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September 6th, 2020, 09:44 PM
#1
Big Dreamer
Back and considering ttc for a fifth
Hello all!!! I was here right before I conceived my DD3. Im back after a few years. Here’s my story. Would love any feedback!
Had DD1 without trying on the first month.
We had a miscarriage.
DD2 heard of the shettles method and tried, but couldn’t really work it. Focused on eating more salty like foods and more foods in general. Conceived after hubby got back from several trips for residency interviews.
DD3 I tried a few things including shettles, but again was just not conceiving so stopped that. Conceived after trying for several months. Found this group right before conceiving. I tried some of the tips here before conceiving, but it was only for a month (and now I don’t remember any of them lol).
Dd4 was a complete surprise. Our oops! We thought we were done with 3. She is the best surprise EVER!!
Well, I still have a desire for a son. I’ve longed for a boy since we decided to have babies. I absolutely love and adore my girls of course! Would never trade one in. Whenever I hear of someone having a son though I always feel a bit sad. Am I missing out on something?!
Five sounds INSANE but so did four. Lol I am a personal trainer on the smaller size. I vary between 110-112lbs. I eat small meals often.
Can someone lead me in the right direction for food, exercise, timing, etc? I’m interested in anything that might help if we decide for a fifth. Like I said, I’m not sold on the idea of 5 but my heart still feels like a boy is missing in our family. I feel like he exists. Am I crazy?! Lol
Where I am at right now. Our 4th is 11 months and I am still nursing. I’ve focused on putting on some muscle mass and have already gained 3 lbs in the last 3 months. I am very lean and would like to stay lean just increase my muscle if possible. Lifting 3x p week and cycling (focusing on legs vs heart rate) 2x p week. What else should I focus on right now? How long after nursing should we wait to try? Etc.
Also, is there anyone here with four of the same gender and conceived the opposite? Thanks in advance.
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Daughter of the King
Wife of a Resident
Momma to two beautiful girls
Health coach and personal trainer
Praying for a son
Baby #3 due Oct 2017
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September 7th, 2020, 09:00 AM
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September 7th, 2020, 02:50 PM
#3
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If I remember right you actually had a pretty good sway working for DD3 and then we found out after the fact you were still exercising a lot and using the herbal shakes, right?? (you posted about this in a thread I happen to read through a lot, I promise I'm not cyberstalking you LOL)
The absolute BEST thing you can do is add that muscle. That is GREAT!
Tell me about what an average day of eating looks liek for you. I would say protein and carbs at every meal and snack, as much healthy/saturated fat as you can get without gaining body fat.
When did you stop nursing?? And how close postpartum are you?
Yes I have 4 boys and got my girl, but we have had several people get boys after 4 and even 5 girls as well.
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September 9th, 2020, 09:43 AM
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Big Dreamer
Thank you!! Ahh I remember you as well!!
Thanks atomic! Yes, I am eating something very close to this...
Breakfast within the hour Of waking usually
English muffin + PB + blueberries and 2 eggs
Plant based (with stevia sweetener) meal replacement 24g protein + 24 g carbs
Lunch either a salad with brown rice, a sandwich with multi grain bread and turkey, leftovers
Pistachios with banana or (high protein) yogurt with
Granola or oatmeal with pb and protein powder (this is made with a sucralose sweetener)
Dinner always a protein and carb with veggies
Before bed apple and cookie butter or angie’s popcorn lol making sure i didn’t miss any calories plus a protein shake
I am still using supplements. I take a BCAA, probiotic, 1000 mg omegas, multi with iron and still doing the Spark (vitamin drink with caffeine and sweetened with sucralose). I only do one of those a day.
I’m still nursing the babe. She is 11 months. No period yet.
What should i change or add? And how many months of that before ttc?
I’ve already put on 3lbs in the month but i feel like my acid reflux is acting up since eating more. I hadn’t had this issue in a long.
Anyway... thoughts?? Thank you so much!!
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Daughter of the King
Wife of a Resident
Momma to two beautiful girls
Health coach and personal trainer
Praying for a son
Baby #3 due Oct 2017
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September 12th, 2020, 05:18 AM
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4 daughters how amazing, I say definitely go again why not!
I have 2 sons and after reading lots on this awesome site I believe the main reason I had my two boys was the amount of calories I was eating. I am also very lean but had a large food intake with lots of sugar, salt and meat. I was always snacking and took quite a lot of vitamins. I’m trying for a girl now and have cut my food intake in half!
I hope that helps, sending you all my blue dust if I have any left! All the best, I really hope you get your son xx
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September 13th, 2020, 01:25 AM
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Big Dreamer
Originally Posted by
YesIcan2020
4 daughters how amazing, I say definitely go again why not!
I have 2 sons and after reading lots on this awesome site I believe the main reason I had my two boys was the amount of calories I was eating. I am also very lean but had a large food intake with lots of sugar, salt and meat. I was always snacking and took quite a lot of vitamins. I’m trying for a girl now and have cut my food intake in half!
I hope that helps, sending you all my blue dust if I have any left! All the best, I really hope you get your son xx
Thank you so much for your feedback. I am thinking calories could have something to do with it.
I’m looking forward to hearing more on what atomic thinks. Good luck to you with a girl as well. And yes!! I am so blessed!!!!!
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Daughter of the King
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Momma to two beautiful girls
Health coach and personal trainer
Praying for a son
Baby #3 due Oct 2017
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September 14th, 2020, 04:49 PM
#7
Swaying Advice Coach
I am so sorry I thought I'd answered this but maybe I didn't???
how many grams of protein and fat total?
What all is in the protein and Spark shakes? I have this recollection of there being inositol in one of them, was that right?
I feel like 1000 mg Omegas is too much. when you say Omegas, what kind are they specifically?
I think you'll just have to wait till your cycle resumes, so however long on diet till that happens!
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September 15th, 2020, 11:05 PM
#8
Big Dreamer
I’m honestly not measuring my fat and protein. I am just focusing on a protein every meal and eating about 5-6 meals a day. Every meal has between 15-25g protein. I do a half of an avocado to an entire one once a day. Then nuts and Pb. The omegas I take are 600mg eicosapentaenoic and 400mf docosahexaeonic so total of 1000mg.
There’s no herbs in the meal replacement shakes or spark (vitamin drink with caffeine). What specifics do you need to know?
Also, no timing in waiting after nursing? I thought there was some sort of recommendation in waiting in the past?
Has anything changed with timing of intercourse around ovulation or frequency?
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Momma to two beautiful girls
Health coach and personal trainer
Praying for a son
Baby #3 due Oct 2017
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September 15th, 2020, 11:07 PM
#9
Big Dreamer
Originally Posted by
atomic sagebrush
I am so sorry I thought I'd answered this but maybe I didn't???
how many grams of protein and fat total?
What all is in the protein and Spark shakes? I have this recollection of there being inositol in one of them, was that right?
I feel like 1000 mg Omegas is too much. when you say Omegas, what kind are they specifically?
I think you'll just have to wait till your cycle resumes, so however long on diet till that happens!
Oh and that was it about the shakes and spark. No inositol. I’m not even sure what that is lol.
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Momma to two beautiful girls
Health coach and personal trainer
Praying for a son
Baby #3 due Oct 2017
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September 16th, 2020, 02:58 PM
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I would take the Omegas every other day. We've been seeing better results with only 500 mg daily vs. 1000.
I would like you to be getting more animal fat like butter. You're getting a LOT of vegetable fat, and we want more animal/saturated fat to be coming in than vegetable if at all possible.
Inositol isn't an herb, it's a nutrient. I'd just like to see the nutrient profiles of what is in those shakes.
I prefer you guys wait till 18 months postpartum. I'm fine if you keep nursing though (I've seen too many people wean before they wanted to only to get an opposite anyway) But I understand you may want to try sooner than that.
I still like you guys to be having regular unprotected sex every 2-4 days outside of the fertile window and then 3-5 attempts IN the fertile window. But if you still want to keep timing, you'd have hubby do the release every 2-4 days, and then go for the attempt the night of positive OPK, again that next morning (O Day) and again that following night (O Day) Then have one more attempt the following day (O+1) just to be on the safe side and then go to every other day a couple rounds. That way i you end up with a delayed ovulation you're still covered.
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