can't stop this empty feeling

I can relate to your feelings, mine being the opposite being desperate for a DD and finding out I was having a 3rd son has broken my spirit & had me wondering why I'm having a 3rd also.
No one in my area do gender determination under 18 weeks due to the in accuracy of it... And although I don't know much I can say my DS scan at 12 weeks looked exactly like your scan (like female bits, and there's no denying that's not the case now!!)
I'm so sorry you feel this way, it's terrible so many of us loose out on what seems a simple pleasure we should all be able to enjoy-our kids... Yet all we see by a 3rd bub is what we may never have. I can't stand listening to people say "I hope it's a girl or sending pink vibes" or anything anymore, it makes me want to snap!! No one means to hurt us I'm sure, but it does I know. I truly hope you start to feel better soon.

Exactly. So many people are like that's all girl or that's so girly and theres no denying it. I had a day or two of hope from some who said to throw out these sonograms and get my money back for her even writing girl on them at 13 weeks but now everyone is commenting on my threads that she's right and its all girl. I just want ro curl up and disappear. I hate this so so much

Aww hun... My inlaws desperately want a girl this time, so does my husband and I feel such great pressure for this baby to be a girl. Its so hard feeling this way as I feel conflicted as I know how lucky I am to even be pregnant and all so far suggests this is a healthy baby so how dare I want a girlie so badly?! I am sorry you had some false hope given, that much be so much worse. I can understand totally, im clinging onto the hope from guesses on various sites such as this that people think girl for me... so actually being told it was a boy then having been told that was wrong must be awful. As hard as it is as you will feel sad remember that a beautiful little girlie is one the way to give you lots of love, cuddles and joy! xxx

I'm so sorry boo, and I sympathise from the other side of things too. I've been told at 12+3 that this is definitely ds3 and I saw a boy nub as well as the potty shot so I know there's no hope. I was feeling great before, no sickness, positive attitude, my only fear was losing the baby like last time. Now I've gone from m/c fear to GD with no respite in between. I am so angry that the sonographer told us that and "stole" my few weeks of being able to tell everyone with that glimmer of hope of a girl still there. Now I don't want to tell people or go public on Facebook because I know there will be gender comments and having to say over and over that its another boy will kill me. We were going to have a private gender scan at 16 weeks but now I think what's the point? May as well save £80 and wait for the 20 week one. I can't even buy something nice for him to ease the pain and start bonding cos it's still too early to risk. I just don't feel excited about this pregnancy anymore and I'm so upset about that. My parents and in laws thankfully aren't bothered by gender, but my sister has a dd and is due her second baby 2 days before our 20 week scan - I just know she'll have a girl just as my dreams are shattered. We can't afford any more so this is it. I just don't know how to start getting over this. I know I'll love him so much when I see him, but once the newborn phase passes i'll have to see my sisters, friends, colleagues having girls and every one will bring it crashing back down on me. I just feel lost.

Sorry to crash your thread, I just wanted to let you know you're not alone.
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Don't feel sorry at all EmmyRoo. I'm sorry I'm so late to reply, I haven't been on here because I feel like I've just lost all hope. But I am feeling the exact same way. I have only told very few people that I'm pregnant, I'm so wracked that I haven't even told my own grandmother. I don't think I'm going to post anything on facebook and I just feel like I'm the worst mother. I'm 17 weeks now and I keep thinking that I should go get another sonogram done but I'm so terrified of the answer I'm going to get, I have a dr appt. on monday and sometimes he asks if I want to see the baby. Maybe I should face my fear but I don't know. I don't know if I could handle hearing girl.

I know every story is different and I don't want to give you false hope but I was told 100% boy at my 14.5 week scan and then to my surprise at my 21 week scan she is all girl! It's probably best not to get your hopes up, but 13 week scans are never 100%

Thank you Thorz300 I know nothing is ever guaranteed and for all I know this could be a boy and I would be having all this anxiety for nothing but until then I'm left feeling like this. These are some more from the same sonogram. Does anyone see something other than girl

hello boo!
ok, Im' no expert, but based on the nub theory (angle of the dangle) your 12 week shot really DOES look like a boy to me. Angle there looks way up. But you can try posting for some experts to take a look at your shots?

I am so sorry for the pressure and for how you feel. If its a girl, wanna trade? ;D Joking of course, but I look like I'm having a DS based on early sonos and have been kind of bummed wishing it was a girl. But waiting for this feeling to pass.

I was pressured for a DD from inlaws (boy only family) It sucks when you announce you are pregnant and people put in orders for boys or girls, seriously.
I heard someone tell me the other day she didn't find out till birth with her kids cause she had a strong preference and she felt that if she finds out, and its not what she hopes, it would just ruin the pregnancy and make her bummed, but if finding out at birth, she would be too overjoyed to be looking at that precious face to care. Maybe that makes sense. Why are we finding out early and risking the chance to feeling down at this absolutely precious time of life? How often do we as women get to experience growing another human? We gotta enjoy that for all its worth, even with being sick at times, its still so special.

Both your ultrasounds were really TOO EARLY to determine anything, and based on the fact that you were told differently each time, I think it could seriously go either way. I have also read that chances for a boy are slightly higher after 2 girls. So odds for boy are in your favor.
Hang in there, and let us know how it turned out. But either way, be HAPPY and BLESSED. Yeah, easier said than done I know. I went through the pain of miscarriage and infertility and know how horrific THAT is, but even I after all that get to feel bummed from hearing that it's likely not gonna be the gender I might have hoped for :)
Feelings are just feelings.. like cars that pass by on the road. Some cars just drive a whole lot slower and take longer to pass.
I hope you get your boy! But if not, trust me, 30 years from now (and much sooner actually :) lol) this will be the LAST thing on your mind!

I wouldn't lose hope, I don't think they should even be giving you 100% guesses at 11 and 13 weeks unless they have guessed at that gestation many times before and have never been wrong. I would ask for a gender guess until 16 weeks.

Your 11 week nub looks VERY boy and your 13 week one does look slightly girly but you can't see all of the baby so we have no idea how the many was lying. I would try reposting your pictures of the nub guessing forum.

I really hope you hear boy. I currently have two boys, find out in just over 2 weeks if it's a third or a daughter. It's driving me crazy. We all feel the same so please don't judge yourself, you are not a bad mum. xxxx

It really does seem too early!! If its any consolation at all you've got my dream family!