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March 24th, 2018, 08:17 PM
#11
Originally Posted by
DesiG
Hey ABC just wanted to check on you and see how you are doing?
Thanks Desi I am... OK. Some days are better than others. The past couple of days have been pretty hard and I've been crying a lot. It's a process I guess. The HCG isn't gone completely from my system yet - I'm still getting positive HPTs and I have to get another HCG test on Monday. So that's frustrating. We're now also waiting for results from some blood tests I had done last week by a fertility specialist to see if there is a blotting clotting disorder or chromosome issue - so that is stressful. So, hanging in there. Thankful for this community though - as I told Pbn3 the other day, I feel in many ways that I'm getting more support from here right now than from many of my own family members. For example, you specifically checked in on me today, when my own father and stepmom haven't checked in on me once since I had my D&C two weeks ago. I'm finding that with recurrent pregnancy loss/infertility, in addition to the heartache of the pregnancy loss, also comes with strained family relationships. It's been interesting. People who haven't experienced these kind of losses/ pain don't apparently understand just how hard it really is to go through. So thank you for checking in It really does mean a lot.
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March 25th, 2018, 10:33 AM
#12
Swaying Advice Coach
Hugest hugs ABC - I'm so sorry you're having to go through all this.
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March 25th, 2018, 11:55 AM
#13
Thanks atomic - I'm ok, I've just been a real downer the past few days.
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March 25th, 2018, 05:12 PM
#14
I'm so sorry you are feeling this way, family can be the worst sometimes, even my own husband said something so hurt the last time I had a mc and sometimes I wonder why I kept trying. I will be here for you as much as you need me to be I so understand where you are coming from, my test almost took 2 and half months to go negative with my first mc it really sucked, because at first I thought I was pregnant again and then had to go through those feelings all over again. Get all them tears out love it will get better.
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March 25th, 2018, 06:06 PM
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Dream Vet
I'm so sorry ABC. I fully understand what you're going through. I haven't seen my in laws in over half a year because of how cruel they were when they found out about some of our losses. PM me if you ever want to talk.
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March 25th, 2018, 07:40 PM
#16
Dream Vet
Originally Posted by
ABC.2606
Thanks Desi
I am... OK. Some days are better than others. The past couple of days have been pretty hard and I've been crying a lot. It's a process I guess. The HCG isn't gone completely from my system yet - I'm still getting positive HPTs and I have to get another HCG test on Monday. So that's frustrating. We're now also waiting for results from some blood tests I had done last week by a fertility specialist to see if there is a blotting clotting disorder or chromosome issue - so that is stressful. So, hanging in there. Thankful for this community though - as I told Pbn3 the other day, I feel in many ways that I'm getting more support from here right now than from many of my own family members. For example, you specifically checked in on me today, when my own father and stepmom haven't checked in on me once since I had my D&C two weeks ago. I'm finding that with recurrent pregnancy loss/infertility, in addition to the heartache of the pregnancy loss, also comes with strained family relationships. It's been interesting. People who haven't experienced these kind of losses/ pain don't apparently understand just how hard it really is to go through. So thank you for checking in
It really does mean a lot.
I am so sorry you are going through this.
I just wanted to chime in and say after our 20 week loss I felt the same. I have never felt so alone in my life. No one contacted me to see how I was doing. It was like the world went on but mine didn't. In fact I still harbour resentment toward my family for it.
No one should ever have to feel.this pain. We are all here for you ABC. Anytime you need to talk. Xo
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March 25th, 2018, 09:15 PM
#17
Originally Posted by
DesiG
I'm so sorry you are feeling this way, family can be the worst sometimes, even my own husband said something so hurt the last time I had a mc and sometimes I wonder why I kept trying. I will be here for you as much as you need me to be I so understand where you are coming from, my test almost took 2 and half months to go negative with my first mc it really sucked, because at first I thought I was pregnant again and then had to go through those feelings all over again. Get all them tears out love it will get better.
Oh my goodness - 2 months? That must have been so frustrating! I hope mine zeroes out within the next week or two. HPTs are getting lighter but doing so SO slowly. I think tomorrow the HCG test will show it's gone down from last week and they'll tell me all is good with that. Thank you for your continued support
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March 25th, 2018, 09:18 PM
#18
Originally Posted by
Throwaway_panther
I'm so sorry ABC. I fully understand what you're going through. I haven't seen my in laws in over half a year because of how cruel they were when they found out about some of our losses. PM me if you ever want to talk.
TP - Oh wow, I'm sorry you're going through that with your in laws. You've been through so much too - it's just so hard. I don't get why people find it so hard to understand just how painful miscarriages can be. But, I guess I probably didn't truly "get it" either before I'd gone through it. Yea I'm SO angry at my dad and stepmom right now. I just cannot understand how they can be so uncaring/unconcerned when they know what I've been through the past 8 months. Ugh.
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March 25th, 2018, 09:20 PM
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Originally Posted by
Mamabird4
I am so sorry you are going through this.
I just wanted to chime in and say after our 20 week loss I felt the same. I have never felt so alone in my life. No one contacted me to see how I was doing. It was like the world went on but mine didn't. In fact I still harbour resentment toward my family for it.
No one should ever have to feel.this pain. We are all here for you ABC. Anytime you need to talk. Xo
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Thanks Mamabird Yea - the loneliness is what I've talked to several on here about - I just don't feel like anyone around me gets it. DH is trying, and trying harder now than he was at the beginning now that he sees how hard I'm taking it all, but even he doesn't really understand. It's such a lonely, painful experience.
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March 29th, 2018, 08:20 PM
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Just found out (by looking on my online portal account - I haven't talked to the doctor personally yet) that I have a MTHFR mutation. Atomic - hoping to ask more questions of you after I've talked to the doctor (hopefully tomorrow). Trying to not freak out - I know this is a common mutation. And I had two healthy boys before these miscarriages so it must be possible for me to be able to carry healthy pregnancies with it. Anyways - I may PM you again soon. We're also still waiting for the results of DH and I's chromosome tests and I still have to have a uterus ultrasound next month to see if there is maybe something in my uterus (polyp, fibroid, etc.). I've been taking folate only since I started my sway one year ago.. Initially I was taking between 800-1,600 per day and then I upped it to 1,600-2,400 after my 2nd m/c.
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