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[Lassie1982]

I'm sorry.

Atomic, you have nothing to be sorry for.
You provide an immeasurable amount of knowledge, data, assistant and support to all the women on here.
Our sways didn't fail because of something you did or didn't say, they failed because of bad luck.
Swaying, by the very definition of the word, is only at best a marginal likelihood of potentially altering the outcome, we all undertake swaying knowing full well that really it's still just a roll of the dice, of course it hurts when it doesn't work, of course we look for answers as to 'why' it didn't work, but for some things in life there simply are no answers.....and who gets what gender and why is one of those things for which there are no answer for. Why does a 30 year old who has never smoked, die of lung cancer, whilst a 85yr old that has smoked a pack a day their entire lives is still alive and kicking?? Just because the pack a day smoker didn't get lung cancer doesn't mean that smoking doesn't cause cancer - it does. And in that same vein, just because many of the sways have failed on here doesn't mean that swaying doesn't work, for some people it does.

When I have asked questions and made comments about the statistical anomaly that seems to be happening in this thread, please know that I am not questioning you, your knowledge, or the advice that you have give out. I'm a numbers person through and through. My entire day job is statistical analysis, lots of mind numbing data crunching, analysing, forecasting, identifying anomalies, basically explaining and justifying everything in numbers, probability and statistics. Being a numbers persons I automatically scratch my head when numbers just don't add up......and as far as the contributors in this thread go, the gender split doesn't make statistical sense, and is well outside of what I would understand to be normal gender splits. It's stood out to me, and I've commented on it and questioned it, but in that questioning its not YOU or any information and advice that YOU have provided that I am questioning just the statistical anomaly. It's not the high number of failed sways that make me scratch my head, but the unusually high number of boys - sway or no sway. I get that sways will and do fail, what I haven't got is why the gender split here is nowhere near the 51/49 average.

I hope you understand what I'm saying, I have always held you in high regard and have a great deal of respect for you, your knowledge and the information you provide, and that respect hasn't changed because my sway failed, or because so many of the sways in this group of have failed - I realise that that's something that has come down to bad luck, an unusually high concentration of bad luck, but just bad luck all the same.

So long waffle aside, you have nothing to be sorry for, and I don't think that anybody ever could, or would, blame you for their gender outcome.

[mummypink]

I was chatting to my mum last night and she was saying she had been over at one of her friends houses who had just had their second grand daughter arrive. I asked if she had told them I was expecting another boy and she said yes she had and that they had said I should go for 4 as 3 was an odd number! Her friend had 4 children but she had two boys and then 2 girls. Apparently my mum had said that she thought I was stopping at three so definitely no granddaughters for her. Made me feel so sad

[Bimby]

My 94 year old Nan said yesterday that it had better be a girl as she was sick of hearing boy LOL I said well I guess I wont be telling you then if I have a boy lol Luckily I know what she means but still it adds to that pressure I feel of how many people I may "disappont" if I dont have a girl. My dad and his wife have basically said the same as my nan but in not so direct terms. The only one who has tried very hard not to add pressure is my mum - she has basically said we make beautiful boys and would be so happy for us to have another one as they are perfect - i know deep down though she would be sad as it would also mean no granddaughters for her either

Lassie I dont know Atomic as I havent been on GD for long but what you wrote was so nice, Im sure she knows there is no blame here - I agree though the stats arent promising..

1 month before I find out!! 1 whole agonising month AAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I must be the last one to find out right?? You'll all be over the whole thing by then lol

[ThreeMenAndALAdy]

Amen Lassie!!! So well put. Atomic is amazing. It's our stats that suck...lol.

I'm done having babies. But if I were to have another one, I'd get another personalized plan. Even though my sway didn't work, I think the plan does. And if I could go back and do one thing over, I would've been on the diet another few weeks before my attempt.

Atomic, you are amazing. And you work very hard to help us. I did everything different and I'm so happy about that. NO REGRETS!!! Thanks again Atomic.

And thank you ladies. You have helped me get over my gd.

[Grace]

I think Atomic and everyone else on this site are doing an amazing work and are helping so many women and families around the world. I have not a bad word to say at all, I can only blame myself for my failed sway. However, there's a lot about swaying that we don't know yet and new data is accumulated all the time. I feel like we are all taking part in a great and highly important experiment, and it would comfort me to know that something can be learned from our failed sways in order to improve the outcome for future swayers, may they be us or other women. That's why I think it's important for Atomic and her team to study our sways so they might be able to make something good come out of our disappointments. Hope I made my point without confusing anyone xx

[Turning the page]

1 month before I find out!! 1 whole agonising month AAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I must be the last one to find out right?? You'll all be over the whole thing by then lol

Bimby, you and I have the same due date--and I think we're finding out the same day, too! I hope there's still some people hanging around this group by that time. Well, if not, we can just hang out here by ourselves and whine about how long the wait is--HA! And I understand about the family pressures for producing a specific gender...the first thing my wonderful dad said when I announced I was pregnant was, "I sure would love a little granddaughter!" Blech. He kind of apologized later, but it still stung a little. Oh, well. He's a wonderful father and granddad otherwise, so I guess I can let that comment slide.
I also enjoy keeping up with this group quite a lot--you ladies are so supportive and encouraging!

[Bimby]

TTP: Im so glad I'll still have someone to wait with You're team green!!!! you are one strong woman!! DH & I were meant to be team green but when the sonographer asked at our NT scan if we wanted to know I was like "yeah" without even thinking. Even if I didnt find out I would be scouring the dvd for clues like I did my last DS and Id drive myself bonkers even more lol Good on you though, it will be such a wonderful surprise on the day

[Turning the page]

Yeah, I need to update my sig...I am so not going Team Green anymore. I waited with DS1, and it was amazing to find out at the birth--truly one of the best, happiest moments of my life! I recall that moment often, and think, "Come on, it's worth the wait." But I am dying to know with this one, so much so that I have decided to go ahead and find out. So, come on January 2!!!!!

[Bimby]

Well then it will be an exciting day on the 2nd Jan for us I wish I could hold out but not this time I'm afraid. Here's Hoping the next month goes quick for us x

[jark22]

Just told my boys they will be getting a baby brother. They are sad because they want a baby sister. I feel like I let them down. I feel like I let everyone down. My husband will never get to walk anyone down the aisle..... My father was really hoping for a granddaughter. Everyone was hoping for a girl.....as if it would somehow make the loss of my mom a bit more bearable. This just sucks. I want a do-over. It's just not fair. I couldn't get to sleep till 3:30am because I couldn't stop crying. I'm still crying. I feel like this is never going to get better. There aren't any names that I truly love.....and I really wanted to honor my mom by using her name. But now I can't do that since its a boy. I think this news has just intensified my grieving. I'm not sure I would be taking it this badly if my mom was still here and healthy.

My husband is trying to be understanding but he just doesn't get it. He thinks that I should just be happy because I have 2 awesome boys already and another healthy one on the way. And of course I'm happy about those things- but it doesn't take away the fact that I will never experience a girl. Sorry to be such a Debbie Downer- you're the only ones who could possibly understand.