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[chachamama]

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[nuthinbutpink]

Totally. That was me and I got DD3...it wasn't as hard as DD2 was but it made me want a guarantee for number 4- never thought I would have a number 4! What you typed is what most people feel I believe.

[Lilac♥]

That's how I'm feeling right now, but only after the fact. Like if I could've known beforehand that #5 would be a girl, then I would've stopped at 4. Maybe I would've stopped at even less, like 2. But now that I have had #3 and #4 in my life and personally know them, I wouldn't want to not have them. So I know I'll feel that way when #5 is born. I could even be crazy enough to say if I had some guarantee that if I had a 6th it would be a boy, then I'd actually do it. But I would never ever want a 6th girl, so there's no way I'd do it just out of chance anymore. I'm so confused!

[atomic sagebrush]

It's not me because I always wanted a big family and I would have been happy to have 5 boys as long as there was a girl in there somewhere.

But just know that after having terrible GD with DS 3 and some mild GD with DS 4, I actually want a 5th boy now. It makes no sense for me to have a girl at this point. I just pray my husband has a change of heart and goes along with me!!

So you never know...feelings are powerful things and yours are perfectly valid, but they also have a way of changing in ways that you don't expect. If you did have a 3rd boy, I doubt you would regret it once he was there in front of you, KWIM??

[Jojogirl]

No...it makes sense. I'm in the same boat. I don't "need" a 5th! I am going for it (even with my very tough pregnancies) because of the "chance" to give dd a sister. I am very content with my family right now and an even #4. going for an odd number of kids is not necessarily what I wanted....but I'm going to give it a go!

[chachamama]

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[WantingButWaiting]

Yes I understand how you feel. Except I'm not sure I want a third at all even if it was a girl. Life with 2 kids is pretty easy and I like that. I would not ttc again. Even though I know I would love a third boy I don't want to make my life harder for one. I feel awful saying it because my #2 ds is my beloved baby boy even though he was my gd baby. I can't imagine my life without him. It's complicated.

[Claire]

The way I think about it is to imagine myself in 25 years when the kids are grown. Am I going to regret having another one? Or will I regret not trying?

And I know that I would regret not trying so much more.

I read a book called Stumbling on Happiness, about how people can't really predict what will make them happy. And one study found that people usually regret not doing something more than they regret actually acting.

[raspberry73]

I can relate to how you feel. I felt like that after I had my first two boys. I did always think I wanted 3 kids, but the idea of having another boy scared the pants off me. We swayed for a girl with number 3 (did with #2 as well) and are getting another boy. Now, I am having the same feelings you about having #4. Though, we would only go HT if we did try, so it's a little more daunting.

[raspberry73]

That's so good to hear. I followed your blog over at IG and I am glad to see that GD doesn't last forever. I can totally echo in the sentiments of having 5 boys as long as there was a girl in there somewhere too.