Oh, jark...I am so sorry you didn't hear girl today. I know your boy will be the sweetest little blue bundle. Hugs to you! Just remember to let yourself feel however you need to. We'll all be here to understand.Quote:
Originally Posted by jark22
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Oh, jark...I am so sorry you didn't hear girl today. I know your boy will be the sweetest little blue bundle. Hugs to you! Just remember to let yourself feel however you need to. We'll all be here to understand.Quote:
Originally Posted by jark22
Thank you ladies!!! :D
Jark, I know it's hard right now and I'm so sorry. ((hugs)) Take all the time you need.. Congrats on your little boy! :HH:
Shocked,congrats on a lovely boy tho:.)Quote:
Originally Posted by jark22
Jark sorry you didn't hear pink today but congrats on your baby boy. I bet he is beautiful and will be a wonderful addition to your family.
Congratulations on your baby boy Jark. I know how you feel. I've been there. Hugs.
Wow Jark im surprised with your update, sorry it didnt go the way you wanted, but congrats on the little boy. Any pics to share if your up to it?
Only penis pictures.
Jark, do you plan on having anymore children?
No this is it. I think it would just be selfish if we tried for another because I would only want another if it was a girl. Having a particularly hard time because I will never ever have a mother daughter relationship again (since my mom passed a few months ago). It really sucks. I can't imagine my life without a daughter....
I'm really having a much harder time than I imagined I would. My face is raw and puffy from the 4 hours of continuous crying. We have absolutely no names. And I am no longer excited for this pregnancy. I just want to have a do-over
Also- add me to the anterior placenta club. Not sure how that's going to work out with a c-section.....
Oh Jark i know exactly how you feel, big hugs hunny, i felt exactly the same with ds3, a dream that strong is so hard to move on from. I hope he brings you as much joy as my little one has brought me and that you find peace with your situation. The daughter thing aside as obviously i'm not dealing very well with that either; 3 boys are really very special and will bring you many many happy moments x
Im so sorry you are having a tough time with it now Jark :( Wish i could wave the wand and give you a do over. Im sure the surgeons will know what to do with your placenta, do you know if it is anterior high or low?
Just had another look at the front page of this thread and i think it is now 12 from 18 have opposites :(
Jark, I am so sorry. I can't imagine my life without a daughter either. The thought of me never having one makes me want to vomit. While I want four kids I feel the same as you...that I would only get pregnant to have a girl. I don't know if I can be happy with four boys. It is okay to feel the way you do. It is hard to be excited when you just lost your hopes and dreams so suddenly. They were ripped out from under us and it hurts A LOT. Give yourself time to cry, as the days go on the pain will ease. I too thought I couldn't be happy or excited for this pregnancy anymore but a month later ...I am. I am still very upset about not having a girl but this baby in my belly isn't the cause of my upset, I love him already and can't wait to hold him.
If this is your last think about the future...as far as it seems away. Your boys will bring many girls into your life and hopefully grand daughters too. Do you have a neice you can spoil and borrow for a few days here and there? I really truly do get that it's not the same as a mother daughter bond but I feel like it's better than nothing if we can't have what we want exactly.
Huge hugs to you, I really wish we all lived closer so we could have an inperson support group!
Mrs P this could be a little too personal but did you have a fourth because it was always the plan or because you wanted one last shot at a girl? I know have lots of time to decide but it's eating me up inside...the thought of another boy and me not being sure I could be happy with that..
Could you be happy with a 4th boy, did you mentally prepare yourself for one? My plan was always 4 no matter what...but now that it's three boys I wonder if I want the 4th. Then there is the whole it could have been a girl thing. How did you make the decision to have another?!
oh and I am no way saying you are only making babies to get girls and you don't love them otherwise!! Because of course you will...but I was just curious about thought process...
I'm so sorry jark :(
I'm sorry Jark :(
I really thought that the stats in this thread just HAD to turn :(
I'm So sorry your are hurting, I'm sending you massive hugs and strength.
Allow yourself to 'grieve' and know that the pain and sorrow will pass.
Do whatever you need to try and make yourself smile.
Hope you feel better soon xo
No its fine i really don't mind questions and try to be honest. We tried again because the pain of never having a daughter was too much for me to bear. Don't get me wrong i love my boys with all my heart and wouldn't trade a single one, i have the family i never knew i always wanted but something is missing. I always wanted 3 kids and never more than one daughter, i wanted a boy and for him to have a brother but i presumed as i wanted a few i should get my little girl in there somewhere. The instant i heard boy at the ultra sound with ds3 i was gutted and i cried so much, dh promised me one more try and i settled and began to look forward to him after a few months but i knew i still i had one more shot. We had a scare with ds2 when ds3 was two months old and i lost a lot of his baby time being scared i'd loose ds2 (he was fine but i was so scared it would happen again) and living with the consequences of what happened to him. After that i was just so grateful for 3 healthy boys and just to get through every day with them but as ds3 grew that desire slowely creeped in again and took a hold of me. It didn't seem fair to try just for a girl so we looked into ht (which was just too much of a gamble costs wise and not something my dh really agreed with) and adoption (but for the most part we had too many biological kids and the wait was 5yrs plus) but i started getting broody again especially as i felt cheated that i lost so much of ds3 real baby time. When we caught i really thought i'd be fine, i've never struggled to fall for my boys, love hit me instantly with all 3 of them and any gd disappeared way before birth - that and i fought massive gd with ds3 and won (even considered adoption or abortion i fell that low - although i knew i couldn't do it, i cried myself silly for weeks feeling cheated and low; didn't help everyone else i knew with 2 boys got their girl). I was sure i could overcome it again.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rosie85
Possibly not the best of decisions as about 5-6 weeks all the old gd feelings came back and i'm right back where i was with ds3 as this really is my last chance. The thought of living a life with regret feels too overwhelming to contemplate and i feel so miserable and down all the time i have even considered a termination and just going back to the way things were, i feel like i have been robbed of my dream already and that just getting pregnant sealed my fate - so i was ok and looking forward to ds4 but now am in a really really bad position and angry at myself for putting my family through this - i just don't feel strong enough to fight for another boy as i know our family will not be supportive (they think 3 boys is more than enough).
Sorry probably not the answer you wanted :sad: but i seem to have lost my positive side lately. I think / am hoping for me its the not knowing that's doing this to me and that i will find peace once i know one way or another that this is a boy, it's the hope thats taunting me
Jark, my heart breaks for you right know and all the others struggling with gd. When I found out my 3rd was a boy I cried for days. The ultrasound tech felt so bad for me... It was horrible, so I know exactly how you're feeling. I have longed for that mother/daughter relationship (like the one I share with my mom) for years. I really didn't think my DH was going to let me try again, especially after the baby we lost back in March would've been boy #4 for us. I apologize for asking this again if you've already answered, but will you guys try for #4? I wish you the best and you'll truly love having 3 boys. :hug2:
I don't know how I'd be able to justify 4 kids. I will just have to suck it up and deal with what I've been handed.
Sending you a huge hug Jark, I'm so sorry. I know how sad you are feeling but believe me it does get better, the first 48 hours for me were horrible. I just wanted to cry, but I am getting my head around it, like you I know having a 4th wouldn't be a good idea as I don't want 4 children and it would only be to have a daughter.
I was so sure the gender mix would start changing on our group, I am shocked.
We're all here for you Jark. xxxxxxxxx
I feel the same way about number 4 if this is a boy. It would be ht or nothing. And I don't even want 4 kids as it is anyway..
Mrs. P, it's okay. It can be easy to lose positivity in that situation, I know I would feel the exact same. So I understand your answer, it makes sense and I see where you are coming from. It is always easier to be positive when you are not "locked" in a position. I really do hope your baby girl is in there right now. I want that so badly for you.
The more I read the more pissed off I get. I can't understand this opposite trend. I do believe we were all brought together for a reason, but this shouldn't be why. I'm really sorry Jark. I didn't know you lost your mom. And I apogize if I sound like a jerk, but this just makes no sense. I don't even think Atomic could say something that would make me understand this.
If spinning doesn't hear girl I think I'm going to light my computer on fire!!!
I do agree that the first 48 hours are terrible, but reading the first posts when someone hears the opposite is devastating. I almost go through it all over again because I know how you feel. All I can say is I'm here for each and every one of you. Trying to talk to someone irl seems impossible.
I agree with you Rosie. I wish we all lived closer to eachother. We'd make one hell of a support group.
I'm sorry.
I hope this wasn't for me...lol. You're great. I just can't believe our trend.Quote:
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MrsP I felt exactly the same as you do now. That my life was totally over and the slight hope of that dream was gone all together! As it turns out for me it was :( I'm slowly coming to terms with the idea of 4 boys. Also have really considered number 5!!!! And I know it's only cause I want my girl!
I do love and adore this little man in my tummy now and can't wait to meet him. I just hope and pray you have that baby girl in there fx for you xx
Jark I'm gutted for you. Life is so unfair sometimes give your self sometime to grieve it does get easier (sorry, doesn't stop hurting) but you will truly love this little one with all your heart I promise you.
Sending big big hugs xx
3m I totally agree with what you said. I get so upset when I hear opposites on here it breaks my heart every time. xx
I would love to watch a computer burn...lol Just don't smell it Three...toxic chemicals!
I hope it doesn't come to that. She better hear girl!!! I pray for her all the time. Love you spinning!!
Thanks for thinking of me Rosie...lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rosie85
No problemo! It's what I do Three!
And that's why I love ya Rosie!!!
Here's my newest penis. Are those white lines the scrotum? I never had a scan this early (that could show gender) - so it looks a lot different from my other boys. Thanks for being so supportive, girls!
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Jark sorry you didn't get your girl. So many of us having to deal with GD doesn't seem real! But like the others said, it does get better over time. I'm so glad I found you ladies to share these feelings with, cause irl people probably think I'm crazy.. One of our 'spiritual' friends once told us that babies who are born at a certain period of time, all have a joint cosmic mission. So maybe all our boys will save the world someday?
Love you ladies, you are always on my mind, and even in my dreams xxx
That was such a nice thing to say Grace. I think we have a special bond in this thread...hence the billion posts already. My husband refers to you all as my computer friends. I told him he should be jealous...lol. I've never met some of the most amazing women on this site. The only thing that seperates us is distance. We all share so many things in common. This site has helped me so much, and I'm sure it will continue as my pregnancy progresses and my little guy is born. I do believe we were meant to come together, I just wish our group didn't have as many opposites. I love you ladies!!
Jark--I am really shocked at the news! I know you are so happy you have a healthy, beautiful baby boy, but I understand your grief right now. I'll be thinking of you these next few days as you adjust and fall in love (in your own time). ((Hugs hugs hugs))!!
I agree with everything the other lovely ladies have said... And I just wanted to say I'm so sorry too jark! I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better :(
Lol I just saw this. I'll burn mine too probably Lol. I love you girls.
We had ds1 and ds2 birthday party today. Crazy day. I'm exhausted, took a zofran to get through it. I was anxious all morning I think bc of stupid nub guesses so I'm glad the party was distracting!
When I do find out gender , wedsnesday.. Eek!! I won't tell anyone IRL ( I will def post here!) I think, I feel like once the baby is born I won't hear as many stupid comments, either way . I wish I could at least tell my mom
But she cannot keep a secret to save her life lol.
If only I would have had a group like this back in 2007.. :) I love how wonderful and supportive all of you are, this is such a sweet group! :HH:
Thinking pink thoughts for you, Spinning and always sending healthy baby vibes!