Well 13 dpo for me and bfn and starting to spot so AF will be here on the weekend. DH doesn't want to try anymore because our finances are so tight.
So now I am 20kilos overweight and no baby.
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Well 13 dpo for me and bfn and starting to spot so AF will be here on the weekend. DH doesn't want to try anymore because our finances are so tight.
So now I am 20kilos overweight and no baby.
Maybe if we cut our portions in half we wouldnt put so much weight on? If i continue to pack on the pounds like i have been i am going to end up very deperessed. This is my 3rd month of the HE diet, and now i seem hungry ALL the time!
5- so sorry Hun, I'm 30kilos overweight and put on 15 of those while swaying, some the first time and then even more after the m/c. I know I'm not in the same boat as you, I just wanted you to know you aren't alone.
Sorry dh wants to stop ttc. I say stop the sups, stick to diet and see if that changes finances enough that you can keep going.
Cinss- before you cut portions try cutting out high calorie proceeded foods. Scale back on the breads and pasta and up the meats, veggies and nuts. You'll pack a much bigger nutrient bang for your buck and ingest less calories overall therefor slowing the weight gain.
what info I need to put into that, I am due to O in about 2 weeks is that enough time to track?Quote:
LBAM - I would definitely start tracking with FF. I did it long enough to determine that I O overnight/early morning after my +opk and that by evening cm I start turning creamy. FF can be so helpful figuring out what day that egg'll drop
That sucks ! :( .Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
Thats what I have been trying to do, lots of food but small portions and eat frequently.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cinss
Great adviceQuote:
Originally Posted by 3Pink1Blue
I'm sorry TTC5! I know our finances are tight as well, but my thought is, when the economy picks up, so will our finances. Things can't suck forever!Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
If you decide not to TTC anymore (I hope that isn't the case!!) at least you can start losing weight, right? I had great luck (quick results) with the Atkins diet. But I hope you are going to keep trying for that baby boy!!
I'm my biggest too but I've been so lucky not to have gained any weight so far! I could just imagine if I was like my sister and gained 20kgs the first 20 weeks! I'm not too worried about it at the moment though, I will take care of it once the baby is born.Quote:
Originally Posted by Flava
Thanks, good advice :)Quote:
Originally Posted by 3Pink1Blue
Thanks ladies! I still have some supps left over so may continue those incase hubby comes around but then I am starting to think maybe I do need to wait till things are better? Oh, I don't know :(
I just want another little baby, you know? I know I'm lucky to have 4 already...
My dr comes back tomorrow, going to go ask for blood tests about the + opks. Also, I have rather odd spotting, not like my usual spotting at all. It is very watery and pink like? Only needed a panty liner all day.. not getting my hopes up because I am very crampy. I dreamt last night I did a HPT and it came back 1/2 positive, not sure how that worked lol
Thanks Flava :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Flava
I have put on 5kg since starting the diet so I guess it's not really all that much. I honestly don't know why some people put on more weight than others. Are you doing weights or any cardio at all Flava? I do them 2-3 times a week at the moment.Quote:
Originally Posted by Flava
Hey TTC5, I know it SUCKS with the weight gain. You guys probably remember me griping about that forever. It's just the longer you do the diet, the more you will gain. Most of us don't intake this amount of calories in a day, be it good nutrients or whatever, it is calories. That was my problem....I was eating super healthy, just eating MORE, so I gained 35lbs over a year of swaying. I felt really bad about myself, I mean REALLY bad. Now that I am not doing that anymore, I have lost weight and really feel like the old me again, although I know that if we ever get pg, I can probably expect a girl, which I am more than happy to have. Actually, I have zero gender desire anymore, we just want a baby. I know exactly what I will name her already, and it makes me excited. But anyway, 5, maybe you should take a break and use the time while DH finished school to get back to the old you and save some $ and and then you can pick it back up. Just one option, I guess. It is hard to figure out what to do, but if you are so miserable about the weight, you should consider taking a break. I know you did that before, and did pretty well with it, right? Aw, big hugs, hunni......I know it is so hard.
2pnb, I took 50mg of Clomid from days 3-7. I think each doctor has their time frame....mine just said to do that timing, and she said to use preseed to counter dryness if I encountered that and to dtd every other day from CD10-18. I ovulated like clockwork on CD13 on the Clomid, and the first month, had more ewcm than usual, but my usual not much the next 2 months (I only did 3 rounds before we found out my DH is the problem so I quit the Clomid). Don't stress about it swaying girl so much, OODLES of boys are born to Clomid moms. When you take it, just use the preseed (or the ew if you want) and please do try to get pg as soon as you can as you know you can't take it forever. Not to mention the weight thing...
You know what we are exactly the same! DH said no because 1 he do not believe we can get a boy and 2 we have no money really...and you know what I know he is right :sad: this is why I was thinking only 1 more try in jan . and that's it.Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
BUT now I think maybe we are done...I weight my selfs today and I did not put on almost 30 lbs I put on 35 freaking lbs!! How on earth did I allowed this to happen?
Im so fat it's like Im some one else!
And just to think I get another girl like this makes me sick!!!
I read some studies here and none of them says we have to stuff our selfs for months to get a boy not even this 6 weeks everyone talking about here.(where did that 6 weeks come from I don't remember)
Studies says mothers who had high calories intake around O and around conception had more boys and more likely to have boy.
So Im thinking maybe it would be enough to eat the HE diet from after AF to O and in the 2WW??
Anyway I need to loose this weight I can live like this anymore , this is crazy!
That's just it! I can't even loose weight when I BF the baby I even put on more! Im not lucky like others they BF and loose all the fat.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kris217
yeah I was doing weight every other day with 2 8 pounds dumbbells ! And Im freaking hungry all the time now!Quote:
Originally Posted by Bec
I use to eat so little I hate this!!!
Lola-- did you do opk's or temping to pinpoint O on clomid? were you taking supps with clomid? cause there are things your not supposed to take with it right like Vitex...I am planning to try the first cycle w/ clomid which will be Dec. I am having a hard time getting my DH to take all those pills, he says he would take allthe supps I want him to if he doesnt have to wear a condem lol then I am worried I will DTD at the wrong time and get PG. How did you attempt go? I prayed for you, and your DH...
I have gained alot of weight too...it makes me depressed too but I think I would gain 100 lbs if I could just have a boy then I could lose it. I am very fortunate the my husband is very good about telling me how much he likes the way I look no matter what weight I am, that helps me but recently I have been cheating on the diet I sometimes have an "off day" I just feel very weighed down.
Have any of you done MSU I know some of you came from IG and I remember talking about it, what are your thoughts about it, until recently I thought that I would do that to try to get the highest chances I can but it seems like so much stuff to screw up...
Flava- me either, I can't lose weight while great feeding without my supply suffering. It can take me a whole year to lose 10-15 lbs. after delivery.
2pnb- I believe flava did msu with her last 2 girls.
2pink-that's just it we gain all this weight and no guarantee for a boy! im thinking most likely I get a girl anyway Im so unlucky!
And yes I did MSU for my last try and got DD4! DD3 was Shettles try for a boy...so this is sway #3 and why would it work right?....
MSU is very hard to do if you can't get the semen float on the EW. And also have to be on IG diet do ions ect all. BUT I did it all and still got a girl!
3pink- you know what you still better of LOL because I do not loos ANY weight when I BF! And if I dear to eat less my milk is going down and never comes back! And I have a problem alredy with BF I don't have enough milk I have to give formula too! It's the only way i can keep on BF longer.
I am the same way, Flava. I gain about 40lbs when pg and then after the birth, still have about 25 on me until I stop BFing. I am hungrier nursing than when pg! And literally, the week I weaned the girls, my body shrank down before my eyes, it was freaky.Quote:
Originally Posted by Flava
Yea, I did opks and all. Gosh, I'm trying to remember what I took when on Clomid....I know a prenatal and fish oil, probably my green supplements (I drink a wheatgrass and acai shake and a super greens supplement for general health and fertility)....but I know I didn't take any hormonal supps for sure. Its those that you want to stay away from because the Clomid is altering your homones as it is, and the hormonal supps can interfere with that process. Personally, I wouldn't take many supps except general health ones like I did. I had a thread back when I took it the first time because I was concerned about the same thing: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...Clomid-No-no-sQuote:
Originally Posted by 2pinkNoblue
Thanks for your prayers....our attempt went fine. We just dtd on O-2 and then again on O. I really wanted to try to dtd a few times on O day, but it just didn't work out since we were at work all day! And we didn't make it in the morning either. I think we are going to have to try that the next month though. I may just have to call in sick that day, LOL. So, I guess we'll see!
I'll tell you a trick about getting him to release but not in you before your attempt: blow jobs. DH's will gladly take one of those, and that way he is releasing without you guys having to do it and deal with the condom/no condom issue. But on the other hand, you really do want to try to get pg as soon as you can on the Clomid. You may want to dtd every other day. On this site, we don't really believe in timing much because there are so many studies (NOT on IG!) that debunk timing as a factor. And if you look at the timing for boys or what boy moms did threads, they rarely if ever had a one time shot like you were supposed to on IG. FF will also kill the timing belief for you also, because if you do a chart search for "pregnant with boy," you will find that the majority of them dtd every day or every other day. So, try not to worry about it too much. I would go with dtd every other day on Clomid for sure. I would take opks like crazy and try to see if you have a fade-in pattern until then that indicates when it is coming. Like, I know when mine are almost positive, that they will be super positive the next day, and then I will ovulate the day after that. So we dtd on the almost positive day, skip the super positive day, and then dtd on O day.
Lola- even after BF I have to work to loose the fat no falling of for me :(
yeah I am with yall on the not losing weight while BFing--adn I am a lactation consultant--So I know all the tricks...lol
Thanks for the info Lola ! I always feel less stressed on this site than IG, does anyone on here do MSU that you know of? Next month you wont have to take the dat off to DTD bc (FX) you will be PG
Bec and Fab any clomid do's or dont's I should know...?
This is my first so I have no idea what's going to happen when I BF.....I'm hoping it comes off or stays at what it is. I'd hate for it to keep going up and up!Quote:
Originally Posted by Flava
With my 1st i was back to pre baby weight after 2 weeks of BF, i think most women snap back quick after their 1st? It's the subsequent ones that are harder from what i have seen.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kris217
I think it depends how much you gain. I only gained 15 with my first and was back to my normal clothes in a little over a week but I was much chunkier. With #3 I gained 30 so it took an entire year to drop the last 15.
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Originally Posted by Flava
I'm concentrating on the HE from AF-O
but you know what my SIL and a friend of mine are both very skinny. No fat on them they never eat breakfast and don't eat much at all. My SIL had 2 boys, my friend has 1girl and 3boys.
There are just too many people with opposites from all the swaying "rules"
Maybe swaying does help but I feel it could only sway a little bit so instead of 50/50 you get a 51/49 chance but then again who knows maybe even after swaying you still have a 50/50 chance.
But I am still going to sway and hope for the best.
Hi all, just letting you know I'm having some time away atm, not feeling too well (very depressed and stressed right now) xx
Big hugs hun xx
Did AF start ?
Take care of yourself, we'll look forward to your return when you're feeling up to it :)Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
(((hugs)))
Yeah I kinda regret now that I did this diet all this months and Im so fat now. Maybe I should have done it only from AF to O when i really ttc.Quote:
Originally Posted by love being a mummy
I asked atomic about this but she did not write back yet.
Im starting to walk like 30 min. on the treadmill now because Im really depressed about my weight.
And if this is a bfn ( most likely I think) Im going to loose weight. No ttc for me.
Ohhh big hugs to you! I feel the same!!! I have to loose this fat on me and then after that I really don't think we start ttc again...Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
hope you feel better soon! XXX
:( Hopefully a little break will do you the world of good. Sorry that you are feeling so rotten. xxx ((hugs))Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
None that really come to mind. I am cautious about what supps I take but, like Lola, I only take vitamins really, no hormonal supps. And I definitely would get some pre seed!Quote:
Originally Posted by 2pinkNoblue
I am always hungry too! And I eat so much. Our bodies must adjust to the amount we are eating.Quote:
Originally Posted by Flava
Not feeling good at all.Quote:
Originally Posted by Flava
You're not alone I feel exactly the same way . I'm so sorry (((HUGS)))Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
I'm sorry AF showed but at the same time excited for you to start your first round of Clomid!! Hoping it works the 1st time, Good luck. I will start clomid next cycle (around nov 23rd). I will be taking 50 mgs of clomid. Are you going to DTD twice?Quote:
Originally Posted by Bec
I'm huge not only from the diet, but I think the thyroid level :( I did the diet before I didn't gained that much.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hobbermittens