Found out we're having our third boy

[2xblue]

Thank you Raezodal. I wouldn't change my boys for anything either. They are my whole world. But still there is a place in my heart for a daughter... I just have this feeling that she's waiting for us somewhere. I actually had a talk with dh few days ago. He saw something was wrong and I just had to tell him. First he said he is absolutely done having kids. No more. He said if I want to have more kids we had to get divorce. I was devastated. I didn't know what to do. I don't want to break our family because I want to have a girl. Dh said I'm being so selfish and why I can't be happy what we got already. I hate gd and I wish I felt complete with our family but I don't. We talked again a couple days later and after a lot of tears we decided after 5 years we will see if dh would agree on 4th. He said he's not promising anything. I also told him that I have a very strong desire for a girl right now but who knows how I feel after 5 years. Maybe I will feel happy and complete, who knows. But right now I feel optimistic about the future and maybe, just maybe, we can try HT for a girl someday.

[Dreams4Violet]

Hi 2xblue and all others, I just joined this site as I just found out this weekend that I'm pregnant with my third son. My heart feels broken and I am devastated. I am thinking about calling a counselor because I feel so awful. Since finding out, the one thing that is giving me hope is that there is HT options. My husband didn't even want a third so I know he will refuse. I just feel like this was my last chance. I just wanted to say you are all not alone. I feel so much guilt for feeling this way but don't know how to stop.
Also, 2xblue, Congrats on the birth of your baby!!!'


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[2xblue]

Dreams4Violet, you are exactly in the same position as me. Third boy, dh didn't even want to have a third and dreaming about HT. I really hope you will feel better. I feel much better now that he is here, the pregnancy was the worst part. But I still want to have a daughter. Counselor might be really helpful.
And thank you, he is a lovely boy.

[Dreams4Violet]

2x blue, we do sound like we have a lot in common. Thank you for the words of encouragement! I can't wait for my baby to be here- I know once I see his face and hold him I will love him exactly as he is. I also think I will still long for a daughter though. My husband has already scheduled a vasectomy consultation for November . I want to try and get him to at least cancel this. I like your compromise with your husband to revisit the idea of a fourth child in a few years. In a few years, I may not still long for a daughter like I do now. I may feel content and complete with my three boys then- I actually hope and pray that does happen because I hate feeling like this! I also can't imagine going through with HT but I know 100% that I would need to go that route if I were to ever have another baby.


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[Magical22]

Hi 2x blue I just wanted to add also that your not alone, I found out last week I'm having DS3. We tried HT in the US this year and where unsuccessful we fell a month later and have DS3 on the way. I pushed and pushed for this third Bub and to try for a daughter so I know I can't push no more. I'm sorry your going through this but your definitely not alone. Hugs


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[Magical22]

2x blue, we do sound like we have a lot in common. Thank you for the words of encouragement! I can't wait for my baby to be here- I know once I see his face and hold him I will love him exactly as he is. I also think I will still long for a daughter though. My husband has already scheduled a vasectomy consultation for November . I want to try and get him to at least cancel this. I like your compromise with your husband to revisit the idea of a fourth child in a few years. In a few years, I may not still long for a daughter like I do now. I may feel content and complete with my three boys then- I actually hope and pray that does happen because I hate feeling like this! I also can't imagine going through with HT but I know 100% that I would need to go that route if I were to ever have another baby.


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My husband is also pushing for a V, I think he's booking in soon.
I just need Bub in my arms so I can fall head over heels in love with him


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[2xblue]

Dreams4Violet, before I asked dh to try for a third child he said he would like to get a vasectomy done. I was really against it. And the annoying part was that my mil said many times he should get the vasectomy done! It's not her bisness at all. Dreams4Violet, I would definitely ask your dh to cancel the vasectomy. Maybe you can ask him the same as me, revisit the idea of a 4th child after 5 years? For me ht feels a bit scary but that is the only way to go for me too if we are ever going to try for a 4th. I'm sure we would have another boy and I couldn't go through this horrible gd again.

Magical, I remember you! Were we on the same 2ww thread? Congrats on your pregnancy! How are you feeling that the baby is a boy? I am really sorry that ht didn't work for you.

[Magical22]

Dreams4Violet, before I asked dh to try for a third child he said he would like to get a vasectomy done. I was really against it. And the annoying part was that my mil said many times he should get the vasectomy done! It's not her bisness at all. Dreams4Violet, I would definitely ask your dh to cancel the vasectomy. Maybe you can ask him the same as me, revisit the idea of a 4th child after 5 years? For me ht feels a bit scary but that is the only way to go for me too if we are ever going to try for a 4th. I'm sure we would have another boy and I couldn't go through this horrible gd again.

Magical, I remember you! Were we on the same 2ww thread? Congrats on your pregnancy! How are you feeling that the baby is a boy? I am really sorry that ht didn't work for you.

Yes we where

I'm 14 weeks today actually

I was gutted but day by day I'm getting better I just need him in my arms, I'm excited to meet him.


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[2xblue]

Happy to hear that you are feeling better. How old are your sons?

[Magical22]

Happy to hear that you are feeling better. How old are your sons?

2 and 5


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