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May 28th, 2014, 04:16 AM #1
No heart beat at 11 weeks when everything seemed fine
Hey ladies,
Never thought I would be posting here, seems so wrong. I was so excited to be expecting our fifth baby this December. Had a dating scan at 6 weeks that showed just one baby with a beating heart and was over the moon. Since then I have felt nauseous and exhausted, but good, and have been getting bigger. So was absolutely shocked when, after having v mild cramping and slightest amount of brown discharge on Monday they did a scan which showed no heart beat and that the baby had died at 7 weeks!! I cannot understand how I had no symptoms, no bleeding or any indication whatsoever that anything was wrong. Seems so unbelievably cruel. I don't know if I will have the strength to start all over again and risk going through this again.... I wonder if it's because I was strongly swaying pink. But i did all the right things too. Was taking folic acid and eating well as soon as I got that BFP. I'm so upset and so grateful to have my four sweet boys. They are also upset that they wont be getting their baby brother or sister for christmas as they were with me and know everything. Not fair is it? Should I try again soon as I can or count my blessings and forget my dream of having a daughter one day?DS1 (8) DS 2 (7), DS 3 (7), DS 4 (7)
mc at 11 weeks (26/05/14)
EDD July 2015
FX it's a sticky pink bean in there...
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May 28th, 2014, 04:34 AM #2Dream Vet
Hi
I know what you are feeling as I have had two losses 1st at 11 wks and 2nd at 19wks and both were missed miscarriages in which the baby had passed 3 weeks before I found out. I also found that the hardest part for me was knowing that I had no idea things had gone wrong.
I also have 4 boys, and it is difficult for them to understand what went wrong but they were also my saving grace in that they move forward so quickly and provide a good distraction of sorts.
I would do want ever you feel is right for you and your family. Best of luck with whatever you decide.
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May 28th, 2014, 05:14 AM #3
I have no advice but just wanted to say that I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. (((HUGS)))
Me: 35 years old. Was an infant nanny and birth and postpartum doula. Now a full time SAHM.
DS1: Aug 2003 (my first home birthed water baby!)
DS2: May 2009 (my second home birthed water baby!)
Oct 2014
July 2016: Laproscopic surgery to remove a ping pong ball sized endometrioma on left ovary and 3 pea size fibroids on outside of uterus. Hysteroscopy to remove one larger "penetrating fibroid" inside uterus.
Oct 2016: Heartbroken after DH's vasectomy. Looks like my dreams of a daughter are gone.
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I am so sorry.
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May 28th, 2014, 07:20 AM #5
So sorry. In some case our bodies just seem to hang onto everything for a long time after. Must be something to do with the speed at which our bodies cotton on to the HB stopping and then the hormones taking a while to drop leading to the start of bleeding. Don't give up on your dream, just take it easy and then start again.
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May 28th, 2014, 07:50 AM #6
So sorry for your loss. You should do what you think is right for you and your family. You don't have to decide now, take your time to grieve mama. Big hugs!
Mummy to a girl, born sleeping & two gorgeous & loud little boys
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May 28th, 2014, 09:11 AM #7
So sorry for your loss hugs xxx
OUR GENDER DREAMING SUCCESS!!
BFP 11 dpo on FRER, ttc pink month 4, (following blighted ovum in February 2014) HB seen 6+0!!! WOW harmony test says GIRL 17/05/14 ... Please let it be true!!! Confirmed GIRL @ 30/05/14 / 16+1 gender scan!!
Baby girl E arrived 30/10/14, our family is complete
Thank you atomic
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2003 2007 2011 (IG "failed" sway, TTC#3 mc month 6, mc month 8, dropped all swaying month 11 - BFP!! Blessed with a gorgeous baby boy) due 13 November 2014
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May 28th, 2014, 11:50 AM #8
I'm so sorry for your loss
Mommy to 7 finally had #1 in 2016! Had boy #8 after. Now returning to try to sway for final child praying for #2 🤞🙏
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May 28th, 2014, 12:12 PM #9
I'm so sorry, a m/c is an awful thing to go through, I hope you are able to find peace somehow.
Sept 2008 & successful boy sway June 2010.
M/C Oct 2012
Is DE in my future?
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May 29th, 2014, 09:49 PM #10
I'm so sorry pinkmeup take some time out to grieve then see how you feel about trying again , hope you have lots of support and hugs xxxx
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