next 4 days will be torturous....

[Yahmama]

I would love to have a pregnancy where I didn't even think of gender.

This was one of my main reasons for staying team green, but I still think of it constantly!!! Wondering if it will stay that way after I have my scan if we don't find out or if I'll kick myself for not finding out.... :/

[Wanting a daughter]

I vote hands down absolutely find out. Well that's what worked for me anyway.

I wanted pink from the start and needed to know long before my bubs arrived so there was no chance that I would feel even the slightest moment of disappointment when they arrived. Having those months to get used to the idea of blue and bond with my sons before they even got here was perfect for me. From the moment they were layed in my arms I could just bask in the glow of loving them as my sons and never ever look at them feeling disappointed.

[NCBeachyGrl]

OK ladies....I need some help with this!!!!!!! I am almost 11 weeks....nub shots in 2 weeks exactly. I don't know what I want to do about finding out the gender. I want to find out so bad so I can get used to the idea of what the baby will be...but what I don't want to do is tell everyone its another boy if it does ending being a boy. And, DH doesn't understand my GD and will get upset with me if I act disappointed so I don't want to find out with him around either. So....do you think this is bad?

Go to gender scan by myself, get the tech to show me potty shot (not tell me so I don't have to lie to DH) and then I can go back and say what I "thought" I accidentally saw. If it is another boy, I can get used to it on my own and still keep saying that we aren't finding out until birth.

[Yahmama]

Not many people know about the nub theory, so he wouldn't necessarily have to know what you see and most people won't ask you at this point anyway I wouldn't think. So you could act clueless until your 18-20 wk scan of you want to. Also, don't ask for a potty shot at this stage as they are way too unreliable. Nub shot is best. You can look through confirmed boy and girl nub shots on the "other" gender site a lot of people are on. That helped to prepare me at what I'm looking at! Girl would be flat, parallel to the spine and often longer than boy. ESP since you will almost be 13 weeks boys would def look anged and not flat at all with often a bump on top. GL to you!!!

[NCBeachyGrl]

Thanks Yahmama! I think my post was confusing below! I don't worry so much about the 12 week scan and DH will not have a clue. He knows I am going to come straight here with my pics so that doesn't bother me. It is the 16-20 week scan that I want to go by myself to and have her show me the potty shot secretly. Do you think that is bad?

Hopefully I will get a good nub shot, I just worry I won't get a good one!!!

[Mum23boys]

I went o scans on my own with ds 3 and really wanted to know even though dh didnt and i chickened out at th elast min as no way i could have gone home ad hid my dissapointment / excitemement from him - plus ive never been able to keep things from him so wasnt an optio for me !!

[NCBeachyGrl]

I can't hide things from DH either...I am terrible at any kind of white lies! If it is a boy, I would tell him straight away that I saw the willy accidentally. But at least I would have time to soak it in and not worry about faking or hiding my disappointment. IDK! This is so hard!!!!

[BeadinMom]

I actually think it's a great plan, Beachy...
You already know what you're looking for...but if you don't ask for confirmation from the tech, then you really don't KNOW KNOW for sure, right? And you won't really be keeping anything from your DH that way.

Either way, I hope you have an absolutely OBVIOUS little girl scan

[kaseybaby]

I go back and forth on this. I didn't find out with my DS, and i was desperate for a girl, but when he was born I didn't have any GD. If I am ever lucky to have a second, I don't know if the obsession of gender will ruin the pregnancy. I had such a rough delivery, PPD, pregnancy with DS, that I just want to have a smooth deal next time around. I think about this daily and I am not even pregnant