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October 5th, 2018, 02:08 PM #131
You wrote: Women who are in short term, whirlwind relationships that may not be fully committed tend to have more sex in the short term than committed couples do, and so frequent intercourse may also signal the body that a girl offspring conceived during the haze of a fledgling relationship would have a better shot at survival, because the male has not proved himself to be a good protector/provider at that point. Our bodies may “know” on some subconscious level, that intercourse every 2-4 days may mean that a father is around to provide meat and protection to our sons.
My doubt: we had almost no physical association except ttc fertile period and both of our girls were conceived in one attempt by Lord's grace. Since this time we want to try in swaying blue, I want to know how many months or weeks should we intercourse (2-4 days) to make my body know that my DH is the protector, father etc before ttc?
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October 6th, 2018, 01:16 PM #132Swaying Advice Coach
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None of these things are proven and all are just speculation. Please don't get too hung up on them.
What I would do is just have regular unprotected sex when you're not fertile, as far in advance of your sway as is feasible. You don't want to get pregnant just yet (I'm assuming) so you can accomplist that just by avoding your fertile period and having regualr unprotected sex before and after ovulation.
I have no set amount of weeks or months to do this for, just as far in advance as you can. Both before and after your fertile period. When you're not TTC then just avoid the fertile period but do still have unprotected sex. This is what many of us with all boys do - when we're not fertile, we have unprotected sex and then use protection when fertile, as birth control method.!!! Questions?? Check out the NEW and improved Complete Index !!!
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October 12th, 2018, 10:06 PM #133
Great _ thanks for that, was going to ask
Still haven’t got a cycle back so no idea when and even if fertile so for now, it’s condoms every time, but once I get my cycle back, will aim for this...
Is it worth adding a spermicide ordoes that defeat the purpose?
I want to wait for dd3 to be at least 18 m.o (and in any event at least fully weaned from breast for at least 6+ months) before we ttc...so my cycles will likely return before we ttc,and need to avoid a pregnancy whilst gearing up for swaying and’ ttc. Since O can be elusive, if spermicide isn’t good, what would be best? I d be freaking out about a potential oops if O came early etc hahaLucky Mummy to 4 sweet divas
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Our sway didn’t work for #3 & we had a little oops for #4 but we love them all to bits... not sure if we ever will but somehow hoping we might add blue to the crew, to complete our family, one day...
Fingers crossed for TTC #5 (again) for early 2024!
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October 14th, 2018, 03:08 PM #134Swaying Advice Coach
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I suspect spermicide residue sways pink and we played around with the idea for a few months for pink sways. We ended up dropping it not because it didn't work, but because no one got pregnant with it. It feels risky to me and I"d have u use just condoms with condom safe lube like KY. If you're worried about potential oops, I'd skip fertile days.
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October 15th, 2018, 04:52 AM #135
Thanks’ Atomic!
Might just chart for a few months once my AF returns to have a good idea of O/fertile days...and going unprotected during non fertile days, then condoms when potentially fertile. I guess that would still give some exposure to DHs sperm before we actually are TTCing so good for blue wasn’t keen on temping etc too early ahead because it’s a pain but may be the best option still :PLucky Mummy to 4 sweet divas
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Our sway didn’t work for #3 & we had a little oops for #4 but we love them all to bits... not sure if we ever will but somehow hoping we might add blue to the crew, to complete our family, one day...
Fingers crossed for TTC #5 (again) for early 2024!
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October 15th, 2018, 03:57 PM #136Swaying Advice Coach
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Yes if you're worried you won't recognize the fertility signs around O, that's a-ok! That is what soo many of us with all boys did,myself included. We never used protection except around O!
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October 16th, 2018, 07:27 AM #137
I’m so used to being not fertile but not risking it this time lol having said that, mucus was so scarce even with this last babe (abd only natural pregnancy and super quick caption), it’s not enough for me to have enough warning as my peak comes and goes abruptly so not much « lead time » from post AF/dry (non fertile) to watery/EW...so better safe than sorry as could put me in fertile’ without realising it soon enough hehe
Thanks againLucky Mummy to 4 sweet divas
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Our sway didn’t work for #3 & we had a little oops for #4 but we love them all to bits... not sure if we ever will but somehow hoping we might add blue to the crew, to complete our family, one day...
Fingers crossed for TTC #5 (again) for early 2024!
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October 17th, 2018, 12:11 PM #138Swaying Advice Coach
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I totally understand and that's how I got my 4th (BOY!) is that I had so little CM while breastfeeding I did not even realize I was ovulating. I've had more realistic false ovulations than that real ovulation was! Ha ha!
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October 22nd, 2018, 07:43 PM #139
Thanks
Hubs is nit keen on condom if he can avoid it, so he’ll be happy to oblige hahaLucky Mummy to 4 sweet divas
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Our sway didn’t work for #3 & we had a little oops for #4 but we love them all to bits... not sure if we ever will but somehow hoping we might add blue to the crew, to complete our family, one day...
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December 3rd, 2018, 09:50 PM #140
I was just trying to read through some of this. If I understood correctly, I can BD with pullout method before our one attempt, as long as it’s at least 4-5 days before and after our attempt. Is this correct?
I really only wanted to do one attempt total (without any other BD at all in the cycle, even if it is pullout) but my DH refuses to only have one BD the whole cycle. He says it’s destroying our marriage and makes him feel unwanted/unloved it doesn’t help that he doesn’t believe in swaying and he would be just as happy with another boy. So, I was hoping we could BD maybe a few times in the cycle, but all pullout except our actual attempt. We have used pullout as birth control for the past 8 years and it has prevented pregnancy.
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