The heart wants what the heart wants.

I should be grateful that God has blessed me 3 times with 3 amazing beautiful boys. My mind and my heart are in a constant battle of having another child especially my DG a DD. Im having my tubal reversal consult on March 26 and the cost of the surgery is 8500. Thats money that should be going for a house or saving for college for my existing children's. But my heart doesn't let go of my feeling of wanting a daughter. I pray day and night to find acceptance if i never have a dd and learn to let go because swaying is not guaranteed even if i give it my all. But my heart wants what it want.

A tube reversal is $8500? I never knew it was that expensive. Can you put that $8500 towards HT? We have had women with success cycle at FCNE which is close to you(I think)??

I would never do that for that price. Do an IVF cycle and get a guarantee!

I hope you find peace with this. ((((hugs)))

We all understand how you feel! You can't change what you want even if you try. Acceptance is hard and it stinks to always be thinking about your dg. I hope you can get your DD someday. I agree that maybe put the $8500 into HT. Good luck


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There is no doubt in my mind that I would be doing HT in your situation. A tubal reversal is no guarantee for pregnancy, you might still be infertile after spending 8500. And if you get pregnant you still have a 50% chance of having a boy. Doing HT (IVF with PGD) will give you the biggest shot of having a girl, spend your money on that, not a tubal reversal. An added bonus is if you get pregnant with IVF, then you will still have your tubes tied and no worries for any future unwanted pregnancies!

I would absolutely go HT in your situation!