PFP, I totally understand how you feel! I would feel so robbed too, but as Atomic said, it's nothing you've done. :hug2: I really hope your little pink bundle is in there! When are you finding out?
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PFP, I totally understand how you feel! I would feel so robbed too, but as Atomic said, it's nothing you've done. :hug2: I really hope your little pink bundle is in there! When are you finding out?
Mum3blue you speak my mind and as I read this my heart aches and I'm crying because I too share your GD 'this far'... I will be going to my scan in 1 more day and should he say boy I really don't know if I can go through with the pregnancy, I feel my GD is stronger than ever before, but this pregnancy has gone to far already I can't even believe I'm considering not having it but I am at the severe end of GD, I feel it would be selfish to carry on having this baby feel unwanted. I mean I knew this was a possibility and my Dad even warned me against it that I should go and do IVF/PGD now I wish I had listened. To hear all the people getting desired genders is very hard indeed. Just know that your not alone in your situation.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mum3blue
prayfor princess I can only imagine what your feeling. I really hope this is your girl!
Mum3blue my fingers are crossed that you hear pink at your scan.
Mum3blue I do understand exactly where you are coming from. I go through moments of being ok looking at names & clothes & than the GD will kick back up. I still have small hope that the blood test was wrong & the ultrasound will confirm girl also & since I scheduled the ultrasound the thought that this might still be a girl keeps getting so much stronger.
Just took a moment to read the updated girl stats & it just depressed me. I mean I did most of the things that got the high results so my sway should have worked. It's kind of sad to think that once this is confirmed a boy my sway will negatively affect some of those stats.
Congrats to all who are expecting pink, fingers crossed for those of us waiting for confirmation & prayers & hugs for those who don't wind up with our desired gender.
Thank you for your lovely post ... I have just fallen apart - got back from my scan and this baby is all boy there is no denying it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mumto3boys
Mumto3boys -its not over till its over and you know for sure.
While I have never told anyone this - I do wish that I didn't fall pregnant with this baby. I spent the last five years hoping and dreaming about a girl and to trying to convince my husband to try again - he didn't want three so you can imagine how he feels about 4! Our life would have been so different with our youngest starting school this year and now back to having a baby and the next 5 years of raising a small child ... it somehow would have been worth it if this baby was a girl, but for me its just more of the same and then on to soccer etc etc. I never imagined my life with 1 boy let alone 4. I knew there was a chance that this could be a boy, but I really thought this was my time to have a girl - now I will NEVER have that chance and its gone, plus I have ruined our future as we have to factor a baby into the mix. I have always waited for that ecstatic feeling being told its a girl and then delivering a daughter, i will never have that. I still remember how disappointed I was after giving birth to my first son (we didn't find out). It makes you feel like s**t knowing that you felt/feel that way.
I wish we had gone hi tech - Australia makes it so bloody hard, we continue to have these babies when bureaucrats decide it is immoral/unethical to choose gender for family balancing. I wish, I wish, I wish for so many things ... unfortunately my wish did not come true :,-(
I also find it so wrong that all these people have a say in matters that should only concern the parents. They have this enormous outcry about termination due to gender (and I am in no way say I find that right) but don't do anything about helping families have their desired gender, it would improve mental and family health, it would decrease the number of children a family has because most people just want a boy and a girl. I know there are countries where boys are preferred and girls are aborted, and I find that horrible, but countries like Australia and the rest of the first world should definitely lose their sanctimonious big say in how a family should be constituted. I'm sorry about the rant, I do feel very strongly about it and I would have seriously considered going high tech if Australia made it possible. It just breaks my heart to see mothers feeling the way you are feeling right now. It is more than time to acknowledge GD IS a condition, and stop this nonsense of saying that you should be happy with whatever you have, when what you really want is to complete your family with that long desired gender.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mum3blue
Congratulations Aidansmum!!!!!! That's wonderful news!!!!!!!! :bighug:
Congratulations Bigwish!!!
I too am in Australia in Melbourne - I am here for you. My Mum (who had three girls & one boy) just upsets me more and just doesn't understand. After just speaking to my husband I said if I'm told boy I don't know if I'm mentally or emotionally going to be okay and I need to be for you and helping with the business. And he supports me, I just wish we tried swaying with the others too.... but he says we tried so damn hard to sway he said I mean I abstained for 9/10 days people under the same circumstance don't even get pregnant doing it all the time, this baby is a fighter. I told him it was his choice because if I can't deal with this then I would rather just have three. He said whether we struggle through life, regardless he knows we would suit having a big family. So I guess we will try our chance at PGD overseas in a few years should this one not be a girl.
My son just came into the office and said "Mummy your the most beautiful girl in the world" .... I burst into tears and he said why are you crying Mummy and I said because you're so perfect. I feel better now.
For you Mum3blue, I would like to be there for you, I don't know you but I would like to be there privately for you through the rest of your journey cause I know those dark places we go. I would also go as far as saying when you do have baby or even before I would come to Sydney to see you should you need a friend. You do not need to go through this alone.
Natalie xo
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Mum3blue and Mumto3boys, I am so sorry to hear you both are feeling such intense pain and disappointment. My heart goes out to you both.
Prayforprincess- Thank you for sharing your story with us. I think I would feel that way too. :::Sending pink dust::::
Mum3blue I am so sorry sending you lots of hugs & hoping you find the strength you need.
My 12 week scan in is 1 week and I am getting anxious as hell! With all my other kids I couldn't wait for the 12 week and couldn't wait to find out (then always cried in the room when the doctor's told me boy).Quote:
Originally Posted by aidansmum
But with this one I am scared outta my mind. I want to know so bad, but I am terrified to find out! I just know the pics will tell all and the doctors have always been right at 12 weeks in the past...I'm going to have them write down their "guess" and I'll open it at home. Between their "guess" and the pics, it will be pretty indicative of whats brewing it there.
My dh doesn't want to know - he's not going with me my mother is. I don't think I'll give him the clue, but he'll find out later down the road for sure. He honestly couldn't care less either way. He wants a girl for me - cause he knows how badly I've wanted this and he just wants my desires to be over. I think selfishly he doesn't want to find out because he doesn't want to deal with me if I find out its a boy.
I could have written this myself.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mum3blue
I think of this all the time and I don't even know gender yet -- but just feel I am doomed to have boy #4.
My youngest is starting preschool in Sept. I was right there -- all 3 of my boys will be in school all day and I can finally have the oppertunity to do something for myself. I got married and had my 1st son right out of college so young at 22 and now that I'll be 32 I feel like I have no identity other than wife and mother. That's all that defines who I am because that's all I've ever done.
I desperately want a daughter and thats why I did high tech over and over again. When it just wasn't working I was unsure. I felt I couldn't just leave things as they were when I was struggling & fighting for baby #4 to come for so long. I felt like because God had seen how much I cried and all the heartache and how badly I wanted it that he would just bless me with a daughter. Now I just feel foolish. It doesn't work that way, does it? This very likely could be a boy and here I am with a 5 1/2, 7 1/2 and 9 year old starting all over again. Like you said Mum, for a girl it would be all worth it; but to start all over for another boy makes me second guess having gotten pg again.
My gf's sil had 2 boys and got pg with #3 last year. When she had her u/s she found out girl and when I received the text I just started to cry uncontrollably. I just felt like I will never have that moment, that moment when they tell me "its a girl!". I have imagined that in my head over and over. I have imagined the birth of a daughter, holding her, feeding her -- everything. But the hardest part is knowing thats all in my head, its all a dream and most likely that's all it will ever be. I hate to say this but I can't help but feel like its so unfair that other get to experience that incredible joy and I never will.
My little man said to me at breakfast this morning..."mommy, what if there's a beautiful baby girl in your belly?" It melted my heart. "I said Dylan, you have no idea how wonderful that would be..."
20 weeks today, and 20 week scan. Little man is on target for growth and all looks well. He was curled up asleep with his hand up by his face so was difficult to measure, regardless of the walking and jumping. Wanted to check for cleft lip and he was snuggled up right in front of the cord and didn't want to move, could only see half of his nose and mouth. The sonographer didn't seem very worried at all but wants me to come back for a rescan in a couple of weeks just to be certain. Hopefully she'll be able to get a decent look next time. Stubborn little sausage...
AFM the placenta was a little on the lower side. Not placenta previa by a long shot, just lower than their protocol. Again, she wasn't worried but they want to recheck, by then hopefully the position should improve.
I'm glad all is well bunny, it's great to know they are healthy! :)
PFP, good luck with your 12 week scan. I am really keeping my fingers crossed for you.
My Doctor just called saying they found an antibody in my blood. He's talking greek as I have no idea what that means, he told me to go there and he will explain but not to panic. Has anyone heard of it? A bit worried now :(
PFP good luck on your scan fingers crossed for you till than!
Aidansmum I do not know what that means but I'm hoping & praying its not a big thing. Keep us posted until than praying for you!
It turned out they found an antibody but don't know which as blood was insuficient, so I had some more drawn and they will find out what antibody it is. the Doctor said the antibody is weak so he's not concerned, that the worst that can happen in this case is that the baby can be born with a bit of jaundice, but he will monitor me and have blood drawn every 4 weeks to make sure it's not getting worse. :rolleyes:
Pfp best of luck with your scan :)
Aidansmum glad it's nothing serious with your little girl.
Afm I have a scan on fri which will hopefully confirm my panorama results. Can't completely accept I'm having a girl until I see it with my own eyes!
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Hi girls, just came back from my 12 week scan, everything looked good, baby was active and kicking the entire time. Dr was concerned about the heart rate, baby was high at 190 so he wants me to come back for a 20 week scan and everything! I am still bleeding heavily and have been having nightmares of baby not being viable but all is good :) Here is the nub I got!
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Looks girly to me!Quote:
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Looks girly to me!!!Quote:
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I'm wondering if the doctor meant rhesus instead of 'antibody'. If that's the case it's nothing to worry about - just an extra shot you'll need to be given one or twice if you're rhesus negative. xQuote:
Originally Posted by aidansmum
Definitely looks girly to me! Girls tend to have a slightly higher heart rate at this gestation. I'm wondering if baby had just finished bouncing around making the heart rate even higher. Congrats, such a cute baby xQuote:
Originally Posted by GreaseMonkey
Not sure bunny, I had asked about the smoking and the coffee and the walking if those were a factor and he said they might but didn't know for sure and just wants me to come back at 20 weeks for another u/s
Sorry to jumpin on this thread, but I saw your question about antibodies pop up in the side forum thread. I had my thrid son last year. I found out at birth that I developed antibodies and my son was diagnosed with NAIT. He is as healthy as a can be (we got lucky), but basically my platelets were eating his. I am glad your doctor is going to keep monitoring you to make sure you have a healthy baby!Quote:
Originally Posted by aidansmum
I am glad that you are well, Greasemonkey. It is nice to have a 20 week scan to see again that everything is good.
greasemonkey -- looks like a girl to me!
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Check out this nub!!! Its ds3 at his 12 week scan. No denying all boy!!
As long as I don't see an obvious nub like this next week, I will be just fine.
Wow! That is one hell of a boy nub pfp! I have my scan a few days after yours, hope we both hear girl so badly x
I hope so too Carameline!
Adainsmum- I did the same online lunar/horoscope type gender prediction u posted a while back and they predicted girl for me. This morning it flew in my head "omg! Aidansmum got a girl prediction and it was right! Hopefully mine is too!" I know it's a long shot but couldn't help wanting to believe in it now :)
Grease monkey, I think girl too after looking at it. Good luck at your 20 week.
Pfp- hope you hear girl, we're you complaining of headaches with this one? That was my biggest girl sign!
I did the lunar horoscope gender prediction thing too, and they said boy. I hope mine was wrong. : /
I feel like I'm kind of in a different place from some of the moms here because I don't already have kids. I think this will probably be my only kid because I'm 35 and it took years to figure out whether or not I really wanted to be a mother and to convince DH to try to have one (just one!). He is still quite unhappy about the idea of having a kid, although he tries to be supportive of me.
So I hope for a girl but think I'll eventually be fine with a boy. Just two weeks and two days until I find out!
I asked my Doctor yesterday about the Harmony results and if I could trust that this is indeed a girl. He said 'yes, definitely, no ultrasound will ever give you that kind of certainty', so he was very sure. But I'm also looking forward to that 20 week scan anyway. :)Quote:
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Awww Grease! What a cutie! Congratulations! Hope that bleeding stops, it must be such a nuisance.Quote:
Originally Posted by GreaseMonkey
It's not a Rhesus factor as DH is Reshus +, so am I. I've been reading about it and for what the Doctor said it most likely happened because during my last pregnancy my boy's blood 'escaped' the cord and ended up in mine, and even though he is rhesus + and that shouldn't be a problem, the blood cells are coated in different types of protein, that protein can be pretty common to his and his dad's blood but foreign to mine, which caused my body to create antibodies to attack it like it's a virus. So, there's no shot for that, those antibodies will always be there. It could be a big problem if there is a big number of antibodies, but mine is very weak he said, that's why he's not too worried. We're still to find out which antibody it is, some are more aggressive than others. When the antibodies number is very high baby has to be monitored by ultrasound every 2 weeks and may end up having blood transfusion through the cord before it's even born! And premature labour is usually induced because the longer the baby is in the mother, the more chances the antibodies will attack, causing profound anemia and even organ failure. It is a pretty scary thing, but as my numbers are low he said he'll just check my blood every 4 weeks to make sure they are not rising, and if they are not there's not much cause for concern, even though jaundice is very common in that case. Regardless, I'm worried sick, how could I not be? To think that there is a stupid antibody trying to attack my little girl's blood cells??? I cried all night last night and it took dh hours trying to convince me all will be well.Quote:
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It's not a sin to have hope, even if it comes from an internet website. :) To me anything will do! And they claim a high accuracy, specially if you know the day you had intercourse. I am so sending you so many good vibes for a very pink result!Quote:
Originally Posted by prayforprincess
Thanks for giving me some hope. Excuse my ignorance but what exactly is NAIT and what kind of problems did he have when he was born? Happy to know he's a healthy little boy. I didn't want this pregnancy to be full of worries and concerns, I was so happy that all was going well, I just thought '20 week scan is the last hurdle, if I got through that, there's nothing to fear', and now this...:tissue:Quote:
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I hope you are right! I know the exact the day of conception/intercourse because it was only 1x. Even my u/s confirms it. Turns out I ovulated exactly on the day we dtd.Quote:
Originally Posted by aidansmum
Atomic says that actually more girls are conceived on ovulation day than boys. Here's hoping I can disprove Shettles!!
Goodness, lots going on - exciting!
GreaseMonkey - glad everything is going well! Hope the bleeding stops. Can't tell you what I think because I don't know nubs/skulls.
Aidansmum - praying that everything in your pregnancy goes well! Hugs!
I wish our sonographers would give us a hint early on. Because of timing we were 10 weeks when we got a look - that's too early to guess from nub or skull correct?! Usually they do another ultrasound at 20 weeks...but I'm hoping with the timing of apts every 4 wks that we can get one scheduled closer to 18 weeks. I'm not going to do any blood tests to determine - I'm too cheap, too scared to get wrong answer or to hear boy, and wanting to wait until I feel baby move and fall more in love with it first. I am so nervous though, based on symptoms I don't have a clue. My mind always thinks girl...but I'm afraid I'm just setting myself up for disappointment and a big blow.
My heart goes out to those of you that didn't get your desired gender!! It can be so hard and heartbreaking. I know I will struggle if I hear boy. I pray that you fall in love with your little bundle anyway, and that it ends up being a great fit for your families. It's crazy...so many people in this group are trying for a girl. Seems like all around me everyone has girls and wants a boy! Now that there's hope for a girl for us, I've been so much happier about DS2 being a boy...he really is awesome, a busy handful, but awesome. Looking past my own desires I am so glad that my boys have each other. Brothers and best friend for life. However, I desperately want this baby to be a girl! My boys say they (have for past year and a half) that they want a baby sister. They have no idea how bad we want them to have one.
I understand about the starting over part. I'm not really 'starting over' because my youngest is 2 1/2, but this 3rd child will be 15 months further apart then my first two. I am a pretty independent person and was looking forward to these boys being a little older so I could get more projects done this summer finally. Also - I won't even have one child in school full-time yet...my oldest misses the deadline by a few days so has to wait a full year to start. He'll be in preschool but that's only a few days/couple hours. So I will have 3 very young children all time. Never thought I'd be one to have a 'bigger' family.
If this one ends up being a boy, I am going to allow myself to mourn for a few days, but then force myself to be happy and think positive. I can't think about a girl all the time, and feel like something is missing...it is too much torture and so unfair to this baby. Hopefully knowing that without a doubt this is our last child will help that...but I doubt it because I thought that last time. (This is definitely our last though.)
I'm glad you get your chance to be a mommy, it really is amazing! Hope your dh instantly falls in love! Good luck!!Quote:
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