Congrats Little Lunasa!!! That's awesome news :)
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Congrats Little Lunasa!!! That's awesome news :)
And congrats Little Lunasa! I actually haven't seen anyone come back after the blood test and say that the u/s confirmed the opposite. I would start buying pink!!!
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I'm going to say girlQuote:
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Yay! SO, so so happy for you!Quote:
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Wishing you luck with you scan Greasemonkey! Keep us posted
I will say girl too. Good luck!Quote:
Originally Posted by jmm0616
This is my little bub, the second picture was taken first because the little one wanted to be on its tummy and did not want to roll over. Doctor made me jump up and down until it turned. I honestly couldn't see anything that resembled a nub in that position and then when baby rolled over the scan was over pretty quick because he had spend 10 minutes waiting for the baby to roll! :rolleyes: I compared the skull with my boys and my boys little head was bigger and also bigger jaw, so I'm hoping it's a girl, but because it was so active DH thinks it's a boy. The sonographer wouldn't give me a clue. But all measurements are well below risk so that's good news.
My Doctor is sending me for a Harmony test next monday and I will know the gender for sure in about 2 weeks! Can't wait but I already love the little thing, boy or girl. :heart:Attachment 16319
Thanks Aidainsmum and congrats on the good news from your doc and a healthy baby! We did a blood test too, so should know in 10 days. That's really the only sure thing, but in the meantime, it is fun to guess and obsess!
Hi Ladies
Well today I'm on a huge downer and I wanted to ask you a question. Do you believe in DNA blood test to find out gender?
Mine came back with what I didn't want to hear and now I'm upset and don't know what to believe anymore only that I am doomed to have yet another boy. The odds were against me from the start but I guess I have to come to the realisation that we could be destined to have four boys. Its just that we swayed so hard and tried everything that we were sure after all we did and even abstaining for 9 days that nothing would even survive and all my hopes were so high now I'm not certain about anything but its never going to happen for me. For some reason I'm just not meant to have a girl in my life.
Def GIRL
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I have my scan on Tuesday, I know what you mean by active as my last son was extremely active and I think just by the scan I see I will know by how active it is :/
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Mumto3boys - thanks for your guess. I do understand how you feel. I only have 2 boys at this point, but I feel VERY much like you do in the sense that I feel like having a girl is something that will never happen for me. I don't know why, but just a feeling and as you said about the blood test - I am possibly setting myself up for disappointment. Not sure why I do this to myself, but I feel like the sooner I know, I can accept whatever the outcome is and bond with the baby. And just like my ultrasound, I feel like now there is a glimmer of hope for pink, but my twisted brain basically thinks it is just its way just shielding me from actually knowing just yet. I hope your baby is healthy and am definitely thinking about you!
mumto3boys first ((hugs)) went through these same questions a few weeks ago when mine came back boy. Initially I was devastated than I did a ton of research. The test definitely can be wrong, even my dr told me not to count on it 100%. Having said that honestly though I am not pinning my hopes on it being wrong for me. I believed whole heartedly in my sway & that this was my best chance for another DD. I believe that so much that I have since worked on reminding myself that if after everything we did to sway I still wind up with a DS than this little man is meant to be. There is always the chance it is wrong & I hope for both of our sakes it is wrong for us I just can't let myself go there. The let down at the ultrasound would be to big for me. I will keep my fingers crossed for you!!!
Just to caution all those who have not done the test or gotten their results back yet personally I think finding out for me was the WORST decision ever! I have had some pretty rough moments since that phone call. I really wish I had more time to feel baby & bond before I found out. I know a lot of people have gotten the news they were hoping for but those of you that still have to take the test I would just caution you about finding out super early. For me at least the impact on gender disappointment was so much greater than I think it would have been if I had waited & gotten to know this baby first.
Congrats are your girl Lunasa!!! Amazing news!!
Thank you so much for replying you really don't know how much it means to me to know that someone is going through a similar situation. I do envy your one girl and I don't think I would care as much but I can understand wanting a sister for your daughter. I was so positive that we had done everything right and 'different' this time, I felt sick I have bad skin I'm gaining weight differently I'm way less moody than with my boys - BUT doing the test has questioned my belief in EVERYTHING out there, I from this point am not going to hold onto hope alone, or praying alone because I'm done, as if I think this way then at the dating scan on Tuesday I will be hoping, at the 20 week scan I'll be hoping, then I'll still be hoping that it comes out differently as I have done all other times. Its not as if I asked the heavens above for heaps of girls, just one, one will do fine - but as it seems we possibly can only produce boys. To be completely honest as depressed as I am, my two older boys 3 & 5 just randomly kiss me all day and today told me I'm beautiful, and my 17 month old was dancing to my singing and for once I smiled - wholeheartedly that I'm truly blessed with some great males in my life and this bean had all the odds against it including scorching hot baths and all and still fought its way through on our first try and it obviously wants life. My parents asked me if I definitely find out if its a boy would I abort and again to be honest it has crossed my mind, but when I really look into my heart and ask do I have it in me to end a life - its a definite NO. To everyone that gets what there after on here I truly congratulate you, and to others I will alongside you in this journey feel your sorrow, your pain, the sorrow that only you know I feel deep in my soul that will continue to mourn for a girl named Grace Eileen that I may never in this life get to know.
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Finding out is not going to make things easier, trust me I know! With DS#2 the minute I got my BFP I said he was a boy, I had really strong feelings and when it was confirmed I felt like a ton of bricks fell on me!!! I spent the rest of the pregnancy regretting things, not doing a sway (I was on IG at the time) etc....Everyone said I was going to fall in love with him...NO, it didn't happen, I didn't fall in love with him at all. I took care of him but it wasn't the loving bonding time everyone says it would be! It wasn't until 6 months into his life that I started bonding with him and that's because he was chocking and I hesitated to pick him up..It was really a dark time for me but honestly it got better! It might not happen at birth but it will happen!!
Now, I was hoping things would be different but unfortunately they are not, GD is creeping in. This is not what I wanted, I didn't want to have another baby unless it was guaranteed a girl...Well none of these would have happened if my DH had told me about the mirena falling out!!! It makes things worse when all my friends and family are hoping and praying this is a girl. I feel like I will let everyone down including myself :(
Anyways just sharing some thoughts, didn't mean to bring anyone down :HH:
So cute! I feel this is your girl, even though they say symptoms can be misleading, your symptoms are identical to mine. Fingers crossed for you xQuote:
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Yes these tests can be wrong , I think another member on here got a boy result with the materniT21 test and it turned out to be a girl. Maybe it's best to try to come to terms with the result you got, then if it turns out wrong it's a bonus. Really hope you get your dg xxQuote:
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Thank you GT77! :)Quote:
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I do feel for you Greasemonkey and honestly, we have only told a few people so far for that very same reason. I just want to know the gender before announcing to the world. That way, they just have to accept what it is from the get go and can't go through the whole "oh, I hope this is your girl" or "I just have a feeling it's a girl" You don't have a feeling, please! That always just seems so ignorant to me. Also, it is a little frustrating when people assume you have two, three, etc. of one gender, that you would just automatically want/need/desire the other gender. Yes, in my case it is true, but not for all people which for whatever reason bothers me and makes me feel like I am disappointment to whomever is speaking because maybe I won't have that. Sorry. End rant. I just have felt the need to express how I really feel about the whole topic and feel like this forum out of anyone else, can really identify :) Like many of you have said, I sincerely hope everyone that has yet to find out gets their desired gender, but obviously, we wouldn't have put ourselves in this situation if it wasn't a remote possibility of the opposite outcome. No matter how long it takes to bond whether it been 1 day or 1 year. Good luck to all of you!!!Quote:
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Mumto3boys I completely understand all that you are saying. Damn symptoms can be so misleading I really felt this was a girl also. My symptoms are the same as with my DD. I have spent way to many days sick, really sick & miserable. I hoped that was because of my DD & that made the sickness ok. Once I heard DS so many thoughts went through my mind. There are moments that I have asked is it all worth it, but than I remember all of those who have suffered loss & I remind myself that as sad I was to hear boy I would feel much worse if the promise of this child was no longer here. I also knew it wasn't fair for me to feel so down as I do have a DD but it did & does still brake my heart. Yes I wanted her to have a sister & I guess I'm still coping with the loss of my Grandmother a few months ago. This DD was supposed to be named after her. I guess in my own grief I made myself believe that I would have another DD named after her & it would be my connection to her. Hearing boy took that chance away & shattered my heart.
Its funny how you mention about your boys being so great to you yesterday mine were the same in the days after I heard boy its as if they know. While it is easier said than done I think at this point for me it is easier to repeat to myself that these wonderful sons of mine are going to marry amazing women & I'm going to get a ton of granddaughters & be wishing for a grandson!
I did make a pro-boy vs pro-girl list & that did help me some. I hope it gets easier for you as days go on. Even more I hope that your test was wrong & you hear girl at your ultrasound & get to finally use that absolutely beautiful name you have waiting. In the meantime ((hugs)) & just know we are here for you if you need us.
((hugs)) to you as well GreaseMonkey. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I think we have to & it so much safer hear with people that understand & can empathize than in the real world with people who just can't get it. Fingers crossed you hear girl & are able to enjoy every moment with this little one!
Congrats Little Lunasa on your girl!
With all this GD talk I am starting to get nervous for my scan next Saturday. Hey at least I have 2 shots at getting one with out a pee pee. Honestly though I feel like they are both boys! What is to change now that I have already had 3? Nothing. I just wish it would be the 25th already so that I can just know!! Time is dragging! I really only want healthy babies and will gladly take whatever we are given, I just wasn't worried about it until now :( I think having the scan be far away before I just kept it out of my mind but now that it is a little over a week away I am starting to get nervous :nails:
momof3boyz11 fingers crossed for 2 healthy babies & at least one girl! Also hope time flies by between now & the 25th!!!!!!!!!!!
Good luck to you as well jmm0616!!
MUMTO3BOYS- i really hope u get your dd too, and I agree materni21 test can be wrong too. Lets pray, i have heard stories at my office where they located a Y, and found out it was xx. Lets pray!! what week did you have your materni21 test at?
One would be nice 2 would be AMAZING!!!! But healthy first!!!!!Quote:
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Good luck to you!!!Quote:
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momof3boyz11 your chances are high that one of them is a girl!! I can't wait to hear but it is more common to have boy girl twins.
Mumto3boys - I am so sorry about your news! :( I agree with everyone, it is so nice to have a gathering place of people who truly understand. About a year ago or so when we were trying to make our 'final' decision about being done or going for three, I posted a question on a baby/child website asking if anyone got a different sex after having two of the same, and if so if they 'tried' for that certain sex. (just to see if stats about having two in a row really did screw your chances or not.) I got a lot of crap about how unfair and selfish it would be to try for a certain sex, on and on. Made me feel worse than I felt already!
Thing about this site and the fact that I've been in this situation - I am so happy for those that are getting their desired sex, and feel just as heart broken for those that don't. I truly struggled with DS2, and even asked to make sure it was still a boy when I got another ultrasound later, THEN still held on to the hope that both were wrong at delivery. Luckily, by the grace of God, I've loved that boy from the beginning. He is a sweetheart and a fire ball all rolled into one. I know he was meant to be. He was conceived very close to when our nephew was killed in a car accident, possibly even the same day as we made an attempt the night before, and he was born in the same month as our nephew's birthday month. That was a very hard time, emotionally and physically. Now, when I can put my own desires aside, I am so glad that my oldest son has a brother, and hopefully best friend for life! For me, it wasn't ever not loving DS2, just at the same time still thinking about a DD, like every single day! I felt so guilty because when I heard DS1 was a boy I was so happy...wish I could have been prepared to be happier with DS2. At the time, I thought I'd never get a chance for a girl, we were done having kids! I even sold all my baby stuff.
Now, I know it is going to hit me like a ton of bricks if it is a boy again, just because I FEEL like everything has come to this point for a reason...that is has to be a girl, despite symptoms. Everything that has happened to get to this point. My oldest even talks about a baby sister all the time - he doesn't even know we are pregnant! (Don't want a miscarriage or anything and have him be sad or confused).
Dreams - I know it hurts when you have a deep desire...but maybe (in case test is right) think of it like this....maybe this will make the bond between you and your daughter that much closer? And I'm sure her brothers will be very protective of their one and only sister. Maybe this will help?
Good luck ladies <3
Goodness, I didn't realize that post was so long - sorry!
from2to3 it will never cease to amaze me how absolutely insensitive & judgmental people can be. So thankful we all have found this site where we can talk about our feelings without that judgment!
As for my DD you are so right. That is one of the things I keep reminding myself I know I am so very blessed & really at this point she would be so much older than this baby they probably wouldn't have a close relationship for a long time. I also doubt my DD as a preteen & teen will want to share a room with a toddler & preschooler. Plus my youngest DS & this baby will be able to be playmates& all 4 of my kids want another DS. Keep telling myself all of this & I am dealing much better. GD does till sneak up on me but than I try to remember all of that & put things back in perspective. Plus to be honest I really truly one million percent hope all of you are able to get your girls & I can't let myself be down knowing all of you need your DD!
Fingers crossed this is your DD!!!!!!
Yea but with my luck its 2 boys lol I really do fell that they are 2 boys. I guess we will see soon :)Quote:
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I'm leaning boy - looks similar to my little man's nub. I'm really hoping I'm wrong and you get your little girl xQuote:
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It's a little early and not entirely sure why I say so, but am leaning girl. Loving the little nose! Love the way they go off and do their own thing mid scan :wink: - very frustrating!Quote:
Originally Posted by aidansmum
ADDAGE: Not sure if that's a nub I spy on the 2nd picture - if it is, it looks girly to me, even lying on it's front! x
Just a note from Jessila (she's still trying to get used to navigating the site)
Congrats on your pink bundle, Jessila!Quote:
I felt I was having a boy I just tried to write back to you I'm not sure if my messages are sending sorry if it's a repeat but I just found out girl and that's what I was hoping for... Hope all is well...
Ladies I'm so sorry to hear you're having such a hard time with GD! I'm keeping you all in my thoughts and I pray things get easier for you! I had a hard time bonding with DS2, but it wasn't because of gender. His dad was very abusive and I hates him by the time I delivered. Of course my son came out looking exactly like his dad and I couldn't stand the fact that I saw this horrific person every time I looked at my baby. It was VERY hard to bond with him. I even failed at breastfeeding because I just didn't want to do it. I truly believe, like others have said, if we get our opposite genders after praying and swaying SO hard, those little babies are fighters and are given to us for a reason. I so, so scared that I will hear boy on the 25th. Even tho at 14 weeks I was told "nothing between the legs", I blurred out the "it's still so early, don't go telling anyone or buying anything" part. This is it! This is my girl! (I told myself) And now that my scan is just over a week away, I can't even sleep at night. I've acted like I was told 100% girl, when in reality, it's still 50/50! I'm so mad at myself for setting myself up for such disappointment. Anyway, I pray that anyone who doesn't get their dream gender can find comfort. And know we are all here to listen and to support you!! I know I couldn't get through this if it wasn't for you ladies!!
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