Feeling sad.......

[atomic sagebrush]

What do you think the odds are that my next BFP will be a dodgy egg as well?

No one can know that and the odds are really meaningless anyway. Embrace your inner Han Solo..."Never tell me the odds!"

[1moregirl]

Can you have a shot at answering this one thing I'm really confused about? Last year in June I got a BFP first proper attempt, but miscarriaged. Then I was taking ubiquinol and it took me 5 cycles to get a BFP, but still it was another dodgy egg. Surely the five eggs that passed that cycle were dodgy as well and that's why they didn't get fertilised? Why can't dodgy old eggs just be completely unfertilisable, so that when we do get a BFP we know it's a good egg? Not fair. Also, do you think I'm risking my life ttc again? Do women die from miscarrying?

[atomic sagebrush]

No, that's not necessarily true, it may have been just that sperm didn't meet egg those months.

It is believed that eggs may have the ability to self-correct for abnormalities, and so fertilization can occur but the embryo may be able to fix or repair them (this is possibly why there seems to be a disproportional number of abnormals with IVF - some of those may have self-corrected in utero.) It may be that we older moms have not only more dodgy eggs but also a reduced ability for embryos made from those eggs to self-correct.

People do die in childbirth or from complications of pregnancy, it's not common but it happens (and far more often than anyone dying from a miscarraige, which is also possible, but not likely). Every time we get pregnant we do "risk our lives" a bit but at the same time people do things that risk their lives all the time. You have a higher risk of death every time you get into your car to drive to the grocery store, statistically speaking.

[sharon]

So sorry 1more girl + fingers crossed for this month for you x

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