AAAAHHHH! Congrats! I was stalking the thread to see if you peeked. :bluecheer::cheer::hugs:Quote:
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AAAAHHHH! Congrats! I was stalking the thread to see if you peeked. :bluecheer::cheer::hugs:Quote:
Originally Posted by ABC.2606
While I'm not a believer in what goes around/comes around , BUT I think it's great you're still staying so positive with such downers around you!Quote:
Originally Posted by hopper
Is it possible to just NOT tell them?! I think when we put expectations on the announcements, we get disappointed -- versus just taking joy within our immediate family can keep us feeling good? My FIL was a shithead when we shared and it's part of why I didn't want to tell our in laws at all, so I definitely understand the hurt from people who are supposed to care not caring. Your moms comments are particularly hurtful!! I never understand when parents say that! My MIL and FIL kept saying that for one of my SILs, but only because they are fully supporting her as she keeps having more kids and we all see how it's exhausting them. But even then -- they should just stop overextending themselves instead of trying to influence others' family planning!
I'm so sorry you're going through this :( Know WE are so excited for your baby here ♡♡♡
Ooooh boy... Im not sure what page its on but there are a LOT of us in here who can commiserate with you. Personally, this baby is an oops for us. Its a BC baby, and will be nearly 7 years apart from my youngest. Both my boys are on the autism spectrum, one severe so we had decided to stop there. The universe had different plans. My friends- my 2 best, we've been friends around 28 years now- are happy and supportive. My mother.... ehhhh not really. Shes upset and worked up because she thinks I wont have time for Logan, my severe little man who is improving in leaps and bounds since I work with him daily. I def plan to still have time for him, but my mother is a bit of a drama queen so Im sure you can imagine.I havent told anybody else.Quote:
Originally Posted by hopper
My inlaws... Im dreading. My MIL in particular. When we had expressed more babies in the future before we knew Logan was also autistic, she went nuts. "Why would you do that?" "I only had two" "Dont you have enough on your plate? With kids and animals?" "Ridiculous, why would you even consider more?" and so forth. Needless to say I didnt rush off to tell her. Picture the stereotypical jewish MIL from Brooklyn. x10. That is her. Shes even from close to that area (Im originally from Long Island, Im in NC now) They are coming down for a visit around the 6th, and Ive devised a plan to tell them. It will be their wedding anniversary so a card from the kids saying 'Love Jacob, Logan, and Oops'. Maybe if its cute it wont be so bad? :rolleyes:
Surrounded, can I just say how happy I am you've joined us? You have such a great spirit and crack me up!
Abc wowww im so happy for u:celebrate:baby girl and baby boy wonderful news:heart::heart:
Congratulations ABC!!! That’s so exciting!! Boy girl twins are adorable ❤️ I can’t wait to hear name ideas too!!
Love this! Totally a perfect match! So happy you got your pink, ABC!Quote:
Originally Posted by ABC.2606
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What I've learned ( and I only have my son, this is my second pregnancy) is that after two people start questioning you. They look at you like you're insane but will be like, HOPE THIS IS THE (WHATEVER GENDER YOU DONT HAVE) SO YOULL STOP TRYING. I have friend who has four kids and the remarks she received are astoundingly dumb.Quote:
Originally Posted by hopper
You just need to focus on you and your family. I would come up with some witty retorts or very direct answers. People can be so rude without realizing.
"Yes, our plan for world domination is almost complete." I like to say weird things that throw people off because I believe stupid remarks deserve equally dumb answers.
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Omg ABC, congraaaaaaaaats !!! You got your girl :D How wonderful, the best of both worlds...a boy and a girl, what a treat after all you have been through !! Bestest news eeeeeeeeeek :hugs: :love:Quote:
Originally Posted by ABC.2606
So darn exciting :)
Thanks ladies you all are the best!!! Hopper - it is weird seeing "female" on the report! I have felt this whole time that there was at least one girl in there (until yesterday when I really freaked out that it would be two boys), but it's strange knowing now that there really is! TP I feel good about it! I was *hoping* for 2 girls - I'll admit it - but I'm excited now about 1 of each. I think it'll be fun for my DS2 to experience having a younger brother. And like Verena said it will be very interesting to see what he's like because my current two boys are very different from each other (both in looks & personality!). So as long as I'm getting my girl, another boy will be a happy and welcome bonus :)
Hopper - I am SO sorry for all that negativity!!! What the heck?!! You're definitely in the right place here to vent as most of us have experienced some degree of awful reactions/comments from relatives! It honestly makes no sense to me! What happened to the "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" rule?! Like you said though I'm sure your boys will love the news that they're getting another sibling. My oldest is SO excited about our pregnancy and talks about it all the time. And that's what matters most - it will be such a happy joyous thing for you and your immediate family!!
Hello! I think I am going to have an April 3rd due date, but I'll join in here for now.
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wow, how wonderful ABC!!!Sent from my SM-G930U using TapatalkQuote:
Originally Posted by ABC.2606
I am so sorry, kittendreams. I remember how shocked and sad that felt to me last time. Take your time professing and be kind to yourself.Quote:
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Yay!!!! I'm so excited for you Gafan!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by gafan
I am starting to have a lot of anxiety about the gender the closer I get to finding out :/ I know I need to find out so I can work through my feelings during my pregnancy. My doctor knowing this has upped my anxiety/depression med and I’m feeling sick again while it regulates.
Next Monday I have my 12 week ultrasound and I hope to get a good nub shot and I’ve booked an early gender scan for 16 weeks. We haven’t told family yet and I just know what all the comments will be if it’s another boy. At least if it’s a girl I will be so happy that I won’t care about anyone’s opinions. I’ve been thinking if it’s a boy to just tell everyone we are waiting until birth to find out since it’s our last baby. Has anyone found out and then kept it a secret from everyone? Was it hard or did you ever accidentally let it slip?
I’ve felt so resentful lately about having all these boys around me and I can’t imagine adding another one. Then I feel so guilty and depressed about seeming so ungrateful. I want to enjoy my last pregnancy but it’s so hard, and I feel like it’s starting to put a wedge in my relationship too :(
I’m so sorry for you gals struggling, our news was mostly well received with the exception of my mother. Which is pretty shocking considering we only have one but people always have an opinion and for some reason think it’s ok to share, even to a hormonal pregnant woman! Honestly, I believe my mom is jealous I am living a life she wish she could have lived, and is just generally resentful. I couldn’t hide my pregnancy if I tried, aside from being sick I am HUGE! Like, honestly very large. Gained over 20 pounds and a good portion in my belly (although my thighs and hips are definitely wide). I didn’t tell people until I knew the gender, which I’m happy about because everyone guessed boy and that would have bummed me out. Just goes to show that symptoms/OWT and guesses are so unreliable! I hope everyone finds happiness and peace in their newest adventures!
Aww, thank you :bighug: I try to look at life with humor. I'm actually pretty happy to be here, getting over my initial apprehension of being pregnant again unexpectedly. After seeing Baby Oops bouncing around, and then showing its little rump to the 3d camera... I admit it, Im excited to meet it!Quote:
Originally Posted by Throwaway_panther
Awwww that’s so sweet and the card idea is awesome!
I'm 100% with you. I had my scan at 12 weeks this past Monday, and the nub shots can go either way. Its not as reliable at 12, as it is at 13 or after so I am also booking an early scan. I did see what I think is stacking on a few pictures, so I keep trying to brace myself to hear boy #3, when my heart is screaming for a DD. I also feel guilty, but this is the place to let it all out with less fear of being judged. There are so many of us who struggle with GD.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cassidy4
My husband wanted me to have an abortion, and I couldnt even think about going through with it. He had said no matter what I decided, we were in it together but when fights happened it was always "Youll be lucky I stay with you after its born." It was terrible. But, honestly if thats how it was going to be (It wont come down to that, he just has a really nasty temper. After 14 years I tell him to get over himself.) Id rather have my 3rd and raise it alone. Now that hes actually seen the pictures, hes softened and even started calling it Oops and making plans. It was a bumpy few months though.
I havent told many people, and dont plan to until I know the gender. 3 people know and my inlaws will when they come to visit in a couple weeks.
Hey I finally figured out how to change my sig and pictures! My boys have changed just a little since 2013 :giggle:
Yes, we didn't share the gender with DD because I had so many issues with it. I never had any issues and secretly told only my best friends. DH occasionally slipped up in front of strangers!Quote:
Originally Posted by Cassidy4
Welcome gafan, nice to see u here:wave::HH:
Girl....we could sit and talk for hours. We are pregnant with #5 and we’re given LoTS or push-back with #3. So we knew we were in for a sh%# show with family. We took our time and didn’t tell people until after 10 weeks. Then waited even longer to tell family. We basically said, “oh btw, we are 14 weeks pregnant!” That seemed to work. Our other kids helped share the news too. Because they were so excited, it made family hold their tongues. I know it’s hard. But be happy and stand your ground!! If you are excited, let that carry into your conversations. Yeah, big families seem crazy but we are SO incredibly blessed! I couldn’t imagine my life without my big family!Quote:
Originally Posted by hopper
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So happy to hear this!!! Praying for a sticky little bean.Quote:
Originally Posted by gafan
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ABC, I am thrilled for you! That little girl is going to be protected, for sure!
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Yeah I’m most worried about DH slipping lol he’s a talker!Quote:
Originally Posted by Throwaway_panther
Hopper I'm sorry you don't think you'll get the reaction that a new baby deserves. I know it's easier said than done to say it doesn't matter what other people think, it's your family and you are excited.
My parents knew I was trying to get pregnant, I think their issue was financial, prices here for everything are huge, and yeah probably will be a stretch to pay for 3 of everything but I'm a believer that things happen as you need them. I'm not worried about that and I always wanted at least 3 so don't think it makes a massive difference if they are born closish together in age or further apart it will cost the same in the end. But I'm also very straight forward with my family. They know better than to throw negative comments my way.
The most I got was- what if it's another boy. My response was usually a sarcastic - well then we will end up with 4 or 5 boys.
I'm actually looking forward to the comments of a third boy when we announce the pregnancy now that I know it's a girl. I'm not going to announce its a girl on social media, but people in our lives that we see often can know.
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My scan will be between 12/3 and 12/6 based off my dates and dating ultrasound. I hope it’s a good enough shot! I keep telling myself it’s a boy to not get excited, but it’s getting harder the more time that goes on. I honestly have no feeling one way or the other which makes it easier to daydream the what if’s it’s a girl!Quote:
Originally Posted by SurroundedByBoys
My SO knows I’m unhappy with being pregnant (we were gearing up to start diet and everything to sway for a girl). He was happy though. He kept saying in the beginning that it’s my choice and I could abort if I wanted to, but he knows I could never do that. I’ve been isolating myself and he’s feeling unloved and I’m hoping he’s understanding that it’s just me and what’s going on in my head and has nothing to do with him.
We’ve told friends and that’s it until I know the gender. SOs family will be happy no matter what, it’s my family that will have all the opinions lol. I never look forward to telling them.
Hi ladies! I’m hoping to join you all on here. I’ve been quietly watching since the group was made. I had a MC at the end of last year and have been very hesitant in telling anyone about this new pregnancy. I’m currently 7wk6d and had my first scan on Monday. So far all is going well, Bub is measuring perfectly. I have a EDD of 8th March 2019. I have 2 beautiful boys at home and am hoping this is my DD. But overall I would just love to have a healthy baby.
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Can I ask you ladies a TMI question?
Is anyone having loose stool issues?? I was constipated at the beginning of pregnancy and it's been weeks now of "sudden rush to the bathroom." I started realizing I might be lactose intolerant again after noticing what triggers it. Either that or maybe the heat?
With DD I lost my lactose intolerance during pregnancy and thankfully didn't get it back after (for that dairy while swaying!). Now I'm losing my tolerance?! Any experiences with this? Or even just loose bowels from pregnancy? I'm also nervous because I only had that in the week or two before labor with DD and worried it means something's wong...
hi mumma. i had a miscarriage near the end of last year too, so I want to wait as long as possible to tell people.
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Originally Posted by mummaofboys
I am sorry lots of you are having negative reactions from family to your pregnancies. It should be a time of joy and celebration but I know how it feels when you don't get that response. This baby is a birth control oops for us and not only are family not really supportive of number 3 but my DH also isn't happy. I hope he will come around eventually (hasn't even come to either scan so far and keeps calling this my baby not ours). I am very worried about all the gender questions we will face with 2 boys so far. Everyone will be asking if this is a girl and I don't want to face telling anyone if it's boy no.3. We have only told my parents and sisters and DH's sister (who will no doubt have told MIL) and a few very close friends. We have the anatomy scan the day before DS2's birthday and will likely tell everyone at his party (will be too hard to hide any longer as already tricky to hide at 16 w). I am either not going to find out at scan (unless Bub isn't modest like DS2 who put everything on show within first minute of scan) and maybe ask them to write it down for later as I don't want it to ruin DS2's birthday and want to honestly say we don't know gender when asked. I am still contemplating team geeen as I don't want it to ruin the second half of my pregnancy. We are not going to tell people outright but put up photos of DS2 for his birthday and have one I have taken with ds1 and ds2 at their whiteboard drawing with the words "how to be a big brother - lesson #1" on it and see how many people guess from that.
Hi Mumma! Happy to have you. We are just days a part with our due dates (I'm 7w4d). Welcome and wishing you and bubs a happy, healthy pregnancy!Quote:
Originally Posted by mummaofboys
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I also have been having constipation issues. I was staying away from caffeine, because I was quite bad with it before I got pregnant. I decided to have some coffee the other morning and Im pretty sure I made up for all the weeks things werent moving along. :omg: I do not typically have that response to coffee/caffeine but it makes me leary of trying it again.
Loose stool can be a normal sign though. DS 2 the prenatal vitamin I chose rubbed my stomach the wrong way and every day for hours after I took it Id be miserable. Then it would taper off at night and then start all over again until I switched. Just make sure you stay hydrated! You dont have any other symptoms of anything right? I do not have experience with lactose intolerance so I cant help in that subject.
I had this problem for the first 3 weeks of this pregnancy which was partly why I got suspicious I might have been pregnant but now very constipated. Hope this gets better for you soon as it makes life trickyQuote:
Originally Posted by Throwaway_panther
They are adorable!!! And Baby Oops - LOL! I love it.Quote:
Originally Posted by SurroundedByBoys
Welcome!! So glad you had a good scan!!! Hope this is your perfect, healthy pink bean!! Did you sway?Quote:
Originally Posted by mummaofboys
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Yea I’ve got constipation :( But I have IBS and so that’s normal for me when not pregnant!! Sorry you’re dealing with that. Since you’ve had lactose intolerance in the past maybe it’s just flaring up again? Pregnancy makes all kinds of weird things happen!Quote:
Originally Posted by Throwaway_panther
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I had this with both of my boys. I remember googling it with my first and seeing a million Google questions of the same thing and thought- ok that must be normal. And then when it happened with DS2 I remember I googled it and remembered that I did the same thing in the last pregnancy. Think it's completely normal. Haven't had it yet this time.... but I did go to the bathroom 3 times yesterday so maybe it's still coming...Quote:
Originally Posted by Throwaway_panther
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Welcome and congratulations! Hoping everything goes well for you this time and sending lots of pink dust!Quote:
Originally Posted by mummaofboys
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