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February 5th, 2015, 06:10 PM
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Dream Vet
Mixed feelings/ should I be swaying
So I'm not even pregnant but I keep imagining how I would feel when I find out the gender and this how I think I will feel.
I have one DS ( who is the love of my life) and thought it would be nice to have a girl since my bf and sister all have girls and it would be cool to have a girl.
We will be only having 2 so one of each would be nice.
But when I think to when I do found out what the gender is and it's a girl I feel like I would feel very guilty for not wanting to have another son ( since the first one is so amazing).
And probably if I do get a boy I will probably have a bit of GD.
So what's wrong with me?
Does it mean I shouldn't be swaying?
So confused with all my emotions right now.
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February 5th, 2015, 06:14 PM
#2
Dream Vet
I think your feelings are perfectly normal. I had a bit of guilt after swaying for DD1. It is not that you don't want to have another son, it is that you want to experience having a daughter. It says nothing about the love you have for your son. Don't worry.
Saying that though, I think it is very important that you follow your heart.
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February 5th, 2015, 07:49 PM
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Big Dreamer
I feel the same way. As much as I want a girl, I feel like I will miss the son that I didn't have..I think that's why swaying is good. We are swaying the odds for our favor but will be ok with a boy..if it's meant to be
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February 5th, 2015, 07:52 PM
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Dream Vet
well said smarston
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February 6th, 2015, 02:04 AM
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I suffered terrible GD with DS 2 so knew I needed to sway for number three to at least feel like I tried to up the odds a wee bit. I think its totally normal to be feeling the way you are, its confusing and I'm not going to lie to you, swaying can be an emotional rollercoaster! But its been a fantastic journey for me I have met some amazing people on this site and my dream has come true with my first DD! Good luck only you know what is the right decision for yourself X
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February 6th, 2015, 02:03 PM
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Swaying Advice Coach
I think a lot of people feel this way!!
I think you're actually in the best position (provided you can keep it in perspective and not let the GD get rolling). Yes, it's cool to have a girl but 2 boys is also really awesome. I personally think boys should come in pairs like shoes because 2 boys go together so good.
We sometimes lose sight of it around here but there are a good number of people who have 2 boys or 2 girls and are done and are cool with that. I had these friends who had a boy and then they said, "we're having one more, and we're naming it Jordan whether it's a boy or a girl, and then we're done and that's that." The name Jordan was more important to them than having a boy and a girl was. They really just didn't care at all!!
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February 7th, 2015, 09:02 PM
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Dream Vet
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February 8th, 2015, 10:40 AM
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Swaying Advice Coach
Thanks Hotdogz!!! Getting close now!!!
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February 9th, 2015, 12:56 PM
#9
Dream Vet
Thanks for all the thoughtful replies.
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