Sad news and please help **** warning graphic picture of loss on pg 5

[MrsGoodies]

You're welcome Honeybee

I took pictures last time since info online was few & far between.

That's what it looks like all clean and pretty....

When it comes out it looks like a huge dark maroon clot about the size of a lemon You really need to handle it with care and wash in saline to make sure you have the right thing.

Have your clean container with saline ready on the counter so you aren't caught off guard.

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[purple]

It was actually my smaller fetus that caused my bad m/c with exessive blood loss. I didn't even know when it passed as it was only aboy 5wks in size.

My one at 10wk it was around 8wks in size according to the ultrasound an I needed to push a bit at the end like in childbirth, although not as bad as it was smaller than a tennis ball. Mine was still complete in the sac so all I saw was a solid greyish lump. It was quite different to the photo above. It was the last part to come out for me but I have read other stories where it comes out sooner.

[honeybee37]

Did you feel the urge to push? I am having pretty bad cramps and lots of red blood. Only one small clot so far. I think I'll be up all night...


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[honeybee37]

The back pain right now is the worst thing


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[MrsGoodies]

Yes, i felt the need to push.

I had red bleeding Sat night and a strawberry size clot.

Then nothing much overnight.

Severe cramping 1pm Sun,
Pushing 5:30 pm
Passed the placenta/sack 5:45 pm
Heavy bleeding clots until 8 pm (needed to change 1 the depends 1 per hr)

Then heavy bleeding overnight but the worst had passed.

Heavy bleeding for an additional 4 days
Medium flow another 4 days
Light spotting another 7 days



Sorry for the backpain. Hopefuly painkillers will help.


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[GirlieCat]

So sorry honeybee. Thinking of you in this difficult time.

[honeybee37]

Well what a farce... am back from the hospital follow up scan. She said "good news! IThe baby has grown since last week!" It hasn't, but the trainee sonographer last week was unable to find it. It measures exactly what it measured at the private scan we had where they discovered it no longer had a heartbeat. But because the NHS can see growth, they are reluctant to offer interventions and have discharged me. No follow up or anything. Now the bleeding is back to spotting but I have back pain still and some cramps so I can only hope it will happen on its own. She did say the sac and baby are high up in my uterus and in her opinion, it won't happen soon but she also conceded that I know my body better than anyone. I am so, so fed up of this right now. Nobody ever reads my notes or knows what is happening so I am constantly filling people in etc. I am snappy with my husband and I just don't know how long this is going to take.... sigh!!!!


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[MeanVeggieGal]

Hi Honeybee,

I went to the hospital at about 12 weeks and demanded and u/s because my pregnancy symptoms had lessened. A tech said he heard the heartbeat but I wasnt confident that's what he heard. About a week later I knew I was no longer pregnant and confirmed it with another scan by a "seasoned" tech. I wasn't, baby had passed about 2 weeks prior.

I opted for pills to mc but it was rough. Passed lots of blood and ended up calling the ambulance as I went in shock after I pushed. MrsGoodies is correct, it's a mini labor and NOT a heavy period. Pads were of no use and I wished I had taken more pain meds prior. I never went to the hospital even though I called the ambulance. They helped me through the shock. I relaxed for a couple days afterwards and stayed super hydrated and well nourished.

Take care sweethearts. Sorry to you both honeybee & MrsGoodies. Be gentle and completely selfish during this time if you can. 💋

[atomic sagebrush]

OMG I am so, so very sorry. I am fully fed up with the behavior of sonographers around the globe and the way they "train" people on us as if we are guinea pigs or something.

Are you doing the red raspberry leaf?? If not that is what I would add in.

[The Anchor]

Oh honeybee I am so sorry. How awful. They didn't see a heartbeat and they are reluctant for further interventions? Ludicrous!

I had a m/c at 14 weeks. I actually had my water break the day after we discovered no heartbeat. I had had some light spotting for about 5 days prior to the u/s. The cramps were pretty bad, coming in waves, just like labour.

I hope you are able to find peace somehow...