Thread: swayers over 35 buddy group
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September 10th, 2012, 02:19 PM #861
Anchor, I've been thinking about the same thing. I'm only 7 weeks, but this is baby number 5. And it may sound horrible, but there is no way I can take care of a child with special needs on top of the 4 I already have. I'm really debating on cvs. I have to talk to my doc when I see her at the end of this week. This is scary stuff.
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September 10th, 2012, 02:28 PM #862
We can only get CVS here if we have a history of chromosomal defect. So amnio is my only option, which I will do if my nuchal comes back with a high chance. And amnio is at like 18 weeks! I am freaking out a bit...let's hold hands.
Sept 2008 & successful boy sway June 2010.
M/C Oct 2012
Is DE in my future?
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September 10th, 2012, 03:04 PM #863
Hi Ladies, Do they automatically suggest an aminio or CVS if you are over 35? I know with my last they did that 13 week nuchal, but that seems standard now. I usually see midwives so I bet they really wouldn't offer the extra tests.
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September 10th, 2012, 05:32 PM #864
Last edited by The Anchor; September 11th, 2012 at 11:49 AM.
Sept 2008 & successful boy sway June 2010.
M/C Oct 2012
Is DE in my future?
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September 10th, 2012, 05:39 PM #865
They don't automatically have u do cvs or amnio. It depends on how bloods come back. And of course it's a choice. I did not want a special needs child. So yes, anchor I terminated. I never say it even on here bc I really dont want to be judged. I do not believe my dh is cut out for it (or me) and didn't want that for by boys. I was unlucky. Does not mean you ladies will be.
I was not swaying. It was an oopsie. I was exercising like a mad woman, losing weight. And it was a pull out. No idea of timing. Kinda of an sway but didn't plan or know it!!
Because I went through this and dh saw my heart break in pieces he's willing to do anything to help get a girl for me. Including HT and spending $ we don't have.Cycle#1 Jan/Feb 2013: 10 eggs retrieved, 8 mature, 8 fertilized. 1 expanded blast frozen to batch.
Cycle #2 May/June 2013: 17 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 11 fertilized, 3 blasts frozen. Sending all 4 to Natera: 2 normals- 1 girl (cycle 2) & 1 boy (cycle 1)
Cycle #3 September 2013: 11 eggs retrieved, 8 mature, 8 fertilized. 4 biopsied. 2 normal boys
FET #1: October 25th: BFN
Cycle#4: Feb/March 2014: 12 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, 10 fertilized. 1 normal XX! Transfer March 3rd. BFP: 3/9/14!!!! Beta: 7dp6dt:38, 9dp6dt:139!, 6weeks 1 day: heartbeat!!!
She's here and I'm in love
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September 10th, 2012, 05:58 PM #866
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September 11th, 2012, 09:27 AM #867
Thanks 3men. I appreciate it. Leaning towards trying naturally this cycle and have my appointments lines up in case of another bfn.
Cycle#1 Jan/Feb 2013: 10 eggs retrieved, 8 mature, 8 fertilized. 1 expanded blast frozen to batch.
Cycle #2 May/June 2013: 17 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 11 fertilized, 3 blasts frozen. Sending all 4 to Natera: 2 normals- 1 girl (cycle 2) & 1 boy (cycle 1)
Cycle #3 September 2013: 11 eggs retrieved, 8 mature, 8 fertilized. 4 biopsied. 2 normal boys
FET #1: October 25th: BFN
Cycle#4: Feb/March 2014: 12 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, 10 fertilized. 1 normal XX! Transfer March 3rd. BFP: 3/9/14!!!! Beta: 7dp6dt:38, 9dp6dt:139!, 6weeks 1 day: heartbeat!!!
She's here and I'm in love
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September 11th, 2012, 11:53 AM #868
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September 11th, 2012, 03:36 PM #869
Thanks all.-I had a feeling they wouldn't even offer unless, as you suggest, blood comes back off. Don't even have a BFP yet, so I guess I need to worry about that first
Well said 3M and H & G. I think everyone has the right to not be judged for making the best decision fro their family and situation.
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September 11th, 2012, 04:21 PM #870
Personally, I wouldn't get amnio unless my blood came back abnormal. Just to give you mature mamas a little hope, my blood came back as me having the risk of a 19 year old - 1 in 2000 or something like that...and I'm turning 38 in a month! My midwives say they don't really consider you high risk these days until you're over 40 anyway (I'm in Canada too).
And HopeandDream - for everything you've had to go through.
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