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February 6th, 2013, 09:17 AM
#1
very very bad gender disappointment
Today my friend text me then plastered it on fb she was having a girl . I knew she was going for a scan today she already has 2 of each . Anyways I thought this would happen I knew it I have 3 boys and was desperate for a girl with my last.
Since finding out I have avioded her dh pick kids up for me and I never resopnded to text and having liked or posted at all. I just wan`t to protect myself its too painful, I don`t how I`m going to handle it I can`t pretend to be jumping for joy but I don`t wan`t to come off spiteful. I just don`t know what to do , I can`t avoid her forever but she will see through me if I fakely say how wonderful blah blah I have just gone into protection mode atm. PLEASE HELP
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February 6th, 2013, 09:35 AM
#2
I'm so sorry! I know how hard it is, but you don't want to punish her for it or allow it to ruin your friendship. I don't know how to make it easier. Maybe just like one of her facebook comments and leave it at that. That way you don't have to actually talk about it but you at least acknowledge her and wont come off as spiteful. I truly know how you feel as I am sure this baby will end up being a boy too and it is my last. I will end up with 4 boys. My SIL has two girls, and I have a really hard time being around them, I can't even hold the baby girl it is too hard for me. I cannot go to any girl baby showers, because the one I did go to once (my SIL's) I left in the middle of it in tears.
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February 6th, 2013, 09:56 AM
#3
thanks for the quick reply hun its the pain that people don`t understand I am sitting here nearly in tears and I know I`m not the only women out there that has this problem . ATM I just feeling like posting nasty things not necessarily at her I`m not like tha but , like well I`m looking after number one now or is`nt life a bitch or some people click there fingers and get everything what they wan`t lol. But I have stopped myself don`t worth the heart ache after wards. Its funny but someone posted well you got what u wan`ted another wee Lassy , well she was telling me she prefer having a boy if she had to pick. She lied obiovously felt like writing but I thought you wanted a boy but .
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February 6th, 2013, 09:59 AM
#4
only thing is thor what do I say when I see her I would normally see her everyday down the school I don`t wan`t across fake but I will be fake if I say anything towards the situtation very fake at that lol grr.
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February 6th, 2013, 10:04 AM
#5
That is so hard! I don't know what you should do. I wish I had good advice but it would be hard for me too!
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February 6th, 2013, 10:14 AM
#6
oh thanks thor for listening that has helped , with your sister inlaw if you don`t mind me asking how does she react to you not being able to hold the babies and go to the showers etc etc is she very understanding , thats the thing I don`t wan`t to squish her happiness and excitement but it is very hard on me I`m just going to try and keep away another friend suggested I do that I just feel like I need to protect myself xx
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February 6th, 2013, 10:16 AM
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My SIL is very understanding because she has 2 girls, and her DH wants a boy more than anything, so she feels a little GD because she hasn't been able to give him a boy. She is super happy with just girls but he is not. She knows how badly I want a girl so she is quite sensitive to the whole situation.
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February 6th, 2013, 10:27 AM
#8
My SIL is very understanding because she has 2 girls, and her DH wants a boy more than anything, so she feels a little GD because she hasn't been able to give him a boy. She is super happy with just girls but he is not. She knows how badly I want a girl so she is quite sensitive to the whole situation.
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February 6th, 2013, 10:32 AM
#9
that does make it eaiser well I really hope you have your little girl , another reason why it is extremely hard it is over for me no more three little boys that is it and i`m trying to move on but extremely hard when this happens xx
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February 6th, 2013, 05:13 PM
#10
So sorry you're going through this. I'm pregnant with a 3rd boy. I'm just faking it til I make it, acting like I'm really happy. I just don't want anyone to feel sorry for me. I just try to focus on my own family, loving the children I have, rather than the children I don't have, and try not to think about other people's children or family make up.
Hugs to you!
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