SIL has just had the first girl in the family

[Claire33]

My SIL just gave birth to the first girl in the family, after 5 boys total (3 are mine). You can imagine, everyone is over the moon and not afraid to say it. The Facebook comments about FINALLY a girl, and how thrilled people are about this, it really hurts. She even looks like my sons, and I think "that is what my daughter would look like". I'm really happy to have a niece, but would be happier if I also could have a daughter. Now I'm going to go HT, but I'm so scared to do IVF, hormones, failed cycles, non-transfers, or just no pregnancy.

I just wish I wasn't in this situation. Also having 4 kids, it wasn't part of my plan, I'm exhausted as it is with 3!

[atomic sagebrush]

I am so sorry.

In my family, back in 2009 we had 6 boys and one girl. (4 were mine, one my sister's, one my cousin. The girl is my brother's) Fast forward to 2015 and we now have 6 boys and 5 girls (Mine, my sister's, my brother's girl, and then two of my cousins had/are having girls!) My point is, it can turn around so quickly that you wouldn't even believe it!

FWIW - your daughter will be the cutest anyway...mine is LOL.

I know how hard it is, though. I think, if only it would have gone the way I wanted it to, I would have so much more time and energy to enjoy it.

[nuthinbutpink]

I'm sorry. That is tough. I hope you get your girl and add another to the mix!

[True Blue]

I'm sorry, that is hard
I truly hope your little bundle of pink is next

[maidentomother]

Ohhh that must be so frustrating and painful, I'm sorry! I hope you are a OHW when you go HT and have a beautiful, easy little girl whom everyone dotes on, even more than they do her cousin.

[1+2+3boys]

Hi, sorry to hear, that must be hard. I feel the same re how many kids I wanted. I don't want to be in this position either. I'd rather not have to have more because I am so tired and busy and crave some me time badly so another kid would make that so much harder. But I can not let go of not having a girl. It must be hard seeing what your girl might look like. I am adopted so wont have that problem. We want to do HT too for that garuntee but it seems so crap that I have to go through all that when for others it just happens. Also the age gap thing will suck a bit. I am tempted to sway to avoid that big age gap since we can't afford HT for at least a year or two but I just don't want to up my work load unless it will 100% be a girl. I hope HT works for you so you can enjoy your niece without the sorrow lurking behind

[covered in blue]

Oh I'm going to be in the same boat in a couple of weeks I think. On DH's side SIL is team green. She has 1 boy, we have 3, and other BIL has 2 boys. Someone's gonna pop out that girl and it's going to be a HUGE deal and I'm dreading it! (even though I know it would be awesome if we do get our girl at some stage so she has a girl cousin.). I can just imagine how much it hurts. Try not to read all those comments xx

I'm so happy you have HT plans! FXed it's an easy road for you and you get to bring your little girl home soon.

[Pebbles&BamBam]

I totally get how that hurts especially if it seems like she got her DD so easily! I am waiting to hear SIL babies gender and just dreading to here if she got DG and how often I will have to hear about it!

[grace03]

Totally hearing you!
We have 4 beautiful boys 11, 8, 5 and 13 months. I am one of 5 kids 3 girls 2 boys, my husband is one of 3 2 boys and a girl. My brother had a baby a month after my last one and I rejoiced when he was a boy since newborn hormones would have not helped hearing first girl. Fast forward a year and on our 4 th boy's b day his girl cousin was born, dh's brothers kid. this was dec 2nd last year. I have been seeing my psch constantly and suffering big time my sister is due in may and wasn't finding out. I have said ill throw a baby shower etc. she left first baby till 37 even though with same guy for 11 years. Now she found out its a girl ! how am I supposed to plan a baby girl baby shower when I cant get through the day

sorry to hijack thread with my miserableness I haven't written on here for a year but now even though I had my tubes tied during my c section im back on here researching HT just can't see future without 'her'

I hope you have support and can cope as best you can xxx
my psych says you don't have to like the situation but you can cope with it... im still not sure!

xxxx

[Pebbles&BamBam]

I have to host SIL shower and dreading if she gets her desired gender because then I will have to watch her get the praise and shower I always wanted! At least you know now, I'm still waiting and it's so hard, I'd rather know now so I can prep myself!