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Sorry if I made you (or anyone else!) feel worse as well. I don't believe the LE diet as written contributes to autism at all. I make poor choices all the time (eating food from restaurants, alcohol, etc) and its easy to be paranoid I'm affecting my future children in some way. I do think you can still follow LE and opt for healthier choices and still get your DD! GL, this is a great site and LE has a ton of flexibility.
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Beingmommy - please don't feel bad. You certainly did NOT come across as tactless and careless. It's perfectly understandable that you want to sort this out. I guess many people just wanted to reassure you as Atomic wanted to create a swaying approach and an atmosphere where no one has to feel pressured to do anything unsafe. And also a supportive atmosphere - so you did right to ask this and to seek advice!!!
I totally understand your concerns. My oldest has ASD as well. I have to say though you really can't tell what caused it. It's impossible to do everything just right to avoid it. Sometimes things just happen. IT's easy to blame ourselves as mothers but we all do the best we can. Your sons asd could be a fluke of nature. Like I said my oldest has asd but my other two boys do not and I didn't really do anything different during pregnancy. It's very scary for me to even have a 4th because I feel I won't get away with it again...kwim?? The thing is though..The stress and worry is just as likely to raise the risk of autism so I've tried not to think about it.
Oh thank you everyone. I DO feel like I could have worded things better. I definitely do NOT think that the LE diet in general leads to an increased risk for ASD. But I am concerned, as I said, that in my particular family and my body, I need to make sure I get enough, probably more than enough, nutrition to make sure I am doing everything I can. My DS1 is the most wonderful gift and he has made us better people and parents but I am so sad for the struggles he has to endure with his own body/mind. And sad with the ever present feeling I have that had I done some things differently, he might have had less to struggle with.
I have found everyone here to be very supportive and friendly and I am so happy to have found this site. I do feel that once I have figured out the best way to do things for us, we will be able to sway girl to the best of our ability. And I really appreciate all the kindness here and the amazing amount of information Atomic has amassed.
Rosie85, you are so right about stress not being good. And I am terrible about stressing about things. I REALLY need to learn to chill out. My "Martha-ness" is ever present. LOL.
And I know what you mean about wondering if having a fourth means you won't get away with it. I feel that way too. Like I think, should we quit while we are ahead? DS1 is doing okay. DS2 seems NT so far and is so healthy and wonderful. Maybe I am tempting fate. But then I think I feel so much better being hopeful and trusting that it's okay to want more.
Don't be daft hun, i dont think you made anyone feel worse. I hope my comment didnt make it seem that way. I am probably slightly defensive when it comes to the 'causes' of asd.Quote:
Originally Posted by bluebonnet22
Whatever you do in your sway, it doesn't matter as long as you are happy- if diet worries you alter it to suit. It's only one factor of our sways after all. :happy:
Hugs. Have you spoke to atomic about buying a personalised plan? Its perfect as she will tailor it to your specific concerns and issues you want taken into account. Health and well being are the main concern here for mother and baby. And it helps make Martha redundant. Coaching service included for 6 months so helps keep Martha at bay ;) xx
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Sounds like you have some decisions to make. I would love the coaching. I think things are different for us given out ages. (I'm 38... And just had ds4.) I hope you get your answers.
Btw...
What does everyone mean by Martha? Lol I've read it a few times now.
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This is the Martha / Mary thread .... its a very interesting read, enjoy :) xx
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...ypothesis.html
Thank you lol I'm going to read it now.
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