thanks! Honestly if it is a boy I hope that I will deal with it as well as some of you have on here.
I really admire you girls for that and I just don't think I will be as.. strong about it as all of you are
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thanks! Honestly if it is a boy I hope that I will deal with it as well as some of you have on here.
I really admire you girls for that and I just don't think I will be as.. strong about it as all of you are
I'll be having a c-section as well....my fourth one in fact...the doc didn't act like it would be a problem about my anterior placenta, but she did mention that they would "check" on it with another scan later...but she didn't say exactly when, so I assumed at the very end. Let me know if you find out anything about that. Hugs again....I am so sorry this day has been such a difficult one for you.Quote:
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I love all you ladies too!! I like the idea of a cosmic mission and our boys will save the world someday!! Lovely thoughts to think!
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Im the same, I want to know now as there is hope for a girl but Ive got that what if its not and Ive now got my hopes up.. I wouldnt have been as bothered before, I really didnt care as much before I knew that the nub was girly but now its all I want to hear.. My scan isnt until the 2nd Jan.. A month today (Ive added a ticker on my siggy lol) I'll have to live through you ladies until then x Oh and snap as I had my DS1 & DS2's bday party today lol They are a day apart?? When are you boys b'days??
Jark - Im so very sorry you didnt get your DG, It sucks so many are hearing the opposite, I really feel for you hon, Im glad baby is healthy and hopefully at some stage you can come to terms with it all :( - in the meantime we are here for you whenever you need to x
Lol that's funny . Mine are actually nov 24 and dec 23. So I just combined their parties , which they asked to do, and put it in the middle . If I do It later in dec it gets so busy with Xmas no one can come! When are your boys bdays?
30th Nov & 1st Dec so makes it easier to do a joint party but it also makes for a busy few days as I still like them to have a special little family dinner for each b'day.. To say I am exhausted is an understatement!
Is anyone else still having trouble in the baby name department? I'm pretty sure my lil man will be Colton Allen (sounds like a future country singer to me ;) lol), but I am having such a hard time committing 100% to it, and I don't know why. It fits well with my other boys, and its my favorite of our choices so far, so why can't I just say, "yes, that is his name?" It seemed so much easier to commit on my older boys' names!
Sounds like a great name to me :) I was the same with the name we have chosen if we end up with a boy, but we told DD about it and she said the name and it just sounded so cute coming out of her mouth that now i love it and we have agreed 100% if its a boy he will be called Cyrus.Quote:
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Thanks, my DS1 says it too and it sounds so cute! I love how little ones say things :) I absolutely love the name and all, I just don't know why I'm having trouble saying that's for sure it. I heard someone at the store today call his little baby Colton, and it just sounded so sweet for a baby! And btw I love the name Cyrus!!
I'm so sorry you didn't hear girl Jark, congratulations on your little man x
Atomic, you have nothing to be sorry for.Quote:
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You provide an immeasurable amount of knowledge, data, assistant and support to all the women on here.
Our sways didn't fail because of something you did or didn't say, they failed because of bad luck.
Swaying, by the very definition of the word, is only at best a marginal likelihood of potentially altering the outcome, we all undertake swaying knowing full well that really it's still just a roll of the dice, of course it hurts when it doesn't work, of course we look for answers as to 'why' it didn't work, but for some things in life there simply are no answers.....and who gets what gender and why is one of those things for which there are no answer for. Why does a 30 year old who has never smoked, die of lung cancer, whilst a 85yr old that has smoked a pack a day their entire lives is still alive and kicking?? Just because the pack a day smoker didn't get lung cancer doesn't mean that smoking doesn't cause cancer - it does. And in that same vein, just because many of the sways have failed on here doesn't mean that swaying doesn't work, for some people it does.
When I have asked questions and made comments about the statistical anomaly that seems to be happening in this thread, please know that I am not questioning you, your knowledge, or the advice that you have give out. I'm a numbers person through and through. My entire day job is statistical analysis, lots of mind numbing data crunching, analysing, forecasting, identifying anomalies, basically explaining and justifying everything in numbers, probability and statistics. Being a numbers persons I automatically scratch my head when numbers just don't add up......and as far as the contributors in this thread go, the gender split doesn't make statistical sense, and is well outside of what I would understand to be normal gender splits. It's stood out to me, and I've commented on it and questioned it, but in that questioning its not YOU or any information and advice that YOU have provided that I am questioning just the statistical anomaly. It's not the high number of failed sways that make me scratch my head, but the unusually high number of boys - sway or no sway. I get that sways will and do fail, what I haven't got is why the gender split here is nowhere near the 51/49 average.
I hope you understand what I'm saying, I have always held you in high regard and have a great deal of respect for you, your knowledge and the information you provide, and that respect hasn't changed because my sway failed, or because so many of the sways in this group of have failed - I realise that that's something that has come down to bad luck, an unusually high concentration of bad luck, but just bad luck all the same.
So long waffle aside, you have nothing to be sorry for, and I don't think that anybody ever could, or would, blame you for their gender outcome.
I was chatting to my mum last night and she was saying she had been over at one of her friends houses who had just had their second grand daughter arrive. I asked if she had told them I was expecting another boy and she said yes she had and that they had said I should go for 4 as 3 was an odd number! Her friend had 4 children but she had two boys and then 2 girls. Apparently my mum had said that she thought I was stopping at three so definitely no granddaughters for her. Made me feel so sad :(
My 94 year old Nan said yesterday that it had better be a girl as she was sick of hearing boy LOL I said well I guess I wont be telling you then if I have a boy lol Luckily I know what she means but still it adds to that pressure I feel of how many people I may "disappont" if I dont have a girl. My dad and his wife have basically said the same as my nan but in not so direct terms. The only one who has tried very hard not to add pressure is my mum - she has basically said we make beautiful boys and would be so happy for us to have another one as they are perfect - i know deep down though she would be sad as it would also mean no granddaughters for her either :(
Lassie I dont know Atomic as I havent been on GD for long but what you wrote was so nice, Im sure she knows there is no blame here - I agree though the stats arent promising..
1 month before I find out!! 1 whole agonising month AAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I must be the last one to find out right?? You'll all be over the whole thing by then lol
Amen Lassie!!! So well put. Atomic is amazing. It's our stats that suck...lol.
I'm done having babies. But if I were to have another one, I'd get another personalized plan. Even though my sway didn't work, I think the plan does. And if I could go back and do one thing over, I would've been on the diet another few weeks before my attempt.
Atomic, you are amazing. And you work very hard to help us. I did everything different and I'm so happy about that. NO REGRETS!!! Thanks again Atomic.
And thank you ladies. You have helped me get over my gd.
I think Atomic and everyone else on this site are doing an amazing work and are helping so many women and families around the world. I have not a bad word to say at all, I can only blame myself for my failed sway. However, there's a lot about swaying that we don't know yet and new data is accumulated all the time. I feel like we are all taking part in a great and highly important experiment, and it would comfort me to know that something can be learned from our failed sways in order to improve the outcome for future swayers, may they be us or other women. That's why I think it's important for Atomic and her team to study our sways so they might be able to make something good come out of our disappointments. Hope I made my point without confusing anyone xx
Bimby, you and I have the same due date--and I think we're finding out the same day, too! I hope there's still some people hanging around this group by that time. :) Well, if not, we can just hang out here by ourselves and whine about how long the wait is--HA! And I understand about the family pressures for producing a specific gender...the first thing my wonderful dad said when I announced I was pregnant was, "I sure would love a little granddaughter!" Blech. He kind of apologized later, but it still stung a little. Oh, well. He's a wonderful father and granddad otherwise, so I guess I can let that comment slide. ;)Quote:
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I also enjoy keeping up with this group quite a lot--you ladies are so supportive and encouraging!
TTP: Im so glad I'll still have someone to wait with :) You're team green!!!! you are one strong woman!! DH & I were meant to be team green but when the sonographer asked at our NT scan if we wanted to know I was like "yeah" without even thinking. Even if I didnt find out I would be scouring the dvd for clues like I did my last DS and Id drive myself bonkers even more lol Good on you though, it will be such a wonderful surprise on the day :)
Yeah, I need to update my sig...I am so not going Team Green anymore. :rofl: I waited with DS1, and it was amazing to find out at the birth--truly one of the best, happiest moments of my life! I recall that moment often, and think, "Come on, it's worth the wait." But I am dying to know with this one, so much so that I have decided to go ahead and find out. :) So, come on January 2!!!!!
Well then it will be an exciting day on the 2nd Jan for us :) I wish I could hold out but not this time I'm afraid. Here's Hoping the next month goes quick for us x
Just told my boys they will be getting a baby brother. They are sad because they want a baby sister. I feel like I let them down. I feel like I let everyone down. My husband will never get to walk anyone down the aisle..... My father was really hoping for a granddaughter. Everyone was hoping for a girl.....as if it would somehow make the loss of my mom a bit more bearable. This just sucks. I want a do-over. It's just not fair. I couldn't get to sleep till 3:30am because I couldn't stop crying. I'm still crying. I feel like this is never going to get better. There aren't any names that I truly love.....and I really wanted to honor my mom by using her name. But now I can't do that since its a boy. I think this news has just intensified my grieving. I'm not sure I would be taking it this badly if my mom was still here and healthy.
My husband is trying to be understanding but he just doesn't get it. He thinks that I should just be happy because I have 2 awesome boys already and another healthy one on the way. And of course I'm happy about those things- but it doesn't take away the fact that I will never experience a girl. Sorry to be such a Debbie Downer- you're the only ones who could possibly understand.
Jark my hubby is the same, he gets quite cross with me about it so I just don't say anything to him anymore. GD sucks and I think unless you have been through it you just don't get it.
Remember that your mum is looking down on you keeping an eye out for you, she'll always be with you in your heart regardless of the gender of this baby.
I got really upset for a while because before my scan I had been praying hard to my Dad that if he could see me and help that please may he send me a little girl this time to complete our family. Of course when I heard boy I felt like that meant he had truly gone. Totally crazy really.
I try and remember that life only throws at us what we can deal with, no matter how hard or impossible it seems. It is extra hard at the moment because we had been daring to dream about having a little girl, and without our new little man in our arms we forget how precious he will be. As the others have said maybe life has big plans for all our gorgeous boys, and as you know when you look at your sons you wouldn't swap them for anything.
Give yourself time, it will get easier I promise. I found it helped to think that although 4 children wasn't something I had ever wanted to have that I shouldn't rule it out.
Big hugs xxxxxxx
Oh jark big big hugs to you. I promise you the pain and sadness will ease. That little man of yours was truly meant to be with you, maybe your mum sent him to you for a reason that you don't know yet.
Let it all out sweetie it'll make you feel better xx
Jark I totally understand. My ds1 really wants a girl and especially after last time he wants one even more, I know I will also feel like I'm letting him down. And my mil. And fil etc. I'm glad you can come express yourself here and i hope you know that we understand. I'm sorry you are so sad :( I just hope when you hold your little guy you feel some peace with it
:( I'm sorry, Jark. I hope it gets easier with time and you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. You will no doubt love him to pieces when he's born.
The past two evenings/nights I've been feeling queasy again. Bleh. I don't think I've been eating enough during the day, probably...
I weighed myself for the first time since I got pregnant and I am SHOCKED how much weight I've gained. :( Probably 15lbs at least... what the hell...
Oh jark I'm so sorry your finding things hard right now :( your little man obviously choose your family for a good reason and I'm sure he will be an amazing addition and your boys will love him so much and so will u hunni! Your not letting anyone down at all!
I'm sorry so many of you havent heard the news you wanted :( I hate GD......so wish I had a magic wand! Xxxx
Just reading through the posts on the last few pages and I really wish there was something I could say to help those who are so upset. I am so sorry some of you are having to deal with such strong GD, I really wish everyone could have heard what they wanted to at their scans. I am praying that the disappointment will ease as time goes on for those suffering though and am sorry if I am saying the wrong thing but just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you all.
(((((bighugs))))) Jark
I was thinking about having 3 boys and how it scares me bc ds1 and Ds2 fight a lot sometimes and ds1 one says he doesn't like him and wants a baby girl this time.. Anyway I wonder if it is boy #3 if ds1 will be close with him. Dh Is the oldest and extremely close to his youngest brother , not so much to the middle one.
My two older brothers still don't like each other to this day... however, the two older brothers like the younger/my younger brother (I have 3 brothers! :cool:) In our age ranges... they go 41, 37, 27 (me), and 25.
Your boys are still very young. Mine are now 3.5 and 5 years old - and the fighting has really decreased. They play together much better now. I hope the fighting gets better for your boys. It can be exhausting, right?Quote:
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My 2 boys love each other so far so I hope that stays. My DH & his bro are pretty good mates so I guess it depends. I know my dad and his brother dont talk at all, crazy hey :(
Surgena Im a monster, really I am!! I had some ladies from my DS1's kindy ask how far along I was and I saw them nearly choke lol They then said that they didnt believe I was only 16 weeks (luckily I didnt say I could infact only be 15 weeks lol) I always put on weight quickly, I just hope it slows down or Im in trouble lol
Jark, Im just so sorry you are feeling so down hon, I wish I knew what to say to make it easier for you. thinking of all of you ladies that didnt get their desired gender, I hope you know we are here for you whenever you need us x
I am just now catching up and I am so sorry for those of y'all who have heard opposites. I really thought that the luck would turn around with this group.
I just got back from my grandmother's funeral. It has been an awful few days and I am so exhausted and emotionally spent. And then at the funeral all people wanted to talk about was how huge I am for 15 weeks, and predicting whether this baby would be a boy or a girl... So basically I've been crying out of grief AND hurt feelings all day. I am ready to go to my own house and hide out until next weeks gender scan.
Shell so sorry about your grandmother :( Hopefully you can get some well deserved rest and relaxation when you get home.
Jark yeah , they are young, I think it just makes me sad that they don't get along when they fight. Part of it is their personalities , ds1 is an introvert and rather just be alone sometimes and ds2 is an extrovert and very bossy
I know the skull theory is kind of pointless, but I've tried reading the explanation post on it and I still don't quite get it... because then I read conflicting statements elsewhere. It must really be grasping at straws in that case.
Shell~ I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother. (((Hugs)))
About the boys fighting... My two oldest boys are 16 and 13.5 and they fight constantly. They are always bickering about something and it drives me crazy. My DH has a brother about the same age difference and my DH said when they got into highschool the fighting stopped. My oldest is a junior and you'd think he'd grow up by now. They'll both be in highschool together next year so I'm praying that will be our magic year and they finally get along.
Girls with 3 boys: please tell me you love it and things to look forward to. Everyone at work was giving me the sympathy face today and they didn't even know how much I wanted a girl. One woman, who has 3 boys, just kept telling me she was sorry. When I asked her why she said "oh you'll see why". Someone else told me that they couldn't see me as a 'girl mom' anyway. What is that supposed to mean? The comments are just the worst......
Ugh! People say the weirdest things to pregnant and expecting women, from gender to body... everything. It never helps or is complimentary or nice.Quote:
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