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Yeah, that's how my DH is.... he was fine with us adding a 4th child, but isn't real to him yet, you know? Once the baby is actually here.... well, I guess we'll see how it goes! He loses his patience with the older kids a lot, because he expects a lot of them.Quote:
Originally Posted by fivebabies
Yeah, Mocha, my DH hates it when I am late--and he doesn't do much to help either! He will get himself ready, and then go watch TV or whatever until it is time to go, and then complain that we are running behind. It makes me crazy!Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
I long for one of those super involved, fun DHs that enjoys parenting. I have a few friends with DHs like that--too bad I didn't get one!
Lert him be silent then, Mocha! It's because he knows you're RIGHT!!! :)
You're right, fivebabies! He always gives me the silent treatment when he knows he's messed up and I'm right. He HATES being wrong! He also hates how capable I am with the kids and I've always sorta felt he resented me for my calm approach to mothering 3 (now 4) kids.
Hobber - I've always wished I had one of those husbands too, but I definitely don't! It's funny, because my Mom's relationship with my Dad wasn't great and he really wasn't involved in our upbringing much at all except as a breadwinner, so she made a point of raising me as a strong, feminist woman. I did two BAs and two Masters Degrees and was working as a curator at Canada's largest museum by the time I was 30. But then I got married, started having kids, and here I am in the same sort of relationship she was in! In fact, sometimes my dh is so similar to my Dad in attitudes, etc. it creeps me out. Especially since my Dad and I never really got along that well. Thank god I have my 4 beautiful kids - it means I could never regret marrying dh, since if I hadn't I wouldn't have them :HH:.
Mocha--my DH is like my dad in a lot of ways too! My dad and I have a great relationship, though. The traits DH and my dad share are mostly negative ones, sadly. I love my DH--I shouldn't be so hard on him--but he isn't exactly what I signed up for, you know?
At least you can see the positives in all of this. I think someday when the kids are older, my DH will be a little mellower. Hopefully yours will too!
God, I'm glad i"m not the only one! I was starting to wonder..how did we EVEN make this baby even when he's getting on my last nerve lately? hehe
DS2 is such a pita too. He tossed my entire dinner (I had to get the baby) it was unguarded! all over the floor...among other highlights today. I swear he has become a monster...ugh...I am trying so hard to stay patient w/ him and make sure he gets his alone attention too, etc. But if you don't keep your eyes glued to him, he will and does destroy whatever's in sight!
Wow, I've had to do some catching up!!
Congrats, Mocha! :D
So, I was so tired when I originally posted, I forgot what I said. But here's the shortest version possible. :D
I got up to pee in the early morning (typical, haha) and when I got back to bed, I sat down and my waters just broke right there, no warning. I had no contractions or anything. I called my husband (he had stayed at his mom's place since he had to work late and they are in the same town) and my mom and they both eventually got to our house. We were admitted around 8am and the Doc on call was super nice and let me labor without breaking my fore-waters (I was worried about baby position). By 1pm with not much progress, I told her to go ahead and then labor started really well. I walked and sat in the tub, etc. By 7cm the pain was at it's worst and I got back in the bed because I was nervous that baby would be around soon. 3 contractions later, my body wanted to push so I told the nurse urgently, she checked me and I was definitely ready to go. I had to NOT push since we had to wait for the doctor. Once I was allowed to go for it, Baby Girl came out (posterior!!) in a matter of minutes!
8lbs 19 inches at 35 weeks. Crazy! I was measuring big at my appointments. I can't imagine if I went the whole way. She had a week stay in the NICU that was absolute torture for me... I have the utmost respect for mommas that have babies there for super long stays. It's just the worst to get discharged from the hospital without your baby.
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OMG Lynxie, she's SO dang Precious!!!! :)
Congrats again!
Auroara, I LOVE your new Avatar pic! Sooo sweet!!!! :)
I'm finally home from hospital!!!
How is everyone? Update me!!
Lynxie - congratulations and woweeeee 8 pd at 35 weeks!!!
YAY!!!! How are you doing sweetie? :)Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
My update is 20 wks..it's a GIRL! lol
I'm very tired and worn out :(
Congratulations Butterfly on your confirmation!!!!! Now you can completely relax and enjoy your bump to the full xxx
5, so glad your home at last:hug2: I hope you can get some rest and things stay nice and settled for you so that you can enjoy that little man to the fullest xxx
UGH, I'm sorry babe, what did they do to you!? :(Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
:HH: Thank you ELP, I celebrated and bought the dress in my avatar! :) I posted a better pic on Vitex Journey.Quote:
Originally Posted by ELP
Oh she is gorgeous !!!!! Lynxie!!! Is she feeding well??
Glad you are home TTC5!! I bet it will be sooo nice to be in your own bed.
I had a scan today and at 34 weeks and 3 days my baby is 2.7kgs!!! He is going to be a BIG one too! as he is already not far from 6 pounds. How much weight on average do theyput on a week??
Sweet little Ivy! So lovely to see her and read how it all went Lynxie.
TTC5, you have been through the wringer. Good to hear you're out of hospital and hope things go well from now on.
Pinkin, I don't know how much they put on, just that it is mostly what they are busy doing towards the end. How are you holding up? Only a couple more weeks to go!
Auroara, Mocha and Hobber, I feel for you all with your DHs. I am nervous how mine will cope with this one. I am sure he suffered post natal depression after I had DS2! When he describes his memories of DS2 as a baby, you would think he just cried and never slept, when in reality he was even easier than DS1 (who was pretty textbook). Apparently depression is really common for DHs after a new arrival, so I will be watching him just as closely as myself! I think the men feel quite helpless with a newborn as the baby needs its mother so much. And because the baby takes all our time and attention, they feel neglected. Part of me thinks they should just deal with it, and another part feels sympathy for them.
Auroara, I hope Lillian feels better soon. Not nice when a baby has a cold. It is such a huge adjustment for your DS2. He'll get there, but he is still a baby himself, so he is probably wondering why he isn't the centre of your universe all of a sudden.
I hurt my back on Sunday so have been lying low for a couple of days. Went to my hydrotherapy class tonight and it feels good at the moment, so FX it is alright in the morning.
Lynxie - great pictures! I can't believe she was a preemie - she looks bigger and healthier than most full term babies! She's just gorgeous!
TTC5 - so glad you're home.
Auroara - sorry about the cold. I've had a horrible cough since coming home from the hospital and I keep worrying Sadie's going to get it.
Well, I survived the big kid shuffle yesterday. The big boys got off to school incident-free, but ds3 decided he didn't want to go to preschool and we had to carry him there kicking and screaming. I eventually had to bribe him with the promise of a new toy if he could be brave and stay.
My plans to hit the mall while he was there didn't pan out as I had discovered my new car seat doesn't work in any of my old strollers, and my new Moby Wrap hadn't arrived in the mail yet. Luckily the Moby Wrap arrived later that morning so I was able to wear Sadie for the walk to pick up the older boys at school.
My midwife came for her last home visit. Sadie was already past her birthweight at 5 days old and I feel almost fully recovered, so I don't need to see her for another week.
I picked up the boys at school, then almost immediately left for swimming lessons. All went well until afterwards when ds3 utterly refused to let me dress him. I spent about 15 minutes sitting on the wet dressing room floor trying every threat and bribe I could think of while he screamed and yelled. The entire dressing room was watching us. Eventually I had to hold him down And force the clothes on him or we would never have gotten out of there. Sadie, bless her heart, slept through the whole thing.
So, obviously ds3 isn't adjusting well to having a baby sister. Hopefully today will go better.
She is beautiful lynxie, glad everything is well with her. TTC5 glad your home, hope everything is going ok
Mocha, I see your ds3 isn't adjusting well like my ds2 isn't. I am actually dreading today with him...I must be the worst momma for dreading spending time with my own son....it's just he's soooo destructive....it's impossible not to let it get to me....
Lynxie, Ivy is sooooo adorable!!! and she was such a good size for 35 weeks!
butterfly, I love your avatar...that dress is soooo adorable!!
5, why were you in the hospital exactly..complications from labor?
and anyone else i forgot, hello and I luv ya!
Sounds JUST like DD2! She is a complete and total terror. I think she is my bad karma for having such horrible GD with her. Yesterday she poured several cups of water on the floor (at different times), climbed up on the counter and got into various things, ripped up some un-opened mail, stole my phone and ran off with it, kicked me in the head (that may have been an accident because we were laying together on the couch), drew on the walls, etc etc etc. It is never ending. She makes me INSANE.Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
Lynxie, Ivy is so cute! And she doesn't look like a preemie at all!
Peony, I am sorry your back hurts.... hope it feels better today. You are probably right about the DH's feeling helpless--but I still get annoyed with mine.
TTC5, glad you made it home! Are you feeling better? How is baby Daniel?
Mocha, sounds like you did pretty well yesterday! Aside from DS3's meltdown, which I sure was a pain. Hopefully things will get easier as time goes on.
pinkin, your baby sounds like he will be a good size! That must be reassuring. How are you feeling? Only about 2 weeks to go, right?
I have been taking it as easy as possible, because I really need the baby to stay in until next monday or tuesday. But by taking it easy, I am laying around and letting the housework pile up--because no one around here does ANYTHING except me! DH does a few dishes and helps with the kids, and makes dinner sometimes, but really, that's it He has never vacuumed/swept/cleaned a bathroom/done laundry EVER. My step mom gets here on Saturday and my best friend gets here Sunday, so I need the house to be presentable.
Thanks everyone!!
Yep, she's totally the same size as a full-term but she definitely acts like a preemie so far! I had one really bratty woman tell me that 8lbs isn't a preemie and NICU was an expensive unneeded idea... I was like, Excuse me?!?! She was born before she was supposed to be and had to be in the NICU for the longest week of my life (warming bed, blood glucose heel pricks every 3 hours, monitored breathing, etc). Pretty sure that qualifies as premature.
She's pretty decent at breastfeeding but she tires quite easily. She sleeps awesome and so far has only been having an awake stint around 3 or 4am...but then once she calms down and eats, she goes right back to sleep. I usually pump an hour or so after she nurses so that I can make sure my supply stays okay. Also taking Fenugreek and all that fun stuff. I'm actually waiting for the Lactation Consultant from the hospital to call me back so I can meet with someone at some point. It's sort of weird dealing with preemie issues. :)
Lynxie, why would someone dare argue with you about that? How rude! It sounds like despite being a preemie, Ivy is doing well. Hope the lactation consultant helps you out!
OMG...huge congratulation on the birth of your baby girl, she is gorgeous and such a good weight xxx
Just a quick update from me before i try get some sleep. Couple of days ago i had reduced fetal movement and then yesterday i thought my waters broke. Felt like little bubble pop then my knickers were wet, then trickles etc...went to delivery suite to get checked out baby still not moving so was out on monitor and his heart rate was fine. Dr did internal and said the there wasn't enough fluid for it to be my waters and she thought it was thrush. sent home with pessary thing n cream (i had no symptoms of thrush). But they booked me appt on maternity ward for baby to be monitored as reduced movement.
So off i went today to have CTG and heart beat fine but still not many movements from him so she sent me for scan which showed him moving which was great but also picked up the very little fluid around baby :( back on ward midwife and dr said i was right and my waters had gone as fluid around baby is much lower than average and as he has not very much fluid to move in this explains his reduced movements.
They are now not going to let me go past 36weeks so he will be here in next 2 weeks...eeek! She took my bloods to check for infection, i had steriod injection to mature his lungs and have to go back tomorrow for the next steriod injection.
I have to be on anti b's every 4 hours and also take my temperature every 4 hours to ensure im not getting an infection. I am getting tightenings again tho (not painful but regular then die off then start again).
I wont be getting my homebirth after all. Just hope i can keep him in a little longer. Growth scan last week put him at about 4lb 5ozs.
Sorry to just type n run but im gonna try get some sleep as im shattered.
Gosh HappyLea!!! what a nightmare for you to go though!!! My baby is a monster in size next to yours!!
I wish my ob would give me an injection for lungs but she has not mentioned it, wounder why she is not because I am having him on the 9th of october at 36 weeks and 3 days.
Wow Happylea - sorry you had to go through that!
Oh no Happylea! I am so sorry! I hope everything goes well and your little man arrives safely. SO many early babies here!
oh wow happy lea that is crazy!! well, at least they found the issue....I hope you will have a very safe and healthy recovery!!
and lynxie, everyone was saying two weeks early wasn't anything, but I've had two previous babies (obviously) that were exactly full-term and I can see a MAJOR difference....she is still so tired, and esp. now with her cold, she is back to sleeping beauty again, I feel for her everytime I hear her make weird gasping noises because of the congestion. Your baby was born at 35 weeks, so she will prob. be "sleeping beauty" for longer....I hate ignorant people sometimes!
Hobbers, I think DD2 and my DS2 are going to be soul-mates hahah! they are both so destructive in their toddler-hood!! DS2 went on this weird crying lag today for like two hours...me or DH could not console him, and we tried very hard, finally, after enough cajoing, he finally started to clap and be happy again...but GEEZ...he is sooo much work, 200 percent more than the baby atm. I just feel like DS1 is getting ignored in all this, but all he wants to do is to play his Leapster or a computer game and he seems very happy that everyone is just letting him be, and letting him play all the games till his heart is content.
Everyone is having their babies sooooo early! I know several women that live near me that are all going 3-4 weeks early too. What's going on??
Id love to go full term, I have so much guilt going on its not funny!
Oh I know pinkin. :( You can't control it unfortunately. I'm just shocked by even the women with zero issues going into spontaneous labor early. (((hugs)))
Uterine infection from retained placenta, found 2.5 weeks later.Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
He is great! I'm very teary think it has all caught up to me!Quote:
Originally Posted by Hobbermittens
Put me through undue stress and intervention.Quote:
Originally Posted by Butterfly Spirit
I went in for my last doctor appointment today! It seems so weird to say that.... my last OB visit EVER. It kind of makes me sad. If all goes well, I will be induced Monday. Hoping the baby stays put until then.
During my visit last week, my Dr referred to the baby as "he"; this week he referred to the baby as "she". I know he doesn't know the gender, because he showed me the u/s report and it says right on it "gender unknown", so I am sure he is just using whatever pronoun comes to his mind first. But it was great to hear the baby referred to as "he", but not as "she"! I can't believe in 5 days, I will know for sure.... I know many of you have ideas that this is a boy, but I just can't believe it. I just KNOW it is a girl. 5 days until dooms day for me. :(
How exciting Hobber!!! Monday! Holy cow...you get to hold a brand new, delicious smelling baby! I'm jealous. :)
Yeah..... I am dreading it, pretty much. Being pregnant has le me stay in denial for 9 (10) months. Now I get to face the reality of having yet another girl, and my dream of having another son will now never come true. I am pretty much depressed right now. :(