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    Sad Face The heart wants what the heart wants.

    I should be grateful that God has blessed me 3 times with 3 amazing beautiful boys. My mind and my heart are in a constant battle of having another child especially my DG a DD. Im having my tubal reversal consult on March 26 and the cost of the surgery is 8500. Thats money that should be going for a house or saving for college for my existing children's. But my heart doesn't let go of my feeling of wanting a daughter. I pray day and night to find acceptance if i never have a dd and learn to let go because swaying is not guaranteed even if i give it my all. But my heart wants what it want.
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    The heart wants what the heart wants.

    A tube reversal is $8500? I never knew it was that expensive. Can you put that $8500 towards HT? We have had women with success cycle at FCNE which is close to you(I think)??
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    2 Boys 6 & 9 yrs old 6 year old IVF and has NF1 - PGD to test for NF1 and Gender

    Cycle #1-August 2010-Transferred 1 Girl= BFN
    Cycle #2- Nov 2010- No Unaffected Females to Transfer No Unaffected Males to Freeze
    Cycle# 3- May 2011- 5 Fertilized --Frozen on Day 2 to Batch with Next Cycle
    Cycle #4- June 2011- Transferred 3 Girls=-BFN
    Cycle#5- September 2011-- Day 5 Biopsy-- Grade A Hatched Blastocyst Girl= BFN
    Cycle #6- Different Doctor-Dr Braverman January 2012-Transferred 3 Girls=BFN
    Cycle #7-April 2012 Transferred 6 Girls =BFN
    Cycle #8-July 2012 Transferred 3 Girls=BFN--WTF!
    Cycle #9-October 2012 Transferred 2 Girls- Beta-=13 Chemical Pregnancy...

    April 2013- 40 yrs old- New RE- SIRM-NYC/Westchester- Transferred 2 Girl Blasts & 2 Girl Morulas= BFP!!!!

    April 2015- 42 yrs old- SIRM- 1 Girl Transferred- BFP!!

    Samantha 12/17/13 8pounds 3oz


    Ava 12/28/15 8pounds 4oz


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    I would never do that for that price. Do an IVF cycle and get a guarantee!
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    I hope you find peace with this. ((((hugs)))
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    We all understand how you feel! You can't change what you want even if you try. Acceptance is hard and it stinks to always be thinking about your dg. I hope you can get your DD someday. I agree that maybe put the $8500 into HT. Good luck


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    There is no doubt in my mind that I would be doing HT in your situation. A tubal reversal is no guarantee for pregnancy, you might still be infertile after spending 8500. And if you get pregnant you still have a 50% chance of having a boy. Doing HT (IVF with PGD) will give you the biggest shot of having a girl, spend your money on that, not a tubal reversal. An added bonus is if you get pregnant with IVF, then you will still have your tubes tied and no worries for any future unwanted pregnancies!

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    I would absolutely go HT in your situation!

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    currently TTC, Cycle #16 since last BFP

    TTC #1 - swaying pink on & off since Nov 2013 - hoping for a girl first but excited for either!

    Dec 2001 - May 2006 : 5 early abortions of healthy singletons (3 medical @5w, 2 surgical @8w, last 4 pregnancies conceived with late DH, all conceived while TTA/on birth control)
    Mar 2012: miscarried B/G twins @5w (conceived 2 cycles after remověng Paraguard copper IUD while NTNP), one twin was ovarian ectopic

    Me: 34, widowed, late O + short LP, normal-good hormone levels excepting undetectable testosterone, seeking a known sperm donor/life partner
    My sway: vegetarian LE for over 28w, skipping breakfast, fibre (ground psyllium husks) with/before/between meals, physically inactive, drama avoidance, ocassional minimal YesBaby lube as needed, alternate cycles on low dose Clomid, double shot lattes (with meals)
    Past sway tactics I've dropped (in order): Vitex, Sudafed, antihistamines, intermittent fasting, one attempt per cycle at positive OPK, one attempt in fertile period

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