Why I want a Girl/Boy Article

[nuthinbutpink]

Hi everyone who read this!

I am interested in writing an article to post on the main .com page that would be Tweeted and posted on FB.

I am looking for anyone(more than one is great) that is willing to write a brief explanation of why they are swaying for a boy or girl to increase awareness of Gender Desire.

If anyone is interested, you can simply reply to this thread OR PM me if you do not want your name associated with it- I will not include usernames in the article but I thought it might be a good idea for a thread regardless of what I do with it...sometimes it's good to get it out!

So, why do you dream of a boy or girl to raise?

[4devochki]

1. I want some boy energy to balance the highly emotionally charged interactions of our 4 girls; I want them to have a brother to love, to be used to men;
2. It's a childhood dream of mine, growing up in a house with 3 sisters, that I would raise a little boy and do sports, science fairs, monster truck games (!)--all the boyish things my old-fashioned parents didn't encourage in their girls (my girls do many of them, though);
3. Little boys, pre-teen boys, teenagers--they are so adorable! There is something so poignant about the child finding his way to become a good man (though the path from girlhood to womanhood is also very poignant). I guess I like men!
4. I want my husband to have a guy to bond with (he says he doesn't care); I'd like to see how the manly qualities I so admire in him might be translated or adapted in our son (even a non-biological, adopted son who would grow like him through nurturance).
5. Though I know there's no way to predict or guarantee what your relationship with any of your children will be like, it seems to me that the mothers and sons I know do have a special bond. Girls, bless their hearts, can be so *mad* at mom all the time (though we always make up)!

[nuthinbutpink]

It doesn't have to just those swaying either...any HT gals that care to post, please do! We all have the same goal no matter our paths.

[nuthinbutpink]

Bump:-)

[4devochki]

really, am I the only dork who obsesses over my reasons non-stop?

[4devochki]

really, am I the only dork who obsesses over my reasons non-stop?

The answer seems to be yes!!!

[cravingsalt]

Just saw this. Not sure if you've seen it but I started a similar thread last year. Check it out, it may be able to help you. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/chit...er-anyway.html

And 4dev- this thread is strangely quiet but I think the answer is definitely not!! I was very angsty all last year over this. Ten months ttc later and I really just want another baby so I can be done building my family and move on.

[inshaallahxx]

really, am I the only dork who obsesses over my reasons non-stop?

No your not. I have been quite obsessive.

[inshaallahxx]

I have two boys and a step-son. I have always wanted a girl. With my second I cried.
Reasons:
1. I had such a wonderful relationship with my mother.
2. I feel out numbered.
3. My boys are mommas boys, I would love my hubby to experience a father daughter relationship.
3. I truly don't know so much I just know the desire is there and immensely strong. It's all I think about some days.

I feel like somethings wrong with me

[rainbowflower]

I'm one of 4 girls and have always wanted daughters for as long as I can remember. I probably want for my children what I had myself. I loved having 3 sisters and we're all really close.

I think maternal grandparents have more involvement and closer bonds with grandchildren than paternal ones. I'd also like to help my children with any pregnancies and babies they have, and I think if you are the MIL not the mother you can be seen to be interfering/annoying/pushed out/unnecessary

I have some heirlooms I want to pass on to a daughter that a boy wouldn't appreciate (jewellery, wedding dress, baby memory boxes, etc), but I guess if I get any granddaughters they could have them instead. Wouldn't be quite the same, but still!

I think I'm very girly. I love crafts, making things, baking etc. I love making pretty things and I think a girl would probably appreciate sparkly/flowery things more than my boys would
I think I'd be a better mum to girls than I am to boys, although my DS1 does enjoy helping me with baking so far.

it sounds silly, but I'd feel more feminine if I had a daughter. I feel like I must be quite masculine to get boys and, whilst I love them deeply and wouldn't change them, in a small way it does make me feel self conscious.

finally, my shallow reasons - I'd love to be able to buy (or make) pretty clothes for a DD, and to not have to have her hair cut in order to conform like boys do


Whilst I know it's all personality-dependent and a daughter doesn't guarantee those things, I might end up with a tomboy daughter who hates girly things and never wants children, it would still give me a chance of having a daughter I can have a close bond and more similar interests with.