This is a lovely group to be part of, everyone is so helpful and supportive. Fingers crossed this works for everyone, you are certainly putting a lot of effort in - swaying isn't as easy as I had thought at first! I think I'm understanding the principles of the LE diet now, basically it's the opposite of what I've been doing! I have been trying to improve my health and been eating lots of nutrient rich foods, natural fats, full fat, and reduced processed foods drastically. So a bit of re thinking to do. I'm worried about how to translate the theory into actual meals that will not leave me hungry and will still be healthy, so I think I will need to buy a meal plan. Good news is that I have already lost some weight over the last month, so not been all bad, about 6lb, BMI is 21.
I can totally get where the theory is coming from, I have heard before that girls survive better in harsher conditions. My mum really struggled to have children and she told me my dad had a low sperm count (TMI, ha ha!) so they had me after a couple years of trying and then had my sister almost 6 years later. BUT then my little brother arrived very unexpectedly a couple of years later! ��
Also, I was thinking about larger ladies I know who have daughters and probably being obese lowers your fertility too? So that would explain that.
One quick questions about the diet - I'm a bit confused about grains, which are the best to eat on this diet?
Any suggestions on how to lower DH sperm count? I had thought abstaining and a hot bath! He is 33 and vegetarian, was going to ask him to up his soya intake as well as take the cranberry supps. It's been 5 years since we last conceived so I think our fertility would have naturally dropped a bit anyway, good for a sway, not so good for HT.
I'm 34. This will definitely be our last. I'm actually terrified about having another baby and how I would cope. We had always wanted 3, it was just a total shock that 2nd time round we had ID twins. Also terrified of having twins again. I felt bereft when I found out they were boys as I thought we wouldn't have any more and that was the end of the dream. It was DH who said perhaps we could have a 4th (although I suspect he was clutching at straws, anything to stop his pregnant wife bawling her eyes out!).
He didn't enjoy HT at all, took me the best part of a year to convince him. He feels really funny about it still, he isn't really keen on another attempt. He would be delighted if I said lets go for it with the swaying, said he is up for trying anything! He is really supportive, but no matter how much he tries he still doesn't really understand GD or how it makes me feel. It's such a lonely feeling and I've touched on it with friends but not really gone into detail, I'm so worried about what they will think of me. I have mentioned to one or two friends about swaying but they just laughed and said I was bonkers!
Oh, another diet question - do you think soya milk would be better than cows milk? I had been using almond milk but swapped back to dairy again thinking this was good for a sway.
We need to make a decision quick about what we want to do. Swaying would be so much easier, but Im so scared about how I would feel if I fell pregnant with another boy. I have been in the head space for so long that if I were to fall pregnant again it had to be with a girl, although I'm coming round to the idea that it's more about having number 4 than having a girl. I'm going to start on the diet and exercise now. Atomic said that there seems to be more success with people following the plan for 12 weeks. I'm not sure I could follow the diet for that long but plan to try for at least 2 months so if we def go for a sway it will be Sept or Oct.
