when/how did you decide to go HT?

[gizmo77]

wondering if those of you who have tried or are thinking about HT, have you tried swaying 1st? or went straight to HT. and what happened that made you decide HT?

[nuthinbutpink]

I never knew about swaying.

After 3 of a kind, I no longer was okay with just another baby. I wanted a son or no baby at all. After 3 kids, I wanted a guarantee and I could financially afford it so it was a relief when I learned of HT. No decision process involved at all when it came to whether it was the right thing for me.

[deaks66]

I feel the same as nuthin except as you know I swayed with the bubs I am carrying. HT next time or nothing at all.

[gizmo77]

but once you found out about HT, NBP, didnt you come across swaying and think to try that 1st? (least restrictive method 1st). and NBP, are you done with kids?

deaks, you wouldnt try swaying again? maybe tweak this or that? ;-)
deaks, will you be done after your HT baby?

[nuthinbutpink]

but once you found out about HT, NBP, didnt you come across swaying and think to try that 1st? (least restrictive method 1st). and NBP, are you done with kids?

deaks, you wouldnt try swaying again? maybe tweak this or that? ;-)
deaks, will you be done after your HT baby?

Least restrictive method=no guarantee! I already had 3 children. You just have one with one on the way. Had I found out about swaying with number 2 I absolutely would have tried that first. I would have done HT for number 3 had I known about it but obviously don't regret anything now.

I do not want any more kids. 4 is plenty!!!

The fact that you would even ask the question that way makes me feel that you are okay with another girl(#3) if swaying doesn't work and maybe then you could try HT OR swaying works and you get your boy with #3. I just had no tolerance for chance anymore.

[glory]

I swayed for all of mine, I didn't mind how many boys I had but I wanted at least one girl, the first 2 sways were more timing, some diet, but the third was as full on sway as I knew how (I never knew of sites like this and there is so much more you can do to sway). So when we decided one more try, HT is it.

Of course I would never take back ds3, he is my joy A true gift, but if I knew it was so hard to go HT the older you got, I probably would have done it then.

[deaks66]

but once you found out about HT, NBP, didnt you come across swaying and think to try that 1st? (least restrictive method 1st). and NBP, are you done with kids?

deaks, you wouldnt try swaying again? maybe tweak this or that? ;-)
deaks, will you be done after your HT baby?

No i couldn't possibly sway again... it was torture, took me a year, 2 chemicals and no success with gender at the end. In some respects i wish we had skipped swaying and gone HT for dc3, but that feeling is fading as i get more and more excited out ds3 arriving. I guess if HT doesn't work i possibly would have to consider going au naturel for one more shot at a dd but i really doubt i'd risk it. And no, there wouldn't be anymore kids after my 4th!

[RedCanoe]

I debated going HT for #3 as we only wanted 3 kids and wanted a girl. In the end, after a lot of research, I scared myself out of it (the drugs, possibility of losing all that money, etc) and decided to sway. Got DS3. No regrets, he's awesome, but I don't really want 4 kids. Problem is I still very much want a girl. So it was HT for a girl or move on. Decided we could live with 4 kids if #4 was a girl, so we went HT.

[gizmo77]

Least restrictive method=no guarantee! I already had 3 children. You just have one with one on the way. Had I found out about swaying with number 2 I absolutely would have tried that first. I would have done HT for number 3 had I known about it but obviously don't regret anything now.

I do not want any more kids. 4 is plenty!!!

The fact that you would even ask the question that way makes me feel that you are okay with another girl(#3) if swaying doesn't work and maybe then you could try HT OR swaying works and you get your boy with #3. I just had no tolerance for chance anymore.

actually i have 2 girls with one on the way (im currently pg with #3 a girl). i guess i kinda always heard about HT but thought it was unethical/unGodly, esply bc i heard of mostly celebs doing it. but the more i heard about non-celebs doing it i guess i convinced myself it wasnt a bad thing. i DO have this lingering feeling in the back of my head tho that ill get punished (by God..in life) for it tho. but there is NO way id sway again. i felt i did it super HARD core and STILL didnt get my DG. and i am defly ok with this pregnancy being a girl but i have to say its bc of this site that has helped to limit my GD. i feel like i failed tho still and i need to have the son i always wanted since day one.
i was just asking to see how your minds got to HT and why ppl wouldnt at 1st try something less expensive and less invasive than PGD. if i only had one girl, i would probably try swaying 1st (didnt know about swaying till after #2). and if #2 was a girl, id probably go HT for #3 and just try again for #4 naturally. (ive always wanted 4 kids..so im glad i found this info out before i tried for #4 on my own!!!!).
oh and yes i am ok NOW with #3 being a girl..initially i always wanted 3B1G or 2B2G. but i tend to convince myself of why things happen the way they do. and since ihave no shot at 2b2g, id be happy with just ONE boy!!!

so for me, its HT or nothing also. i wont try again naturally and risk it.

ps the other thing that "holds me back" SLIGHTLY from PGD is the money...if it doesnt work in the sense that i dont get pg. that would be too huge a disappointment emotionally PLUS financially. theres members on here who spent money on several cycles but with no success of getting pg..and normally they are OHW moms!! how can this be??? so to me..even PGD isnt necessarily "GUARANTEED."

[gizmo77]

I swayed for all of mine, I didn't mind how many boys I had but I wanted at least one girl, the first 2 sways were more timing, some diet, but the third was as full on sway as I knew how (I never knew of sites like this and there is so much more you can do to sway). So when we decided one more try, HT is it.

Of course I would never take back ds3, he is my joy A true gift, but if I knew it was so hard to go HT the older you got, I probably would have done it then.

so it sounds like me...ppl are more likely going for HT bc its their VERY last attempt at a child at all (they dont want anymore children after their HT attempt). thats how i feel..i'd like my 4th and final to be my desired gender if possible.