I need a 'dislike' button for the spotting! FX it will go away quickly. xxQuote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
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I need a 'dislike' button for the spotting! FX it will go away quickly. xxQuote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
It has to be due to irritation....but, you do have the all clear.....when do you speak with the doc about the results?Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
I am tired for you!
I don't have an 'official' all-clear - just the comment from the tech that everything looked good. There's still possibility the doctor will see something in the pictures the tech missed. I think they said the results will go to my family doctor in 2 business days.
Mocha...i hope you are okay...this really is hard and considering Christmas is coming it must be emotional....you are ready to be done with this and move on I am sure.
Take care and relax....it will happen this month,..you certainly are ready for it and I think your body will respond.
Don't let travelling hurt your chances...if it were my inlaws I think I would be stressed.
Are you going to try to bd in the meantime or wait?
On a personal note...what should I do?
Have you ever o on cd 10 before?
I have no positive opk but strange things with my cm and bad o pains (not unusual for me).
We have to keep dtd I think.
I am ready to just be pregnant....it is embarassing to say but I am tired of bding! It is not good!
I am cd 10, low on cbfm but last month I had no peak!
I am sad bc I have no idea when or how often to bd!
Everyting I read contradicts something else!
It is too late to just dtd whenever...DH and I are both done with the swaying but now we want to do our best. Must be our personalities.
Anyone else feel the same way?
Or, is everyone just ready to be prego!
I think I am a lot of both!
Thanks, lemon. I think we'll wait to BD until I feel like O is approaching. I'm only CD6, and in the past I usually start getting EWCM around CD10, so that's when we'll probably start BD. In the meantime, dh is releasing daily.
Oh and I hear you on being sick of BDing. I have a low libido at the best of times, so having to dtd every night for many nights in a row is very unpleasant for me. Also, dh won't release unless I 'help' him, which is one of the reasons I'd thought of skipping fr this time around....
I just went back and looked at some of my old charts, and it made me feel a lot better. I had forgotten that 6-7 day periods aren't uncommon for me, and in fact, the last cycle I conceived, I spotted until CD7. I'm hoping that's all this spotting is and it will go away soon.
I did ask the tech today how my ovaries looked. She'd already finished the scan at that point, but she said they looked on track for me to ovulate this month. Now I just need to pray for an early O.... I realised that not only do we have the logistics of figuring out how to BD while we're away and I'll have no choice but to cheat on the diet, but I'll have to bring ALL my swaying paraphernalia with me and find some way to drink 3 cups of peppermint tea and 2 of RRL tea per day without people noticing and thinking I'm a freak, taking OPKs several times a day, etc. Blah. PLEASE let me O before my trip!!!
Anyway I ovulated and did not get an LH surge? Did I miss it???
That would mean I od on cd 9???
Just wondering bc I never got anything on OPKS, started on cd 9. I think I od on cd 9!
My temp went up cd 10 and 11....!
So, I did a perfect boy sway!
lemon I have OVed on CD10 before, during my first full cycle after a MC (after my first post-MC AF)
the low on your monitor is reassuring as it means your oestrogen levels are low so perhaps you haven't OVed - oestrogen always rises before OV
I don't think timing sways one bit, but I do think frequency does. what about your sway was a perfect boy sway?
Mocha, the comment I liked earlier wasn't about your spotting, it was about when you said you hope you don't see blood again until after you have a baby! That was the portion of the quote i was liking, hehe. I'm glad you looked over your charts and had some reassurances that you have long AFs....I pray for an early O for you so you'll be able to O and get it out of the way.
Jamie & Dannikins, thanks for sharing your stories on intitution!!! It's cool hearing what other ladies say about maybe "knowing" what gender their baby is before they have them!
I confessed to my mom last night that we were going to try around Christmas. She was agaited at first but she really wanted us to wait until deeper in 2012, then I told her about how I had a good gyno annual recently, that my ob-gyn is supportive of another pregnancy, etc, and she started to relax. She's such a worrywart about health :) She just thought it was too soon to have another one being that my 2nd was born in April.
Then, she went on this tirade about how I was going to get my daughter, right? That I wouldn't dare think about an attempt unless I was pretty sure I'd get my girl?
I said to her that nothing was 100%; that there could be another boy that comes from our attempt, but we were going to try all we could to get a girl. She seemed very dissatified by the answer, and pretty much said she didn't think it was worth my getting pregnant again unless I was really, really sure I could make a girl.
Kind of made me feel down :(
As if she didn't want another grandson, I mean I definitely want a daughter, but if I am meant to be a Mommy to another sweet boy, then that is what life has in store for me :(
This is from the same woman who had told me before she thought having 3 daughters was too much and she wished she had had another son!
I love my mom to pieces, but sometiems she can be very abrupt and tell her opinion a little too much!
Lemon, are on CD12 now or something? Are your temps still up? I think Atomic said somewhere recently that temps have to stay up for 3 days in a row to prove ovulation happened.
How are you feeling?
Thanks, auroara...and don't worry, of course I knew what you were 'liking'! ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
I'm sorry about your Mom - that really sucks that she's giving so much pressure for you to have a girl. Maybe you could tell her if she wants a guarantee she can foot the bill for high tech :bigsmile:. I'm sure she, like you, will love any child you produce just as much whether it has a penis or a vagina.
Mocha, thanks hun!
I am totally supportive and happy when others go HT, but that is a route I'll never take because of the unused embryo issue. It would bother me thinking of unwanted sons being left frozen :(( I love my boys so dearly, it would be hard!! I know there are options for that, but I have no money for HT and Mom wouldn't do that either, because of the same thing I have an issue with....but it's a lovely thought, isn't it? The guarantee?
There was a lady on IG that ended up with B/G twins though they transfered two girls....then there was this other lady on IG that did PGD for a girl and ended up pregnant with a boy...wrong embryo transfers...so I have seen some instances of the 100% being like 99%! To me that is absoutely astoudning, to do HT and end up with an opposite....it's almost like....someone is trying to tell those ladies something!
Yup...:HH: She's coming, MJ...she's coming very soon! Sending you EARLY O vibes so you can get things started soon! :cheer:Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
Jamie, a cold would sway girl…that’s a good thing!!! :luck: & :pinksperm:
:wave: Dannikins This thread does move quickly, doesn’t it!?! It’s so hard to tap into that real intuition when you’re so desperately hoping for one thing over another. It kind of clouds your vision. :fx: for you that she’s a :giggle:…Can’t wait until your scan in Jan!!!
Sounds like we don't have to worry about this b/c it's the overall trend that matters...Mocha put my mind at ease yesterday w/Atomic's response to a similar question:Quote:
Originally Posted by maybeoneday
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...-ttc-pink.html
Did AF come for you yet, Maybe?
Lemon, BIG ditto on what Rainbow said!!
Auroara, your Mom sounds like she’s my Mom!!! I didn’t tell her about swaying or anything like that, though. She’s come around now and knows we’ll be trying again b/c we just want a #3 to be our caboose, not our #2 (regardless of the gender). I’m so sorry her words brought you down…I have been down that road a few times last spring/summer. When I was preg last time, I was so scared it was a boy b/c I wanted that baby to be as loved as DS1 & 2 by her. Honestly, it took her a bit to have her :awe: melt w/DS2. If my last preg would have been a healthy boy, I know it would have taken a while for her to love him…not that she’s cold and cruel really but it’s just how she is and that she wanted a girl :gloomy: UGH! I'm not that close w/my Mom and she wonders why...:rolleyes: At least I can learn from her that I should never be that way w/my daughter (or sons)…HUGS :HH:
auroara - I totally understand. I was really just joking, anyway. :wink:
I figure if we're here on the swaying board it's because we don't want to or can't do HT for some reason. It's not something we'd ever consider either, for several reasons: 1) DH is morally against the whole idea, 2) we couldn't afford it in a million years, 3) it's illegal in Canada so we'd have to travel to another country to do it. I'd also never thought of the issue of unused embryos, so there's yet another reason I wouldn't do it!
Thanks for all your support, ladies! I didn't scare away O afterall!!! I got crosshairs this a.m. and am now 3dpo... As I've said earlier, I think all that RepHresh probably canceled out our chances this time. It's been a good learning experience for next time if there's no BFP. I'm just thrilled that my body O'ed!
YAY for O!!!! I'm sure your increased fertility post-m/c will do the trick! I can't wait to hear about your Christmas BFP!Quote:
Originally Posted by Out of the Blue
I don't know, MJ...There's no more RepHresh left in the state of Virginia...It all got squirted up my Va-JJ...Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
:rofl:Quote:
Originally Posted by Out of the Blue
Seriously, though - I think you still have a great chance, and at least you'll know you had the best sway possible when you get your BFP!! If I had any babydust to share, I'd send heaps of it your way.
So happy you O'ed Jen! :celebrate:
And I agree Mocha! Sorry, I'm one of my frumpy moods today, lol. :whip:
I just don't feel like dealing with shoppin' this weekend to finish up Christmas....I do love our xmas tree and seeing the boys face light up! Just not in the mood to deal with the "buying" part of Christmas, ya know? Blah!
Mocha, I think wouldn't even have a glimmer of hope except for the fact that I didn't J&D...I don't think I have any baby dust either but if I do, It's going straight to you!!! :ballerina:
No worries...Why do our own mothers (who are supposed to love us unconditionally) hurt us so easily?!? They just don't realize they do, I guess and are thinking they're doing the best for use by saying what they do. :rolleyes:Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
BTW, swaying during the holiday season just plain sucks...:gloomy:
I have to say, I did 99% of my shopping online this year, and it's made for a far less stressful Christmas. I agree that I'd rather be just about anywhere else than a mall on the weekend before Christmas. Having said that, we still haven't brought the kids to see Santa, so we may brave the mall today as soon as they get out of school. Wish us luck!Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
I did that this year...Bought all the prezzies online the day after our Thanksgiving...All but one are wrapped under the tree. We'll not be seeing Santa this year b/c DS1 is only 3.5 and I think we may be able to get out of it for 1 more year. I'm such a Scrooge-Mama when it comes to that kind of stuff...Next year, we'll have to go for sure as he'll be old enough to give me #E!! if we don't!Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
Jen, u live in the state of Virginia too? I live in Richmond VA, West End, but I'm from Stafford County...that's so cool that we're in the same geographical area!
Wow!!! We live in PWC right now. We're transplants from the West Coast but have been here since 2005. So cool that you live so close! I think Amari lives in Maryland so she's pretty close too...Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
Yay for being 3dpo Jen! I have everything crossed for you, good luck!
Lemon - if you're just ready to get pregnant then it's easy, keep taking your OPKs (although obviously not this month if you've already O'd!) and DTD 2 or 3 days in a row (or DTD on your high and peak days if you're using a monitor) and forget about FR and abstinence. If you really want to be pregnant and not worry at all about swaying just DTD every other day throughout your cycle. I don't know what you mean about your attempt being perfect for a boy - if you're basing that on the timing then that's just not the case!
I just heard back from my doctor's office, and my HCG levels are at 0. Woo hoo! They still don't have the results from my u/s, but I should get those on Monday. In the meantime I'm going to assume all systems are go. So far today I've had no spotting, and my OPKs show a very faint line that was ever so slightly darker today than yesterday. Come on, O! I'd just love it if you decided to arrive a little early this month - CD12 would be PERFECT!
Well ladies, one of my co workers did the pencil divining test on me! LOL, have any of you had this done to you? She has a "special" pencil, and if it moves up and down you have boys and if it moves side to side you've had or will have girl(s). She warned me before hand that it tells even if you've had an abortion or M/C how many children you would have, have or will have.
So....we did it on my left hand and it definitely moved up and down twice, then side to side once, then up and down again before it finished....she swears this pencil tests works for everyone she knews/knows!
So it predicted B B G B for me.....although I am not going for a 4th child, so /scratches head at that one
Kind of cool it predicted girl for me :) I'm a roll with the all the girl predictions! :rofl:
this was just for fun, but wondered if any of ya'll have succumbed to wacky "gender predictions" things such as the pencil test?
we used the wedding ring test on my first, that works the same kind of way, you tie the wedding ring to a piece of cotton, and hold it above the belly if it swings in a circle , its a boy, its its more of an oval its a girl.
Hi auroara!Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
My mom always said something about my three sons which just made me upset! She clearly wanted me to have a daughter! I do not say anything to her anymore bc she has memory issues. It causes a lot of stress in my life and she is being tested for dementia as well as liver disease. My dad has parkinsons so basically I cannot tell them anything. All I know is everyone single family member would want a girl!
What does your mom mean when she says you have to be 100% certain it will be a girl. How does she think you can do that...it is 50-50! Right! I am sorry, I know your mom did not mean it that way,...they want what we want! It does not make it easier!
I am cd 11 and two days of high temperatures. I thought about it today and I figured maybe it was bc I was sick...silly me!
That would make sense!
So, now that I am cd 11...should I keep dtd everyday? Doesn't that sway boy?
We dtd cd9, 10 and this am after a release....last minute shot at what we thought might be o plus 12.
If I o on cd 14...when and how often should we bd?
I agree with Atomic about the temp being up for 3 days,.,....TCOYF says that.
Any advice out there?
When is your attempt auroara?
Any plans?
Ps: I still love the baby pic!
So cute!
Will you try a cut off? or do you believe in timing?
ZAN!!!! I KNOW!Quote:
Originally Posted by zanacal
Thank you, but how do I let it go?
I know you dtd once on o day...but I have spent a year trying to time a 3 day cut off. I am a perfectionist and it became a perfect cut off that I was aiming for instead of a cut off!!!
I am truly not a good person when I think about it and I hate that!
I do everything not to get pregnant to be surprised it is a girl! I just want one soooo badly!
In that way, I figure I will never get one...if you try too hard it just won't happen.
So, given that I thought I od already but still thinking it will come on CD14..and I am cd 11 what should I do?
If I go everyday that sways boy right?
If I do cut off that sways boy?
If I do on o day that sways boy?
WTH sways girl??
We dtd cd 9 pm after abstinence, cd10 pm, cd 11 am after a release...so I am 3.5 days away.
DH says today is kind of a lost cause...shld I wait?
Until when?
How many times?
If anyone can help., I am going crazy...clearly need to get pregnant!!!!!
Oh Mocha...you deserve it!!!!!!!!!!!
I will be thinking of you!
I meant to say I was trying for a 3 day cut off instead of a baby..it was and is an issue!
YES!Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
Sadly, when I was younger we had a group of girls on a girl weekend and we did the test.....it did not work in order but it did show us who wanted kids and who did not. This one girl said she did not want any kids at all and the pencil never moved!
I was supposed to have a boy and girl...and I have two boys!
My girlfriend was supposed to have a girl and then a boy..she had a boy and then a girl.
Maybe there is truth to it!
Anyone else????
Oh, and when I was pregnant the ring always went back and forth !!! Boy!
Dannikins, what happend with you?
What was your sway? I think you did not have one right?
OMgoodness, I want a baby....I just got caught up in trying for a 3 day cut off...sorry, I just wanted to specify as it sounds like I wanted to try when I was infertile. Not the case....! Just ds was a 2 day cut off and as most women, I want to do something different.
Sorry if I sound a bit off.
Lemon, you know I love you, but I think you answered your own question by saying this:Quote:
Originally Posted by lemon2012
THAT'S why you should let it go. You can't get your girl if you can't get pregnant, and a 3 day cut off obviously isn't working for you. :HH:Quote:
Originally Posted by lemon2012
I think if I were in your situation, I'd use some more rephresh and continue to dtd every day until you know O happened. If you're concerned about ending up with too much sperm up there, then take a day or two break - but still have dh release - and do a couple more attempts right around O.
At the same time, I don't want you to have any regrets. If you really can't let the timing thing go, why not do a 2 day cut-off instead of a 3 day one? DTD tonight then stop and hope you O when you think you will. If you don't get your BFP this month, then try a 1 day cut-off next month instead.
Sorry you're feeling so confused - I really hope you get your pink BFP soon!
I know, I sound like an idiot!
But, in fact...the only cut offs that worked were mixed with attempts close to o with shallow penetration and too much rephresh or replens. The ones that did not work were 3.5 day cut offs.....I am too old for this!
So, clearly my goal was to acheive the perfect cut off sway...not possible!
I am ready to switch it up...I think!
I really do want to be home and want my third baby!
I know so many shettles oppposites,.,...what is my problem????
Are you doing a couple of bding around o? Exactly around o?
Does anyone purposely do that?
Just wondering?
I would do a 2 day cut off with frequent as DS 2 was abstain and cut off....!
Either way,...it is 50-50...right?
I guess I better go to bed..I am sick and tired!
Maybe we will make my girl tomorrow????
Thanks everyone for being there!!!
i never really bought into it, because it changed depending on who was holding it, if my hubby was holding it, it went side to side, if my mother was holding it it went in a circle, so i figured it all depends on how steady the hand is of the person holding it.....Quote:
Originally Posted by lemon2012
no i didnt get a chance to sway, i was planning to but got a surprise BFP a week before i was going to start.
a one shot deal 5 days before O, with missionary and J&D, and we both had the flu,, thats the extent of our sway...lol
First of all, you don't sound like an idiot - just someone who is stressed and overwhelmed by all the choices. Like all of us, you want to do the right thing and give yourself the best chance to get your girl.Quote:
Originally Posted by lemon2012
My current plan is to do maybe 2-3 attempts right around O. Lots of people who are swaying for a girl bd on or just before O - I think it may be especially important to do this if you're over 35 and if you're leaving it all down to one attempt, as some do. Also, all the other swaying stuff we do can make it difficult enough to get pregnant as it is, so the way I see it - why add to that difficulty for something that doesn't seem to sway anyway?
I think you need to do what you'll feel most comfortable with. I really hope this is your month.