LOL Jen!!! How embarrassing ;)
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LOL Jen!!! How embarrassing ;)
Mocha, I say don't get the u/s unless you really want it. Your body knows what it's doing and is taking care of business whether that means resuming the m/c, resuming your natural cycle or starting your new bean. That's why I didn't go back to my doc...I didn't see the need and she understood.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
:omg: Jen :rofl:. We've almost been caught before, but never as badly as you did. I'm really sorry to be laughing when I know you're traumatized, but thanks - I really needed a laugh today when I'm feeling so depressed :oops:. How old is ds again? Don't worry - I'm sure he'll forget. Just tell him you and dh were having a tickle fight or something.
I think they're just in the midst of changing the laws in Canada to allow private diagnostic scans. I looked on the website for the place I'd been thinking of going for a private gender scan and they have a notice that 'soon' they'll be offering diagnostic scans for early pregnancy as well. If they become available soon enough, I'll do it for sure! There's no way I can wait until 11 weeks to know that my baby's ok!Quote:
Originally Posted by rainbowflower
My instinct is telling me the same thing....but at the same time a small part of me is worried that all this bleeding is due to some retained tissue and I can't get pregnant again until it's gone. I'd hate to wait 3 weeks only to find out THEN that this is the case and have to delay TTC even longer. Oh well, I'm going to wait until Monday to make the appt anyway, and maybe by then I'll have a better idea what's going on.Quote:
Originally Posted by Out of the Blue
DS is 3.5...I think it would be waaaaaay worse in about 2 yrs. I think DH is the most traumatized. He even said, "You're going to type this up tomorrow and share it w/your swaying friends, aren't you?"...:rofl: I said, "Of course!".Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
Regarding the "tickle fight"....Yeah....don't think so. Looked NOTHING like a tickle fight and certainly didn't sound like one either.
wait a sec, you're saying you can't have an early scan to check on a pregnancy (for non-gender purposes) over there at the moment?? :omg: or are you saying you'd have wanted to save up your scan to use at a time when you might be able to see the nub?
:HH: :( :hugs:Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
I'm feeling down in the dumps this morning...
So I tested this morning even though I KNEW I shouldn't have...(I need to start listening to that "voice" in my head, lol)
and it was still BFN @ 12 dpo...Sigh...anyone get a late BFP? I was using First Response early detection so I dunno, I think I'm out. My period isn't due until Tuesday, so I'm gonna try to stop testing since it bums me out and just see if AF comes.../sigh
A pychic emailed me today from IG and said she saw girl for me in the futre, and guesed I had two boys. She doesn't go on IG anymore so I had to email her, and she also sensed my husband's reluctance/indifference about TTC, and she saw some money issues had held me back from having baby 2 for a while. She said: " I honestly felt it may take a bit longer (to get number 3) but thats just instinct."
Sigh...hope that means I'll get lucky in Dec. I do feel good about a Christmas attempt giving me a baby girl. Now I gotta think: do I want to deal with Rephresh again? it irrirated the crap out of me, but kept my ph at 4.5...which was beautiful and killed my EWCM, which I usually have a ton of....if I do rephresh again, I would definitely try to BD at least twice, since I feel the rephresh might make it harder for the sperm..../sigh
How can I tell my husband all I want for Christmas Day is his penis, gift wrapped, and mine for however many attempts I want at it!! haha
Awww...:hug2: Have you used this website? Symptoms by Day Past Ovulation | Countdown to Pregnancy This may give you some hope!Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
Which one on IG? Was it IC1111? Just curious...she'd said "girl" for me too and also said something about her being a twin soul (I lost both). I thought her predictions were pretty good!
Regarding the RepHresh, maybe you'll be healed up in there and it won't do that to you this time...???
Just tell DH that's what you want for Christmas! I tell my DH that everyday as I'm chasing him around the house and trying to drag him up to bed, lol!
:fx: for you!!!
In Canada, with a 'normal' pregnancy, scans are covered by our government-funded medicare for 11 weeks and 20 weeks. It's entirely possible if you're under the care of an OB you can request more scans than that, and I know for sure that high risk pregnancies get more scans than that. With my twins, after my first 11 week scan when I found out there were two babies, they started scanning me every week to keep an eye on them. If I'd known I had twins earlier than that I'm sure they would have given me early scans as well.Quote:
Originally Posted by rainbowflower
Since I use a midwife, the general procedure is - call them when you get pregnant to book your first appointment for about 10 weeks. Then you just sit and wait and hope that things are ok. When you finally meet with them, they book your 11 week NT scan if you want one. Since I'd never had a m/c before now, the 10 week wait was frustrating, but not scary. This time things will be different. Again, if I had an OB maybe I could request an earlier scan, but a midwife doesn't even meet and talk to you until you're 10 weeks along. Since my non-OB family doctor is taking such an interest in my case, though, he might be willing to requisition an early u/s after I get my BFP if I tell him how nervous I am. He's kind of clueless in the world of obstetrics and does whatever I ask of him! :rofl:
that's a lot like it is here then the NHS fund the basics; a dating scan (11-13 weeks) then a scan to check for anomolys at 20 weeks. If you have pregnancy/growth issues, suspected ectopic or MC, multiples, or have had multiple MCs you get additional scans... but it's not common and they offer them reluctantly. We also book in with a MW at around 8 weeks and they sort out the scan.
there are private clinics here, though, where you can pay for additional scans on your own. You still get your normal NHS scans on top and it's all separate. I booked an early reassurance scan with my first pregnancy, they did it at 9 weeks and we paid £60. That pregnancy didn't end well, but it was still nice to have the scan and keep the pictures (treasure them now). Perhaps if you do want an early scan to check for a heartbeat it's an option for you to get that privately?
We only have one local private u/s place, and they're the ones that say that 'soon' they'll offer diagnostic scans, but they don't offer them yet. I'll just hope they implement them on time for me!
And Jen, OMG hilarious story about last night!
I commend him for still finishing, and omg, I would have freaked out esp. since the son was talking about "last night"...
ROFL, so funny!
Sorry to be laughing so much at it....it's one of those cosmicly terrible but funny things!
And Jen, if I tell my husband we have to have sex lots because I'll be ovulating, his penis will droop so low he won't be able to get it up for another month! LOL
I'll just have to keep seducing him and I guess act like I can't get enough of him so that's why I have to keep "having him" and all that mumbo jumbo...geez, I'll have to pull out the best acting job I can, LOL.
:rofl: My dh is similar, auroara - though since I NEVER initiate sex (I have a pretty low libido) he always guesses what's going on when I start wanting to dtd.Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
Hi girls,
Just wondering what everyone's thoughts are on the rephresh and frequent bding vs release.
We are out this month...I am on cd 4.
We tried 0-2,0-1 and o with frequent compressed release before and rephresh.
Nothing!
What should I drop?
rephresh?
FR?
Also, how many times shld we bd?
I am so confused! I really thought it would happen by now!
aurora? out of the blue? maybeoneday?
What are your sway plans? If you are not BFP!
lemon - I replied to your PM as well, but I think if you want to change things up and drop one thing I'd drop the rephresh. Either that or use way less of it. As I said, I wasn't able to get pregnant until I dropped it, though I may use just a teeny amount this time so I don't have any regrets for having a bad sway.
Yeah, I'm seriously contempating dropping it as I think I'm allergic to it and I'm almost 200% positive it prevented me from getting pregnant...sigh, but then I'll have the whole PH issue to deal with, as my ph is normally high 5's....not that I don't want another boy or wouldn't love him to pieces (I would totally love him, I already got his name picked out), but I was trying to tip the odds to favor girl sperm...I dunno anymore, part of me just wants my family complete, and the other part of me wants to do it "right" and do a proper "girl" sway so I won't have any regrets in the end....
BLAH!
Lemon and all the other BFNers, let's all come together for a :hugs:
I know, auroara - it's a tough balance between wanting to sway so you have no regrets, and wanting to actually get pregnant. Last time I ended up dropping everything but the diet, Vitex and antihistamines and I got my BFP...but then I had my regrets that I hadn't swayed hard enough. I don't know what I'll do for my next attempt...
Now to continue the saga of Mochagirl's confusing body signals...I just went to the bathroom and there was no new blood on my pad. When I went to check my cervix, I found reddish-brown tinged EWCM. WTF?? My cervix is starting to soften a bit and is slightly open, whereas it's been firm and tightly closed since O happened (if it actually did happen). Maybe I didn't really O last week and now my body's gearing up to try again? I'm going to hold my pee for the next 4 hours so I can do an OPK to see what it says.
Mocha, I'm with Jen and still keeping the hope alive for this month. I'm pretty sure my cervix re-opened close to when AF was due on the month I got my BFP because it made me think I had been imagining all my symptoms!
Jen - I nearly wet myself reading your story! DS1 was looking at me and saying 'what?' because I was cracking up so much! I'm so sorry, that must have been so uncomfortable for you both!
Regarding the Rephresh, I wonder if the best approach is to use a whole applicator but only every 3 days. Perhaps that would be less irritating than using less but putting it up there every day. If you're only having 1 or 2 attempts you could try and time it so that you're not using it too close to your attempt/s if you're concerned about using it too much.
Auroara, DH knew if he didn't finish, he'd be in trouble…:mad: At the moment, I was just like, hurry up and make your deposit, dude! I'm terrible, I know!Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
Lemon, I was wondering where you were! I'm so sorry you’re out this time! :sad: I agree w/Mocha…I’d go easy on the RepHresh. Are you doing J&D? I can’t remember. If so, you may want to wait a few min before you dump.
Mocha, :fx: for you...So sorry this cycle is so darn confusing!
ootb, I am sorry for the intrusion at the key moment by your son, but it really is very funny! I am sure he will forget in no time and you can make up a story about it! - I have a friend who caught his parents at it and he was 19 - think he was far more traumatised!!
Mocha, I am sorry your body is still being confusing.... See how it goes over the weekend, then make your decision. At least it would hopefully put your mind at rest that all is well and you can TTC to your heart's content!
Auroara, sorry for the BFN, you are not out yet but hugs anyway. xx
Lemon, also sorry for the BFN. It is so hard knowing what to drop for the best, I really do understand. I have dropped the rephresh and didn't really like it! Made my CM all lumpy IYKWIM??
This month DH released 5 times in 3 days and release 2, 4 and 5 were in me. I had a +OPK on days 2 and 3, so FX I have done enough this month. I continued to take Vitex AF to O but stoppe the SP as I ran out!
GL for your next attempt will keep me FX for you. xx
haha, sorry jen but that is funny.
i have had kids walk in on us, but not at the end like that.....so its easier to cover up what your doing, and usually they are still half asleep and not too aware of whats happening.
my sister i feel sorry for, she is 14, and her bedroom is right up against my muns, and when my mother and her BF are at it, she can hear everything.....
I've been packing all day, that story is hilarious and horrifying, Jen!
Everyone else I will try and catch up soon! Gotta get ready for the trip some more... xoxo
I think it was the rephesh but I really only used a small amount!
I think I need to dtd deep and not shallow (although last month dh thought it was o plus 12,...yes, he knows the lingo and everything!!!) and we did deep....not really meaning to j and d but I have to leave for work at 715 am! So, likely it came out....????
Z says to try 2-3 days before attempt and full rephresh. I think I might try that.
Just concerned about number of attempts. I don't want to leave it at one attempt and be filled with regrets but I also don't want to sway blue and then be filled with regret.
Ootb...are you still bding?
How is it going?
did you o? I think you were bding everyday right?
HUGS to all of us!!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
Auroara......I am EXACTLY the same!!!!
I am not allergic and did not mind the rephresh but replens made things clumpy and painful.
I want to be pregnant but I want to know I did the best I could.......but, I am getting desperate now.
Do you think number of bding changes outcome?
Should I bd a lot to get pregnant? Does that sway boy?
So confused and I just want to relax and enjoy Christmas.
I o in about 10 days!!!
Anyone else?
Any advice?
Oh and to top if off I had soup....prob high in sodium! DS1 is getting a cold and we are having friends over tomorrow. There goes the diet!
ootb.....just read your post.
Oh dear! That will be tough for you and DH to get over as well......!!!
But I am still smiling....he is young and they do get over things like this and really it just shows mommy and daddy love each other:)
And besides, let's hope he saw mommy and daddy making sister:) YEAH!
How are things going? Are you still using rephresh everyday,.....I ask bc I am contemplating it for next attempt. Drop it or use it...?
The diet is off....I can't do it and survive especially with Christmas!
PS: are you Jen? I keep seeing sites with jen and wonder who that is!
dannikins......You are 14 weeks! How do you feel?
Will you find out gender? How are the other kids with the new baby on the way?
maybeoneday can you tell me more about your attempt?Quote:
Originally Posted by maybeoneday
you say he had 5 releases in 3 days,...what was the timing and did he abstain before etc.
what day are you????
I am cd 4 and planning next week!
Is there room for 1 more. BFN for sure. :(Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
Hope I am sooooooo sorry!:hugs:
What happened? Your temps suggested pg.
I hope you are okay!
PS: I am sorry, I realized I just posted a billion messages in a row!
When it rains it pours...or in Canada, snows...lol
Let's get some good girly BFP before Christmas or on Christmas:)
im good thanks...:)
had my OB appointment yesterday and all is good.
my next scan is in 4 weeks. second week in jan.
i have been planning on waiting untill the birth to find out the gender, but this last couple of weeks, i dont think i will wait that long....
hubby wants to know, hes sure its a girl and wants to buy stuff.....lol..
im still trying to convince myself its another boy, to avoid disappointment, but im not having much luck there either, i have been getting my hopes up, and im terrified of having them shattered......
the worse of it is when people ask the stupid , obvious question, 'do you want a girl this time?'
OF COURSE I DO!!!!!!
but i find my self putting on a big smile and pretending i dont care what it is.
the kids are good with it. a bit excited, my five year old has fat issues.....lol..
walking home from school last week and said, 'mum, you need to stop eating too much food, your getting fat.'...lmao.
and then a few days later at school, was kissing him goodbye, and he gave me a funny look and said' mum, your belly is getting really fat.'
and he keeps asking me 'when is the baby gunna come out?' and constantly asking to listen to the heartbeat, hes a real little mother....loves babies and cute stuff.
Hi Girls I am wanting to join you all in hopes of a bfp soon, will be trying start of jan so I really hope it happens ... For ALL of us! I started using rephresh this cycle and what a dif it made I had low ph ewcm didnt go over 4.5 I am so happy about that so will be using it for this attempt.. How is everyone else going??
Sorry for the BFN, HopeandDream - I'm pretty sure I can officially join the BFN club tomorrow since I *think* maybe today was CD1 (the red bleeding continued pretty much all day). I'll see what my temp is tomorrow and will take a test if it's high, but all symptoms point to af.
you're not out yet - temps are still high and you're past your LP length, it's not over until the witch showsQuote:
Originally Posted by HopeandDreamG
pinkin - welcome!! good to know that RepHresh works so well for you. I'll be using it but don't think I'll be testing pH to see if/how much it has worked.
maybe- good luck! sounds like well timed BDing