Think I'm out. :(

[1moregirl]

If you look at my chart my BbT went down slightly this morning, plus I did a First Response HPT and got a BFN. Not even a hint of a second line. Last year with my BFP cycle I had a BFP on the day of 9DPO so I've pretty much given up. I'm just worried now that maybe I have got Asherman's Syndrome but am going to make an appointment with thwt Ob/gyn specialist I have a referral for. I just have this instinct that something is up and I remember a doctor telling me last year that a D & C can cause scarring that makes you unable to conceive. I'm just feeling angry and empty. I can't begin to imagine what women with no children and years of ttc and infertility go through. I really thought I'd nailed it this time round. Maybe DH is taking some form of contraception? lol! But being so anti-baby there is no way he would go and get his swimmers checked.

[essnce629]

My best friend swayed for a girl and then gave up after her miscarriage and D&C at 12 weeks. She then had 2 more early miscarriages within a year. After the third miscarriage she saw a RE and they did a hysteroscopy (looking inside the uterus with a camera). The RE found several adhesions and lots of inflammation, which she said was from the D&C a year prior. She broke up the adhesions manually (which my friend said was so painful she was screaming) and she was also put on a strong course of antibiotics. My friend sat out that cycle to allow the antibiotics to run their course and allow the inflammation to go down, but she got pregnant the following cycle after the hysteroscopy. She is currently 38 weeks pregnant with a girl. She started swaying in October 2013 and she's just now getting her baby.

If you're worried, see an RE, but you're only on your second cycle TTC so I wouldn't jump to the worst case scenarios just yet. It may take up to a year, even with well timed BD. I got pregnant with my boys without even trying, but it took 5 cycles with pregnancy #3. Things change. And swaying girl reduces fertility and makes it even harder. If you got pregnant on the first or second try I would think your fertility wasn't reduced enough and that you'd end up having another boy.

[1moregirl]

Essnce - thanks Hun. I found your words really comforting. It just almost makes things difficult when your DH is not fully on board (as you well know) - the last thing they are going to offer to do is go out and get their sperm analysed for things. I really think I might take your advice and go to my GP tomorrow and get a referral to a RE. Maybe I just need to do a hysteroscopy for my peace of mind. So, for a hysteroscopy, is the patient awake Hun? I must google it and take a look. Also, how old was your friend when she went through all that? Thanks

[MrsGoodies]

Hi 1moregirl,

Sorry for your BFN. It really is early still. Sometimes it takes the egg longer to implant. I was a 9-10 dpo girl myself but my last pg I only got a bfp on 11 dpo, so try again for the next 2 days.

If you would feel better getting checked out for peace of mind then go do it but you dont seem to have any AS symptoms from what I can see on your charts (nice long AF with variable flow). I doubt it is your dh as you did get pg just last year.

I know at our age we feel so impatient & want to be PG NOW but ironically it takes us longer.


Also, i notice last year you ttc in Apr (BFN), May (BFN) and June you finally got the egg (BFP). It may just be a matter of ttc for a few more cycles to catch that great egg! This is only try #2....You wanted a summer baby so that gives you a bit of time to practice and hopefully your DH will come around by then.

[essnce629]

My friend was 34, she'll be 35 in July. Her DH is the same age.

[atomic sagebrush]

I have NEVER seen a single case of Asherman's in all this time and thousands of people TTC many after D and C.

I know I sound like a broken record but it is just harder to get pregnant when we are such a fine vintage as you and I. I understand you want to have any other reason but the odds are good it just wasn't your month this month.

[1moregirl]

Thanks ladies. I really just had my heart set on a December baby and looks like it isn't going to be. I haven't tested today and I'm not going to again. Just sitting now and waiting for AF to arrive. I keep getting period pains on and off but nothing yet. I just don't want to test again and be disappointed again. I keep thinking maybe DH is taking a BCP of some description but you're probably right Atomic - it probably is just me and the older eggs. Maybe I just striked it lucky last year in June. I think maybe I just have to accept that it might not happen and just keep trying and be pleasantly surprised if it does happen. Thanks for your support ladies. Much appreciated. xxoo

[MrsGoodies]

I think maybe I just have to ....just keep trying and be pleasantly surprised if it does happen.

Yup. Just keep at her and enjoy the condomless shaggin'

December babies seriously suck though. Everyone I know with a December birthday wishes it could be any other month. They complain about
a) birthday taking back seat to Christmas festivities
b) no one available (too busy with shopping/Christmas parties/going away)
c) when someone remembers its usually an after thought
d) the dreaded Christmas/Birthday combo present

I've had mums plan their Christmas baby birthday parties in April - even in July (six months late)

I think the best months to have a birthday are Feb-- Oct.

[essnce629]

Yes, December is the one month I really wouldn't want to have a baby for all the reasons mentioned above.

And there really is no birth control for men, so unless your DH went out and got a secret vasectomy without you knowing, it probably just isn't your month. I'm 100% in agreement with Atomic on this one.

[essnce629]

This article says women over 40 should seek help from an RE after TTC for 3 months. This is because you don't have the luxury of trying for months on end since egg quality is already greatly diminished. But like Atomic said, it just may be awhile till Goldie decides to make her appearance. But maybe seeing an RE would get you some Clomid or Femara, which helps improve egg quality and sways girl.

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