Ultrasound woes. Ugh!

[ELP]

Was this a private scan? Could you afford another scan? I think to put your mind at rest you need to get a picture 100% proof either way, other wise your going to keep questioning for the next 20 weeks. Fair enough surprises are nice, but in this case I think you need answers just so you can put it to rest and love your little one as a special new addition for your family. 5 girls is fun, I have 5, I have taken to calling them 'my precious gems' just so that if the new one is another lady I am in the right mind that she is gonna be as shiny and lovely as the others, not just another girl (I've my fingers x'ed for blue though )

[Lilac♥]

I think I'm going to ask my husband if we can go to one of those private scan places. I don't know what he will say. And I don't know if I should try to go right away, or wait until I'm feeling better so I don't cry the whole time.

These are my 3 choices, which one should I go to?
http://ultrasoundspecialists.com/
http://fetalfotosusa.com/location.aspx?i=5
http://fetalstudio.com/

[Lilac♥]

Was this a private scan?

It was ordered by my doctor and done at the hospital.

[ELP]

I think I'm going to ask my husband if we can go to one of those private scan places. I don't know what he will say. And I don't know if I should try to go right away, or wait until I'm feeling better so I don't cry the whole time.

These are my 3 choices, which one should I go to?
http://ultrasoundspecialists.com/
http://fetalfotosusa.com/location.aspx?i=5
http://fetalstudio.com/

I'm not sure. I'd go for the nearest and cheapest, but it might be worth asking each how old their machines are so that you would get the best picture. You could even book without telling DH if you can be a little sneaky, that way you can just put on your pretend calm head on for a few days until you get a definate answer. Once you have visible black and white in front of you then you'll know thats its time to grin and bare it and put your best fake smile on to the world, until you meet her (or maybe him) then it will become a real smile x

[Lilac♥]

5 girls is fun, I have 5, I have taken to calling them 'my precious gems' just so that if the new one is another lady I am in the right mind that she is gonna be as shiny and lovely as the others, not just another girl

How do you do room sharing with 5 girls though? Do you have 3 in one room and 2 in another? Or 2 in two rooms, and 1 in her own room? How do you decide who would get her own or which 3 would share? My 2 older girls are saying they want their own rooms already, but for right now there's no way we could buy a 6 bedroom house. I was really hoping we could just have a boy and he would have his own and the 4 girls would have 2 rooms between them. I know this is the least of my worries right now. It's just something I think about.

I was trying hard to think positive about having a 5th girl before finding out. I thought about naming this one an L name so their first initials would spell out LILAC and I would call them my lilac girls or 5 lilacs or something cute like that. But I can't decide on a L name. I also thought about the fact that now I don't have to worry about all the boy things, but that doesn't make me feel any better. I feel bad for my husband. And I knew I wouldn't even consider having any more if this was a girl. And I thought it would feel good to know this would be our last. So we could move on from the baby stage and I could finally lose all this baby weight and do things for myself. But right now it doesn't feel good yet. It feels sad and difficult.

[ELP]

My house is even more cramped than that!, we have 3 little boys aswell as the 5 girls hence the 8 piglets and only a 3 bedroomed house but we all squeeze in . The 3 boys (10, 7, 5) have 1 room, my 12, 6, 3 year old ladies have another room and me, dh and the 2 & 8month ladies have the 3rd room. We 'hope' to start the loft conversion as soon as the weather turns and as soon as someone hands us a blank cheque seeming as we didn't even make the mortgage thhis month it may well be delayed.....again So for you theres definately room and possily even 1 or 3 more!!!

I think the lilac idea is fantastic (btw, I voted on your names, I went for Liberty as it means freedom doesn't it, maybe freedom from gd) or was there Lilly on the list, she could be your 'little Lilly Lilac' thats beyond special isn't it!!

How old is your eldest? You may well find that the baby stage isn't ready to let you go yet, no matter who's in there

[atomic sagebrush]

He/she is BEAUTIFUL! What a perfect little face! ♥♥♥

[Lilac♥]

8lilpigs- Yes I knew you had 3 boys as well as the 5 girls. That's insane that you have 3 to 4 people in each room. Our rooms in this house aren't big enough to do that. Well actually they are since we are doing it, but not comfortably. Right now we have the 3 older girls in one room (all 4 were in that room but it wasn't working out and still really isn't with the 3) and me, DH, and our 2 year old are in another room. Which is sad since we have another huge room just sitting there empty, but my DH has never finished the sheetrock work on it to paint it and move the girls in like we had planned on so we are making this work for now. We have a 4th bedroom downstairs, but right now that's where we keep all our clothes and linens and laundry and it's where we get dressed. It's easier to have everyone upstairs together. But we've been trying to sell this house for years, and now we want to list it again as a short sale just so we can get out of here and move on with our lives and plans. But we are dragging our feet even though our mortgage payments are outrageous and my husband hates his job and has to drive an hour one way commute just to have the job. Anyways, if we do short sale our house we may end up in a 3-4 bedroom trailer while my husband goes back to college and we try to live off of nothing.

I just took Liberty off the list, as well as some others I decided we'd probably never go with. I already have a daughter named Lily, she's the other L in LILAC. Right now I'm leaning towards Laney, with Lorelei in 2nd.

My oldest is almost 8. And I'm only 28 and DH is 32. So yeah, we are still a very young family. And there's no reason why we have to be done having kids. Other than that only 8 of us will fit in our Suburban and I don't want to have to get something bigger than that. So we could have one more at the most. And I don't like the idea of 5 girls and 1 boy, and 6 girls would be even worse. I really don't want to go through another pregnancy unless there was some guarantee of a boy, that is if I could get used to the idea of 1 boy after 5 girls. But I know we would never really do anything high tech. That's why I've come to the conclusion that we should just be done. I'm too scared at this point to consider any permanent birth control though, so it's not like the door will be completely closed for a while and maybe never. I might end up going through menopause before I'm infertile.

[Lilac♥]

He/she is BEAUTIFUL! What a perfect little face! ♥♥♥

Thanks! I agree the baby is beautiful. The scan was a lot of fun, seeing all of her little parts and hearing that she is so healthy and everything is measuring and looking great. I'm glad for another healthy little one, and I'm very blessed in that aspect.

[ELP]

I think your right to not do anything permanant, maybe meet your new little one, have at least a year or two without any kind of pregnancy or b/f haze about you, get the house finished!, sold!, move closer to Dh's work so you can both have less stress and he can spend more relaxing times with you and the kids, then see what the future holds for you all, if its more children then so be it, if its a nice holiday somewhere then even more fun!!!