Originally Posted by
Throwaway_panther
Haha, I am so glad the advice is helpful everyone! For both (hopefully) successful pregnancies, I've been met with, "But I just saw you drinking" by a few people each time we revealed! That's when we give our winks and say, "DID YOU?" Haha -- people are persistently surprised because I throw them off like this.
Shinay -- we did NIPT and thankfully at least whatever was tested in that was normal. Still nervous since our chromosomal abnormalities were rarer ones (like Trisomy 8), but so far so good I hope. And no, we didn't find out gender -- didn't even check to get it tested and put in an envelope since I didn't trust the place where we get scans done for the midwives haha
Now in continuing, "TP is never happy," a sort of surprise occurrence happened and we did end up telling my in-laws. My FIL was predictably an asshole and literally didn't even look at me. My MIL was ecstatic though since she was familiar with some of the losses (and hadn't been the one to be super insensitive before -- she had defended FIL when he had said horrible things). My SIL who I love was so happy since she knew about almost all of the losses and had experienced many herself (I swear, it's the men in my husband's family, since she's married to my husband's brother).
Now, both my MIL and SIL admitted they thought it was a boy. But then my SIL said, "But I'm always wrong about other people's kids." So that sort of bummed me out? Then when I gave my MIL hand me down clothes from DD for my other SIL (who had a girl a few months ago), my FIL sort of yelled, "But what if you have another girl?" I pointed out that even if we did, we wouldn't be needing these clothes for a good year anyway, so at least she could use them, which MIL was very gracious about.
Lol, but now I've gone from, "No one is guessing because they think it's a girl!" to "Well people are guessing boy and still putting caveats making me feel bad!" I am never happy! (Though admittedly -- SIL was right about DD, and she was the ONLY person who thought DD was a girl!! Everyone else thought she was a boy haha).