Wow. Thanks for the slap in the face.

[3boys531]

What an absolute dick of a man. Who speaks like that when he himself has sons. He sounds very strange and a bit obsessive over his daughter. I find it really annoying when people say they have the perfect family when they have a boy and a girl. I think having 2 of the same is wonderful for the kids. Most boys want a brother and girls want a sister so to who is it perfect for. A perfect family is a happy one no matter what the makeup.

Stupid people are not worth been around. I would never want to see that person again and I would still be stewing over it because it's just the most thoughtless thing anyone could say. I have distanced myself from a friend that always has digs at me for not having a girl. Can't handle it anymore.

Arhhhh what an asshole he has me angry and I don't know him from a bar of soap.

Send an email to his wife and say you know what I have been thinking about dinner the other night and what your dumb ass husband said has really pissed me off. My kids are not smelly, dirty or any of the things he said.

I think there is some deep lying issue with this idiot.

[3boys531]

Just to add is his wife an idiot as well.

[sbowman]

I probably would've said something like, Well bad behavior is probably from your bad parenting. Haha. And then leave. Who has time for people like that?


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

[Houseofblue]

3boys & hotdogsz are both right...I would not be able to let this rest, it would eat me up inside. I say you write the jerk or his wife and say what 3boys said...and I would also add how incredibly happy you are with your boys and how much they complete your life. DON'T let them know you want a girl, it gives them power over you to hurt you.
Then, stay away!! Don't give them the opportunity to hurt you or your boys. They WANT the opportunity to do that, people like this feed off of this kind of stuff. They are parasites.

[iluvmy4sons]

My boys don't destroy anything and I have 4. It has to do with parenting. I am on the East coast. I heard a few comments, but not that bad. Here I notice before and even after I had my daughter there are many people with 3 kids of the same sex. I feel so sorry for those twin boys. They better change there tune quick or those boys are going to have psychological issues.

[RedCanoe]

Comments like that have nothing to do with you and your boys, so don't waste another second taking it personally! Whenever someone makes comments like that it just makes me feel sorry for them and especially for their children. How miserable for them to have that attitude towards their own kids and how miserable for those kids, both the boys AND the girl, to be raised by parents with that kind of attitude.

[lisvna]

Uhm so basically he was talking about himself? In his childhood he was a boy too right? How stupid some people.....

Really they have no brain and basically they insolt you but also all the families who have boys. I wouldn't waist my time with them for sure! You deserve real friends who loves and respects you and your family.

[SamS_TTCPink]

OMG! I can't believe a Dad would say that about his own children!

I know how you feel though about people thinking boys are second best to girls. When we found out our kids were boys, even family members were cross with us, my mum even saying, "you could have at least gotten pregnant with girls". And we always get "oh, you poor things" when we tell people we have six boys.

As much as we want a girl to add to our family, I don't see my boys as second prize and love them all to bits! They're cuddly, affectionate and gorgeous! All kids are messy and noisy! They're kids!!

Sending you some blue baby dust! xx

[motherofboys]

You know what as much as it would eat at me, I wouldn't say anything for fear of coming across as protesting too much. I was recently sat at a table at the coffee morning our church runs, with 4 other mums, all of which have 1 daughter and all had the same opinion. Now they have their girl it would be nice to have a boy but if they had a second girl they wouldn't mind, but if they'd have had a boy first they would have been desperate for a girl. I didn't say a word. I was angry with myself after that I hadn't stuck up for myself but I also thought that if I had said it they'd have thought I was covering and that I really did want a girl.
It does upset me though that such value is placed on girls and I almost don't want a girl because people will say "you got your girl at last you can stop now" and devalue my boys as if they are second best, and only here because I failed to get a girl.

I know that there are lots of mums on here who really want boys and that get the same response to all girls as we do to all boys. But my experience has been that a good deal of women find it easier to accept all girls than all boys.
I must say though that I'm happy with my boys, I always wanted a couple of boys first.


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

[Rosie85]

I agree with you that all girls is more widely accepted than all boys. I see it all the time.

I can't believe I haven't seen this post til now. Even though it's months later I just wanted to say what a dick that dad is. I feel just awful for those boys.

These children should never be the target of anger or resentment. It isn't their faults! I want a girl so very very badly but if I have a fourth boy...I will love him. I will cry and scream over the loss of never having a daughter but it isn't his fault and I will NEVER resent him or love him any less. All these children did was be born and all they ask is to be loved. I don't understand how that is hard for some people. If you can't handle not getting what you want, exactly how you want it then maybe you shouldn't have kids.