"There is something that I have to tell you"

[NYFamilyOfFiveRoses]

This old friend I had that lived in the borough I used to live in seems she only gets in contact with me to tell me that she is pregnant. She also has 2 girls as far as I know.

She claims she lost her phone a few times so lost my number.

Well now I moved and I cut contact with her. It is not worth me keeping in contact with somebody I never see.

So now she decides to e-mail me and wants my phone #. I told her that I am going through depression and my GD and me having a 3rd girl etc.

Long story short on today's e-mail she tells me how much she loves me and she has something to tell me but does not know if she should tell me or not.

Now what would you think? I think it is either that she is pregnant with a boy or has a son already?

Am I nuts or would you think that she had the same news?

I do not mean to be mean but I have another pg friend right now that has a son already and it is hard enough for me to find out what she will be having but I am trying my best and she went through a bad loss. I do not see her often though.

I just do not get why this girl always wants to contact me if she is pregnant. And her knowing about my GD and how upset I was over a 3rd girl if she does have a son or is pg with a boy I think that she should just stop the e-mails. She does not need to be in contact with me for any reason. We went our separate ways.

I told her on so many e-mails about what I talk about on these boards and for her to come out now and tell me about a son etc. would rip me.

Like I said it is enough and very hard but with my other friend I will deal with what she has even if she does get a girl after her son. But that is enough for me to handle.

I do not need this person to deal with also. I hope that I am making sense.

With the GD I find that I am not friends with too many people that have the same exact situation that I have and then get their boy or their girl. It is just too painful for me.

Am I jumping the gun, what else can she possibly have to tell me?

Plus today is my dd3s 1 year old B.D. and I do not need this.

She makes it out to be like she just wants to chit chat but it is always something like pregnancy.

Also I was in such a good mood today because I found out that maybe if I do HT that the drugs will be somewhat covered.

I do not know if I should just not open or read any more e-mails just in case it is that news or what I should do to protect my feelings.

[purplepoet20]

Sounds like she has news but it is not worth talking if she really only contacts you once in a great while to tell you about a baby or being preg..... it is very easy to block people on emails, instant message, and even facebook. For your happiness it may be best to just block her.

I am sorry you are having a hard time but it is your DD3 birthday so make it a good day for your family....

[NYFamilyOfFiveRoses]

Sounds like she has news but it is not worth talking if she really only contacts you once in a great while to tell you about a baby or being preg..... it is very easy to block people on emails, instant message, and even facebook. For your happiness it may be best to just block her.

I am sorry you are having a hard time but it is your DD3 birthday so make it a good day for your family....

When she initially contacted me I told her that I had dd3 and all about the GD etc. etc. She did not have news back then so I do not know.

And I agree I may have to just not read the e-mails. I can push them to spam.

But should I read the next e-mail? Or from now and so forth read none? Not sure.

Are you going to try HT also? Kewl.
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I just got an e-mail back from her wishing my dd3 happy bd. But when I wrote the e-mail back to her I explained that most of my depression came from GD because I did not have a son and when I found out dd3 was a girl I even thought of aborting, but I was never able to go through with it. There were many tears. I looked at a website on aborting and I got so sick and I cried and cried and I continued to carry the pregnancy. I love my dd3 more than anything. But when we tell others we had GD or we were upset over the gender they just do not know how deep it can go. Especially on the extreme GD boards on IG.

So anyway she did not mention anything on her last e-mail other than happy B.D. So I am thinking either boy or a pregnancy or something.

From here on in I will not read any other of her e-mails for my own protection I think. My husband even told me so for my own protection. It is not because I am mean, a baby or selfish. It is just pain I cannot deal with if it is true. And especially her not being somebody really in my life.

I do not want to block her e-mail though because then she will get an e-mail back saying this user cannot receive e-mails from you. I did that once to another girl because I did not want contact with her anymore because of other reasons and I regretted just not not reading the e-mails. It is so hard though to see e-mails in your box and just not read them until they fall out of your spam folder. I wish there was an easier way to block people without it being so harch. I have AOL.

Sorry for rambling.

[TTC5]

I would have the exact same thoughts as you that she has had or is having, a boy.

[lovehugs]

My BF from school has 3 girls... it's not her fault!

[NYFamilyOfFiveRoses]

I just read back on some of the old e-mails and there was one line in one of them that said can I have your number I will text you and I promise I will not call but when is a good time to talk to you because I have to talk to you or something to that effect.

She knows how I was since #2.

I just have such a feeling it is that and I think the best thing for me to do is not read the e mails any more. What will I gain out of it. If it is true, I will be hurt #1. And #2, I am not up to getting together with her even if this is not true.

We lost contact for so long then she decides to e-mail me.

Like even say if she were just pregnant, I would not want to keep in contact with her for 9 months when I lost contact with her for so long.

And people do not realize with 3 kids, I do not have time to yip yap on the phone.

Gee it is such a shame that today is dd3s bd and this.

My dh and the older girls just went out to get her cake, presents etc. When they come back, I have to snap out of this.

[mybluepilot]

Happy birthday to your alitte princess I am sorry you are going through this. I would just block her COMPLETELY

[NYFamilyOfFiveRoses]

I just reread an e-mail that I sent to her, and since she contacted me in January of this year, I had a feeling it was because of a pregnancy or something.

So on one of my last e-mails I said to her "would you be okay with 3 girls". I said this being she has 2 girls already. And I said do you want any more children?

Then the e-mail after that that she wrote back to me said "You know that I love you and I have to tell you something, but I do not know if I should ".............. and something else that was a typo.

So now that I just put that all together, it has to be that right?

She probably wants to tell me that she had a boy or is having a boy.

If it were a girl, she would say it without a probelm.

The only other thing I can think of is just that she is pregnant and does not know the gender maybe.

I would like to leave it this way though and the unknown will be better for me to deal with.

So from this point on I have to not open and read her e-mails and not be tempted to open them even if I am in a great mood for the day.

[Bambina]

It sounds like she's kind of teasing you with her 'news', which is not very nice, and I would block her to protect yourself.

[ELP]

I reckon she's definately pregnant adn is going to ask you if she should find out or not knowing that you are the only other person she knows maybe with an honest gender preference. She will most definately get a boy, they always do, so maybe even send her an email saying that if it is pregnancy related you do not want to know, harsh maybe but honest