JUNE/JULY/AUGUST 2014 DUE DATE CLUB- THREAD #2

[aidansmum]

PFP, I totally understand how you feel! I would feel so robbed too, but as Atomic said, it's nothing you've done. I really hope your little pink bundle is in there! When are you finding out?

[Mumto3boys]

Mum3blue you speak my mind and as I read this my heart aches and I'm crying because I too share your GD 'this far'... I will be going to my scan in 1 more day and should he say boy I really don't know if I can go through with the pregnancy, I feel my GD is stronger than ever before, but this pregnancy has gone to far already I can't even believe I'm considering not having it but I am at the severe end of GD, I feel it would be selfish to carry on having this baby feel unwanted. I mean I knew this was a possibility and my Dad even warned me against it that I should go and do IVF/PGD now I wish I had listened. To hear all the people getting desired genders is very hard indeed. Just know that your not alone in your situation.

ok so i think that I have officially lost the plot - since the news of baby boy #4 at xmas I thought that I was dealing with the news reasonably well. I had convinced myself that this little boy chose us and I did as much as I could to sway the chances. We started talking about names with DH and buying baby boy clothes (retail therapy is my answer for everything) - but in the last week as I am approaching our next ultrasound I have been focusing more and more on the fact that maybe harmony could be wrong and have found myself revisiting the old nub photos and skull theory searching for any clues that this in fact could be a girl. I have been playing with my angel cards and all along I have been getting the answered prayer card when I ask about this baby being a girl. I know that its not a girl - i just know - why does my brain keep playing these games with me? Only 1 more sleep and I guess I will get that visual confirmation my pyscho brain needs. I wish that my symptoms and cravings, and belly size and gender predictions were not so different from my boys, I wish I wish I wish I wish ... I just know that I have not got my wish. I think I am well and truly mad!!

[dreams529]

prayfor princess I can only imagine what your feeling. I really hope this is your girl!

Mum3blue my fingers are crossed that you hear pink at your scan.

Mum3blue I do understand exactly where you are coming from. I go through moments of being ok looking at names & clothes & than the GD will kick back up. I still have small hope that the blood test was wrong & the ultrasound will confirm girl also & since I scheduled the ultrasound the thought that this might still be a girl keeps getting so much stronger.

Just took a moment to read the updated girl stats & it just depressed me. I mean I did most of the things that got the high results so my sway should have worked. It's kind of sad to think that once this is confirmed a boy my sway will negatively affect some of those stats.

Congrats to all who are expecting pink, fingers crossed for those of us waiting for confirmation & prayers & hugs for those who don't wind up with our desired gender.

[Mum3blue]

Mum3blue you speak my mind and as I read this my heart aches and I'm crying because I too share your GD 'this far'... I will be going to my scan in 1 more day and should he say boy I really don't know if I can go through with the pregnancy, I feel my GD is stronger than ever before, but this pregnancy has gone to far already I can't even believe I'm considering not having it but I am at the severe end of GD, I feel it would be selfish to carry on having this baby feel unwanted. I mean I knew this was a possibility and my Dad even warned me against it that I should go and do IVF/PGD now I wish I had listened. To hear all the people getting desired genders is very hard indeed. Just know that your not alone in your situation.

Thank you for your lovely post ... I have just fallen apart - got back from my scan and this baby is all boy there is no denying it.

Mumto3boys -its not over till its over and you know for sure.

While I have never told anyone this - I do wish that I didn't fall pregnant with this baby. I spent the last five years hoping and dreaming about a girl and to trying to convince my husband to try again - he didn't want three so you can imagine how he feels about 4! Our life would have been so different with our youngest starting school this year and now back to having a baby and the next 5 years of raising a small child ... it somehow would have been worth it if this baby was a girl, but for me its just more of the same and then on to soccer etc etc. I never imagined my life with 1 boy let alone 4. I knew there was a chance that this could be a boy, but I really thought this was my time to have a girl - now I will NEVER have that chance and its gone, plus I have ruined our future as we have to factor a baby into the mix. I have always waited for that ecstatic feeling being told its a girl and then delivering a daughter, i will never have that. I still remember how disappointed I was after giving birth to my first son (we didn't find out). It makes you feel like s**t knowing that you felt/feel that way.

I wish we had gone hi tech - Australia makes it so bloody hard, we continue to have these babies when bureaucrats decide it is immoral/unethical to choose gender for family balancing. I wish, I wish, I wish for so many things ... unfortunately my wish did not come true :,-(

[aidansmum]

I wish we had gone hi tech - Australia makes it so bloody hard, we continue to have these babies when bureaucrats decide it is immoral/unethical to choose gender for family balancing. I wish, I wish, I wish for so many things ... unfortunately my wish did not come true :,-(

I also find it so wrong that all these people have a say in matters that should only concern the parents. They have this enormous outcry about termination due to gender (and I am in no way say I find that right) but don't do anything about helping families have their desired gender, it would improve mental and family health, it would decrease the number of children a family has because most people just want a boy and a girl. I know there are countries where boys are preferred and girls are aborted, and I find that horrible, but countries like Australia and the rest of the first world should definitely lose their sanctimonious big say in how a family should be constituted. I'm sorry about the rant, I do feel very strongly about it and I would have seriously considered going high tech if Australia made it possible. It just breaks my heart to see mothers feeling the way you are feeling right now. It is more than time to acknowledge GD IS a condition, and stop this nonsense of saying that you should be happy with whatever you have, when what you really want is to complete your family with that long desired gender.

[gafan]

Congratulations Aidansmum!!!!!! That's wonderful news!!!!!!!!

[gafan]

Congratulations Bigwish!!!

[Mumto3boys]

I too am in Australia in Melbourne - I am here for you. My Mum (who had three girls & one boy) just upsets me more and just doesn't understand. After just speaking to my husband I said if I'm told boy I don't know if I'm mentally or emotionally going to be okay and I need to be for you and helping with the business. And he supports me, I just wish we tried swaying with the others too.... but he says we tried so damn hard to sway he said I mean I abstained for 9/10 days people under the same circumstance don't even get pregnant doing it all the time, this baby is a fighter. I told him it was his choice because if I can't deal with this then I would rather just have three. He said whether we struggle through life, regardless he knows we would suit having a big family. So I guess we will try our chance at PGD overseas in a few years should this one not be a girl.

My son just came into the office and said "Mummy your the most beautiful girl in the world" .... I burst into tears and he said why are you crying Mummy and I said because you're so perfect. I feel better now.

For you Mum3blue, I would like to be there for you, I don't know you but I would like to be there privately for you through the rest of your journey cause I know those dark places we go. I would also go as far as saying when you do have baby or even before I would come to Sydney to see you should you need a friend. You do not need to go through this alone.

Natalie xo

Thank you for your lovely post ... I have just fallen apart - got back from my scan and this baby is all boy there is no denying it.

Mumto3boys -its not over till its over and you know for sure.

While I have never told anyone this - I do wish that I didn't fall pregnant with this baby. I spent the last five years hoping and dreaming about a girl and to trying to convince my husband to try again - he didn't want three so you can imagine how he feels about 4! Our life would have been so different with our youngest starting school this year and now back to having a baby and the next 5 years of raising a small child ... it somehow would have been worth it if this baby was a girl, but for me its just more of the same and then on to soccer etc etc. I never imagined my life with 1 boy let alone 4. I knew there was a chance that this could be a boy, but I really thought this was my time to have a girl - now I will NEVER have that chance and its gone, plus I have ruined our future as we have to factor a baby into the mix. I have always waited for that ecstatic feeling being told its a girl and then delivering a daughter, i will never have that. I still remember how disappointed I was after giving birth to my first son (we didn't find out). It makes you feel like s**t knowing that you felt/feel that way.

I wish we had gone hi tech - Australia makes it so bloody hard, we continue to have these babies when bureaucrats decide it is immoral/unethical to choose gender for family balancing. I wish, I wish, I wish for so many things ... unfortunately my wish did not come true :,-(

[gafan]

Mum3blue and Mumto3boys, I am so sorry to hear you both are feeling such intense pain and disappointment. My heart goes out to you both.

[gafan]

Prayforprincess- Thank you for sharing your story with us. I think I would feel that way too. :::Sending pink dust::::