Lemon-
I'm so new to all of this I don't know. How long have you been on the diet and supps?
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Lemon-
I'm so new to all of this I don't know. How long have you been on the diet and supps?
I'm not sure, all my blood work came back normal. My husband thinks it's my weight, I am 100lbs and was 110 prior to my last son. But I was 105 before both of them and had a period and O'd, but I was younger then too, so who knows!Quote:
Originally Posted by lemon2012
amari- welcome here! Goodl luck to get your baby girl!
sweetsister-Im sorry for AF...Im so freaking fat I so wish the girl diet would give us boy so i can be thin!
6 weeksQuote:
Originally Posted by amari
OH good lord, that is recent. I am so sorry.....I really had a painful time with mine at about 10wks. My doctors office called me in a prescription painkiller. I hate to ask you these sensitive questions, but are you having any of the tissue analyzed? Just tell yourself, like I did, that this one was not meant to be, and that your baby is on her way soon. Glad to hear thinking ahead about your next sway is helping...I think it is so beneficial to just grieve it and then move to the future, because you will be there very soon and things will go just fine. My inspiration is 3P1B (on the boy boards) who had a horrible m/c and is now pg with her dg and doing just wonderful. Still, big hugs now, try to pamper yourself a bit. xxooQuote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
Oh, I am so sorry about yours also, OOTB. I remember when you had that surprise pg. Hope you are doing ok also. Jeez, doesn't it make you appreciate the miracle of life and the kids we have so much to see so many have losses, which are totally normal and a part of life? BIG FX that your next shot works beautifully as well, you totally deserve that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Out of the Blue
I am also glad this site is so friendly and open....no judgement!
My doctor told me to wait and have 3 full cycles, that way my lining would be totally normal again. It was actually a very nice break and we concentrated on eating well and taking a bunch of supps. Of course, nothing has happened since then and now we have the male factor infertility diagnosis with my DH's crappy sperm count, so not expecting much, but still trying. I guess it depends, some wait and some don't. If you have another u/s after everything is complete and your lining looks good, I don't think it would be bad to try right away, or at least wait one month.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
Thanks, Lola. No - we didn't have any tissue analysed (I had the whole m/c at home). It was clear the baby had died some time ago and it had been reabsorbed (all I passed were clots), so I feel confident thinking it was a chromosomal abnormality.
Sorry for your losses. I hope having this board helps some.
Hoping to get to know you all better!
Thanks for your welcome ladies :HH:
Mocha- I ttc straight away but I had to have a D&C so the lining was SO thin (AF the following month was very light) so it was impossible to conceive I think. I carried on ttc and got pg 3rd month of trying. I don't think there is any reason to wait, especially as it was a natural m/c and if you feel ready. Good luck hun.
Flava- keeping my fingers tightly crossed for you too!
Hi again Ladies,
It has been a gbit quiet on here it seems. I hope everyone is doing well.
We are getting to the end of the month...has anyone made an attempt this month? Anyone waiting?
I am getting anxious as I am entering my fertile time.
I made a post but no one responded directly. Sorry if it seems selfish, i just wish someone could tell me what to do to get a girl. It is all consuming!
Can someone suggest a plan?
I was thinking of a cutoff bc I am fairly certain what day I am due to o. However, the more I read the more people I come across that say they had a shettles opposite.
Should I bother?
I am cd 10 and DH is releasing. We dtd once on cd 8.
I am due to o on cd 14.
I have been taking cal, mag, cranberry.
I just started vitex and milk thistle (for liver enzymes).
I have been doing a varied IG and LE diet (I think).
I guess I just really need some advice and support. I am so unsure about the cut off now!
lemon - I'm not a big believer in timing. I'd say continue with the frequent release then do one attempt when you get your +OPK then (if you want) another attempt the day after. I'd also use a little rephresh 3 days before expected O. That's just what I'd do in your situation. Good luck deciding - it's very stressful, I know!
Check out zanacal's sway in the attempts section - it was a perfect sway in my opinion - she still doesn't know the gender, but I think she has a great chance at getting her girl.
It has been quiet! I think the timing part is the hardest because there is so much conflicting as to what to do. As long as dh is releasing one way or another I would just try and do it as close to +opk so you can get pregnant and use the Rephresh to keep your pH down like Mocha said. I am trying to plan my Dec sway out now and trying to figure the same thing out! It is confusing. I have some other confounding factors too!
I am new here so I don't know all your backgrounds, do you have other kids, or is this your first? Good luck! Keep us posted!
I should O next week, and will be making an attempt then. I'm nervous about it, because my DH and I will stop trying in January. I keep changing my plan...scared to death!Quote:
We are getting to the end of the month...has anyone made an attempt this month? Anyone waiting?
Thanks Mocha and Amari,
I think I feel like when I dtd, number of times and position will all play a role in my destiny!
Stupid, I know!
I have two DSs!
The first was while I was on clomid due to PCOS. He is 5 now. I conceived on the second month of clomid but basically dtd every other day and the final attempt was day of postive dark OPK. I actually had an ultrasound that day and saw the mature follicles so it was sometime about 12-36 hours before o I believe. We had dtd on cd 113, 14, 16, 18 (pos OPK), and cd 21 which I do not think counted.
Second DS 2 was an oops. We dtd once the whole month. I believe he was 1.5 days ahead of ovulation as I felt the pain and wondered what it was! It was DS2!
Now, I am 37. I think I am fairly regular but it changes slightly each month. For a while there I was cd 15 but stress and other factors changed it the last two months.
I have been doing a little bit of LE diet and IG diet. I do not weigh too much right now at all.
I have been taking cranberry, calc, mag. A few days ago I started taking vitex.
We dtd on cd 8 to get one started.
DH has releasd twice on CD 9 and none today I think!
It is cd 10 and already a faint line on the OPK and Clearblue monitor says high fertility so I am about 4 days away from ovulation.
I used on applicator of rephresh on cd 7 and half an applicator today.
Considering I am due to o on cd 14 should I do it everyday?
Should I do today and then Monday and o on Wednesday? (that seems boy though!)
Finally, my lunar calendar says high mirror fertility (whatever that means) on the 24th (either on o day or the day after o) which is a girl day.
Why one attempt?
Is there a reason behind it?
I do really want to get pregnant!
Also, my jonas calendar says girl on the 28th which is a week away.
Yeah Yuzu....in the same boat!Quote:
Originally Posted by Yuzu
Nervous!
Any tentative plans? Can you make some suggestions for me on mine....?
Thanks!
Hi Lemon. My attempt is coming up soon. Im on CD 7 and will attempt at very first positive OPK (digital with smiley). From everything I've read I think the timing is the least of it. I do believe however, that you are more likely to have a boy the day of O. (I know contradictory, I just can't get over it)!! I'm scared of O+ too close to ovulation and I really want to get preggo and not have one BFN after another.Quote:
Originally Posted by lemon2012
I posted my plan in the TTC girl thread. I'll go get it and give you the link if you want to see my entire plan!
I wish you were online...i have the smiley face!
What do I do????
Sorry I can't keep up with this thread!!!
lemon, If it were me, I would TTC as soon as you can, with RepHresh, Sylk, or Acijel if you have any, and just do a jump and dump. If you want to be super cautious, you can have DH release once and toss the first batch, then DTD again right away and use the second batch for insemination. IF you do go that route, you might want to go VERY lite on the jelly (or even skip it) and lay down for 5-15 min after DTD.
AWESOME. R u going to DTD today? Thats what I would do! How's your ph? Have DH take hot shower( soak his goods). I'm gonna get Dh to point of no return then have him release shallow. I'm gonna stay laying down for a little then go to bathroom (I always do), light candles (make it relaxing)- beeswax or lavender if you have GOOD LUCK...keep me posted. I'll keep checking in!!
Oh, also I would take a zyrtec now if your gonna DTD tonight. Thats what I would do!
Just saw atomic's response!
Yeah, you are here....I am clearly going to ovulate in the nex 24 hours!!!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
This sucks! This is EXACTLY how I made both boys!
DH thinks we should wait for o plus 12 but I seriously do not see any girl success with it. Have you?
I am in Canada so I only have rephresh...I could use the douche or more gel. I used half of a tube yesterday.
The OPK is sooo super dark and I have been taking vitex!
I am wondering if maybe I will ovulate even sooner...should I wait.
I really want to get pregnant but only with a girl
That is a problem..cleary! I have to want both and this is not working!
It is a total girl month for the moon at least!
Should I wait for tomorrow???
Hope and dream
are you talking to me!
I am confused on what to do
I feel boy zone sooo much!
my ph is super high
off the charts
I can never bring it down
no matter what!
I do not have a phtester...just the roll of paper for testing PH.
Does it work the same?
Sometimes if you need to grab my attention and you can see I"m online, just PM me and say hey atomic can you respond to this thread??? OR if it's in one of these long threads, start a separate one to get my attention, that's just fine.
Don't worry about pH though, there have been SO many pH opposites on both sides of the aisle...I'll start a thread about it.
I conceived what was prob. twin boys with pH of 4.5 and it didn't move for months. :/
Anyway, taking an antihistamine will dry up that CM and that will help lower your pH! Great tip H and D!!
Lemon,
Like suggested take an antihistamine to dry up your cervical mucus. Don't worry about the timing so much; I'm not convinced it makes as much a difference as diet and other factors. I would go ahead and DTD and keep my fingers crossed!
Hi,
We had to go next door to drop off a gift to a new BABY GIRL!
If timing does not matter then why does it work for so many people????
I am going crazy trying not to go crazy!
Should I wait and do o plus 12?
lemon - I would take atomic's advice - she knows her stuff. Besides, her advice is pretty much the same as everyone else's (both here and on the other thread). I would definitely not wait until 0+12 since you'll really be reducing your chances of getting pregnant.
Yes I was talking to you.. Sorry!Quote:
Originally Posted by lemon2012
No a digital works much easier. Concentrate on getting your BFP!Quote:
Originally Posted by lemon2012
That's what happened to me also. I did have a few really big ones though. When I had my 8wk u/s, there was a big empty sac, so they said the baby had reabsorbed also. They told me it is usually chromosomal abnormality as well, which actually happens a lot, they said. Like half of pregnancies which end in a chemical and failure to implant and grow. Goes to show what a miracle each baby really is.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
Good luck and lots of pink dust to you ladies attempting now!!!!
Most of my clots were huge - baseball sized. In my panic I checked each and every one for a fetus - I really didn't know what to expect as my midwife hadn't prepared me for what the m/c would be like. When I passed the sac a couple of days later it was recognizable for what it was - it made it all seem much more real.Quote:
Originally Posted by LolaInLove
Thanks Lola!
Mocha, how are you? The mc must still be so fresh for you...are you doing okay?
Are you still thinking of trying asap?
Ok, ladies,...HELP!
Here is my pathetic brutal stress sway:
I am oing early but 2 days this month and I basically did not believe the OPK tests yesterday. They said positive but did not match up with my CBFM! I also thought, now way, the vitex is doing this!
So, we thought we had at least 1.5 to 2 days cutoff with frequent release. We had dtd on cd 8 and it was cd 11......BUT, this am the cbfm says high still (no peak) and the OPKs are now faint.....and I have the funny oing feelings. I also have a stomach ache and lots of lube mixed with a little represh and most likely sperm.
We dtd yesterday deep but low sperm count as dh had released just before (so basically 24 hours or less before o) and this am....(right at o? just before?) with shallow penetration and j and d.
Since I am oing now or sometime soon....? Still unsure which is uncommon for me....do I do it again or let it go and see what happens!
Totally freaking out,......the sperm count was low so either no baby and we have to do this ANOTHER month (NO!!!) or baby and most likely boy (ugh, just based on timing though and my ph which is always high).
I feel sick I have not eaten!
Can someone comment or help me out?
At the very least calm down...I am like a silly teenager afraid of pregnancy bc I rolled in it..lol!
It just feels so momentous and life changing...to dtd or not, wait, release, time, douche, eat not eat!
agggh!
Hi lemon - I'm doing ok, thanks for asking. I'm still considering trying immediately when/if O returns, but I think I'm going to go with my gut when that time comes.
If I were you, I would continue to dtd with dh until you know for sure O has passed.
Lemon, if I were u I would DTD again......
I thought the RePRHESH was working to keep your ph at the optimal 4.5????
Don't be afraid of pregnancy; you have wanted to be pregnant again for a while
There are no guarantees that you would get a girl unless u go HT, which I don't think u want to do
Breathe, relax, and hope for the best, because no sway is EVER going to be perfect, even the best sways don't go exactly as the woman wanted/hoped for, you just gotta do your best and hope it works :)
/hugs
Hi, Lemon! How are you doing? Hope you are feeling a little more relaxed now. I think the girls are giving great advice. It is so hard to know what to do, and it does feel life changing. There really is no way to know. I hope you figured out what feels right! Sending pink vibes your way!!!
I think I am scared of dtd again...I keep thinking what if the girl was there and I shot up a boy!
Then, I think I will be filled with regret if I don't do it again.
I just basically swayed boy!
UGH! And, dh was deep yesterday since his sperm count was so low...way to go!
Amari, nothing feels right!
Auroara...my sway was cut off and abstain..did not work and I kept missing cutoff, then I thought frequent release and cut off...but I read so many people suggesting one time attempt I waited,.....surprise OPK!
So, now I screwed up my comfort zone.
I am totally ovulating now as it hurts. I wonder if I should get dh to release again before or is once this am good?
Should I do shallow (even though yesterday was deep?)?
Should I use rephresh first? I hardly used any just a fingerful!
If I end up BFP it will be a long 4 months before I find out.
If it is BFN...I need a break! I cannot handle this swaying nonsense. I really do not think it is healthy!
Also, I do want another child but I am scared and paranoid of another boy. I know that is my fate and I pretty much sealed it! I really wanted a girl for my family so much.
Thanks amari!
Mocha,....I think you are ready mentally and just want to get on with it. I understand and I think if it feels right then go for it!
Thanks for the advice, pink dust and kind words!
I just have to say this sucks and this is not how I want to feel when I try to get pregnant or find out I am pregnant.
I know over the last year it became worse and worse. My parents were sick and my dad had to go to a nursing home. Things just kept escalating and now I feel like an idiot. I am sad and filled with regret!
I honestly wonder if I leave it as is it might be best.
When would o plus be? I have the burning, stomach ache, lube and ew that is stretchy.
2 am or later? Do I wait for the morning? Basically, at age 37 that is impossible right? I would have to go ahead tonight!
DH and I are so stressed!
PS: does a low sperm count really help?????? Assuming he had one given all the compact releases.