Loss

[2boysJustOneGirl]

Thankyou so much for your support. It's amazing how healing your words are and how I am already feeling like the grieving process is well underway. Thanks for that.

I think I may have passed the baby last night. I am almost certain. I hope so. It will make today so much easier for me- I am anti-hospital for many reasons, but mostly I just want this over with and don't want a D&C or having to spend the day in hospital. I will let you all know how it goes.

[eleena2014]

Sorry for your loss. I had a mmc at 12 weeks scan.baby stopped growing at 8 weeks. I can understand how you are feeling but it will get easier. Hope everything goes Ok for u.x

[maidentomother]

I am so sorry. I hope things resolve quickly. Thinking of you hun.

[mommymachine]

I am so sorry.

[atomic sagebrush]

Can anybody answer this question- I was 10+3 weeks pregnant and baby was measuring 7+2weeks. Does that mean the baby died at 7+2 weeks?

No, it doesn't mean that, it can mean that the baby was just growing very slowly. I had a friend whose baby grew very very slow during her entire pregnancy and was born weighing only 3 lbs at 9 months. (they held out like zero hope for it but somehow a miracle happened).

I know it's so so hard to understand when these things happen, esp. when the baby was normal in DNA, but they know about.001% of how all this works and literally millions of things have to go exactly right for a pregnancy to occur. IT's not surprising when it doesn't work out, it's actually surprising that it works out as often as it does. There are DNA things that don't show up on tests (and/or that they don't even know about yet) and things tht can go wrong that have nothing to do with DNA.

[2boysJustOneGirl]

I received confirmation from the lab- the materniT21 screening contained loads of fetal DNA. I only had testing for 3 genetic diseases done to save $ and that included gender. The testing showed a slightly elevated chromosome 22 but because the panel I paid for wasn't checking it they didn't report it, I suppose now that the baby is gone they feel obligated to share this. Their genetic counsellor will be contacting my midwife to discuss the case. So truly this little babe just wasn't designed to survive. 💔. And it was my girl. No doubt in the testing about that. 💔

[atomic sagebrush]

Thank you for updating us on this, it makes it much easier to know what to tell others in similar situations when you guys share info with me.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

[2boysJustOneGirl]

The email further stated the genetics counsellor was suspicious of mosaicism of chromosome 22.

http://mosaicism.cfri.ca/specific/trisomy22.htm

[Linzshine32]

I am so very sorry.

[girliedreamz]

So sorry, 2boys!

I'm in almost the same situation. At 9 weeks I went in for my first appointment and they told me there was no heartbeat and the baby measured 7 weeks. It took two heart wrenching weeks before I actually started bleeding and passed everything. Just finally stopped bleeding now, so I totally understand your relief at everything being passed and not having to go for the D&C. (That was my biggest worry once I got over the sad news that baby was no more.) I'm so glad you got some answers at least about the reason, and I sending healthy, sticky baby vibes your way if you decide to try again!