Thread: This CAN'T be another girl
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April 14th, 2012, 06:59 AM #1
This CAN'T be another girl
...but it is....I don't know how to deal with it. Right now I feel ready to give her up for adoption ( but DH would never allow that )
I'm lying to everybody I don't know the gender yet.
Life would be so perfect if this was my , but NO...why did I ever expect to have my baby boy when I know I'm a loser and a failure?
I swayed the best I could, maybe I should have done more weights or drink more green tea, but everything else was covered. What went wrong?
I'm thinking to try for #4, but I'm petrified when I think of another girl.
I'm devastated. I hope it will go away. I was never supposed to be mom to 3 girls, this is such a terrible mistake.
I'm sorry, had to write it somewhere, noone has to answer as there's nothing that will turn this girl to a boy.m/c 2001
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April 14th, 2012, 07:09 AM #2
Im sorry you are feeling this way. Big hugs. You know that you will fall in love when you meet her.
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April 14th, 2012, 07:10 AM #3Moderator
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April 14th, 2012, 07:18 AM #4
I'm sorry you're feeling down. GD is a pain... even though I don't have it anymore, the memories and the pain are still fresh (had GD with DS1 & 2). You did do a good sway, it's just that fate has given you another daughter. Three beautiful lovely girls who will grow up to be fabulous ladies.
I know it's sounds heartbreaking right now, but in year from now you will look back and feel happy that she has joined your family.
Trust me, these feelings will pass and even if you don't bond with your baby straight away you will love her! (I admit it took me some time to bond properly with Ds2 after birth and now he's my sweetest boy).
You are NOT a failure! Please don't ever think that Zivic. I love seeing you post very much, and you're a wonderful lady.
Vent away dear, we've got your back.'04 '07 '10
After ages of praying for a sister for DD, I am proud to announce the birth of my twin baby GIRLS born Oct 31st.
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April 14th, 2012, 07:22 AM #5
I don't know if this will make you feel better but my mum had 3 girls and so far has 7 grandsons!! Lots of hugs, xxxxxxx
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April 14th, 2012, 07:36 AM #6IVF Advice Coach
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I've so been there. All I can tell you is that it will get better. I promise it does. It's so hard when they are all little to see the rainbow for the rain but it will appear one day.
It may not be what we planned but happiness is about a choice. I hope when the sun smiles on your face that you can find a way to embrace it. I hope that you don't let this temporary setback keep you from fulfilling your purpose and living the life you were meant to live.
It will get better. I so know where you are right now. Big hugs your way.Mom to
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April 14th, 2012, 07:37 AM #7Moderator
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So sorry your sad ZB I wish this was your little man for you but this little lady has sneaked intoy our lives instead, and as PP's have said, in a years time life would feel so empty without her, we just have to see you through until then, major hugs being sent to youxxxxxx
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April 14th, 2012, 08:28 AM #8
Big hugs! Many of us have been there. So sorry you're feeling down, but like everyone says, it does get better.
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Cycle #1 @ HRC, March 2012: Pretesting FSH 5.7, AMH 2, AFC 19. 7 eggs retrieved, 6 fertilized & to GSN, 2 normal XY, 1 normal XX. Transferred 1XX. 1st beta 9 5dp5dt, 2nd beta 777 12dp5dt, 3rd beta 2823 15dp5dt. 124 at 6w6d (2 large SCHs seen). DD born 3 days overdue - December 2012.
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April 14th, 2012, 10:05 AM #9
I am So Sorry Z, you are down, You know i think every women is dealing with this GD every day, Atleast i am, I am not at all enjoying this pregnancy, thinking this might be my second girl. I always thought i would have a boy first & then girl & will have a perfect family. But things never go as planned right. i am sure you will love ur little girl as you hold her in ur arms.
I am sure god will get ur boy one day. Can u consider HT at some point.
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April 14th, 2012, 10:23 AM #10
Sorry you are down! The feeling will fade in time.
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