Thread: Any Home birthers here ?
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November 2nd, 2012, 10:05 AM #21
Thank you, I am entitled to my opinion. And I think it great that people homebirth, I just don't agree with it.
Never meant to offend anybody. And no matter how advanced we get medically we simply cannot predict the unseen, and I am very thankful to be in a hospital where 'if I need it' medical intervention is available. I know every women thinks it won't happen to her I was the same way, but it did and he lived and I will be forever grateful for the Dr & Nurses that saved his life.
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November 2nd, 2012, 11:57 AM #22
It's not for me, but I support women who choose it, as long as they're informed, low risk, and under the care of a qualified professional.
I've had 4 hospital births, the last being a c-section for breech. Except for the first time (which was AWFUL...I still hate that doctor) I was happy with how things went. I was happily planning a RCS this time but my OB said I was a perfect candidate for a vbac so I'm going to give it a try. Definitely want to be in the hospital though.
Good luck to everyone!
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November 2nd, 2012, 12:47 PM #23
I also love the idea and the fact that hospitals are now trying to accomdate mothers more in their requests, like waterbirths, and other "birthing methods(whatever they may be)" the mother would like. I think it is great!!!
I just know that as a mother fi I was to have a home birth and God forbid something did happen, i KNOW that for the rest of my life I would myself responsible for that decision. And I am just not willing to take that chance becuase no matter how low risk I was/am (and I was low risk) there is always that chance that something can go wrong. And in my case it did.
And I did have a succesful BAVC with my 5th which was AWESOME!!!!
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November 2nd, 2012, 01:42 PM #24
I don't think it's so much your opinion as how you're portraying it. The way you state said opinion seems very bitter and abrasive. And there's no need for such. This thread was obviously intended for women who are having homebirths, so that the author could find like-minded mothers on this forum. It seems your only purpose was to come here and rain on the parade, so to speak. Correct me if I'm wrong, however that's the strong impression I have received from your posts.
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November 2nd, 2012, 02:07 PM #25
You are wrong...this is how I feel, I am entitled to how I feel just as you are. And I stand by what I said I do think that ALL women should have their babies in the hospital, and I am referring only to location, not method. If you take it as abrasive that's your issue...not mine. I am sure women are not going to change their mind on having a home birth or not. But the bottom line is anything can happen during child birth in the blink of an eye. If I have been even a 3 minute drive away from the hospital my son would have died, so yes this makes me feel very stongly about this issue becuase i would never want this to happen to a mother where she would lose her child.
I have no reason to fell bitter, I have my son If you find this post offensive maybe what I wrote has struck a cord with your decision.............I am not judging any mother that decides to do a home birth, but I have a difficult time understanding why someone would choose to have a home birth when there are such high stakes risks, no matter how small the chance.
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November 2nd, 2012, 03:14 PM #26
I used to work in a children's rehabilitation hospital- and I mainly worked with the infants. I did have a few patients that were the result of home births 'gone bad'. I know it's not the majority- but it's so hard to get those stories out of your head especially since they could have possibly had a different outcome. If I didn't work in healthcare- I may have once thought about home birthing. It sounds like an awesome thing as long as you can guarantee nothing going wrong. Then again you can't completely ever guarantee nothing going wrong during any type of birth. I would never judge anyone for making the decision to home birth though. Just educate yourselves and make the best decision for you and your family.
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November 2nd, 2012, 03:21 PM #27Dream Vet
Your posts have been mildly irritating to me, Tiffany, but not because it's "struck a chord with my decision". No, my decision to have a homebirth is one that I'm entirely comfortable with. There are a couple of reasons I'm not loving your comments here. As a PP mentioned, this thread was probably started with the intention of finding like-minded women, excitedly planning their next homebirth. You're kinda crashing the party with some fear-mongering. No worries, though. Any woman who's planned a homebirth has already heard a horror story or two from a neighbour or a friend of a friend's aunt. Despite the horror stories, they've gone on to do their research and found that homebirths are equally safe to hospital births. Sometimes, they're safer. Like I mentioned earlier, I've experienced both a hospital and homebirth and can say with certainty that my homebirth was healthier for both my baby and me. My first son was born in hospital, with standard hospital interventions, and spent the first 3 days of his life on antibiotics because of a germ he picked up in the ward. My second son is almost 2 and has been the picture of health since his midwife caught him. Homebirth may not be the right choice for you, Tiffany, and I respect that but hospital births aren't the right choice for ALL women.
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November 2nd, 2012, 03:34 PM #28
I agree, its too bad it can never be 100% that everything will great. In the end whatever happens, happens.
And like you said things can go wrong no matterhwere you give birth. After what happened to me I like knowing that if unforseen circumstances arise again, I will be in a hospital.
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November 2nd, 2012, 03:35 PM #29
I'm sorry guys I have asked atomic to delete this post as I never wanted to start a debate I just wanted to talk to other home birthing mums. Once deleted I'll start a new thread where we can gather and would appreciate that no one others than those genuinely interested in experiencing or have experiences of homebirth comment. Thank u and sorry again
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November 2nd, 2012, 03:40 PM #30Dream Vet
Thanks, Mum23Boys. I'll see you in the new thread!
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