JUNE/JULY/AUGUST 2014 DUE DATE CLUB

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Originally Posted by GreaseMonkey

Finding out is not going to make things easier, trust me I know! With DS#2 the minute I got my BFP I said he was a boy, I had really strong feelings and when it was confirmed I felt like a ton of bricks fell on me!!! I spent the rest of the pregnancy regretting things, not doing a sway (I was on IG at the time) etc....Everyone said I was going to fall in love with him...NO, it didn't happen, I didn't fall in love with him at all. I took care of him but it wasn't the loving bonding time everyone says it would be! It wasn't until 6 months into his life that I started bonding with him and that's because he was chocking and I hesitated to pick him up..It was really a dark time for me but honestly it got better! It might not happen at birth but it will happen!!
Now, I was hoping things would be different but unfortunately they are not, GD is creeping in. This is not what I wanted, I didn't want to have another baby unless it was guaranteed a girl...Well none of these would have happened if my DH had told me about the mirena falling out!!! It makes things worse when all my friends and family are hoping and praying this is a girl. I feel like I will let everyone down including myself :(
Anyways just sharing some thoughts, didn't mean to bring anyone down :HH:

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I do feel for you Greasemonkey and honestly, we have only told a few people so far for that very same reason. I just want to know the gender before announcing to the world. That way, they just have to accept what it is from the get go and can't go through the whole "oh, I hope this is your girl" or "I just have a feeling it's a girl" You don't have a feeling, please! That always just seems so ignorant to me. Also, it is a little frustrating when people assume you have two, three, etc. of one gender, that you would just automatically want/need/desire the other gender. Yes, in my case it is true, but not for all people which for whatever reason bothers me and makes me feel like I am disappointment to whomever is speaking because maybe I won't have that. Sorry. End rant. I just have felt the need to express how I really feel about the whole topic and feel like this forum out of anyone else, can really identify :) Like many of you have said, I sincerely hope everyone that has yet to find out gets their desired gender, but obviously, we wouldn't have put ourselves in this situation if it wasn't a remote possibility of the opposite outcome. No matter how long it takes to bond whether it been 1 day or 1 year. Good luck to all of you!!!

Mumto3boys I completely understand all that you are saying. Damn symptoms can be so misleading I really felt this was a girl also. My symptoms are the same as with my DD. I have spent way to many days sick, really sick & miserable. I hoped that was because of my DD & that made the sickness ok. Once I heard DS so many thoughts went through my mind. There are moments that I have asked is it all worth it, but than I remember all of those who have suffered loss & I remind myself that as sad I was to hear boy I would feel much worse if the promise of this child was no longer here. I also knew it wasn't fair for me to feel so down as I do have a DD but it did & does still brake my heart. Yes I wanted her to have a sister & I guess I'm still coping with the loss of my Grandmother a few months ago. This DD was supposed to be named after her. I guess in my own grief I made myself believe that I would have another DD named after her & it would be my connection to her. Hearing boy took that chance away & shattered my heart.

Its funny how you mention about your boys being so great to you yesterday mine were the same in the days after I heard boy its as if they know. While it is easier said than done I think at this point for me it is easier to repeat to myself that these wonderful sons of mine are going to marry amazing women & I'm going to get a ton of granddaughters & be wishing for a grandson!

I did make a pro-boy vs pro-girl list & that did help me some. I hope it gets easier for you as days go on. Even more I hope that your test was wrong & you hear girl at your ultrasound & get to finally use that absolutely beautiful name you have waiting. In the meantime ((hugs)) & just know we are here for you if you need us.

((hugs)) to you as well GreaseMonkey. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I think we have to & it so much safer hear with people that understand & can empathize than in the real world with people who just can't get it. Fingers crossed you hear girl & are able to enjoy every moment with this little one!

Congrats Little Lunasa on your girl!

With all this GD talk I am starting to get nervous for my scan next Saturday. Hey at least I have 2 shots at getting one with out a pee pee. Honestly though I feel like they are both boys! What is to change now that I have already had 3? Nothing. I just wish it would be the 25th already so that I can just know!! Time is dragging! I really only want healthy babies and will gladly take whatever we are given, I just wasn't worried about it until now :( I think having the scan be far away before I just kept it out of my mind but now that it is a little over a week away I am starting to get nervous :nails:

momof3boyz11 fingers crossed for 2 healthy babies & at least one girl! Also hope time flies by between now & the 25th!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck to you as well jmm0616!!

MUMTO3BOYS- i really hope u get your dd too, and I agree materni21 test can be wrong too. Lets pray, i have heard stories at my office where they located a Y, and found out it was xx. Lets pray!! what week did you have your materni21 test at?

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Originally Posted by dreams529

momof3boyz11 fingers crossed for 2 healthy babies & at least one girl! Also hope time flies by between now & the 25th!!!!!!!!!!!

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One would be nice 2 would be AMAZING!!!! But healthy first!!!!!

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Originally Posted by jmm0616

I do feel for you Greasemonkey and honestly, we have only told a few people so far for that very same reason. I just want to know the gender before announcing to the world. That way, they just have to accept what it is from the get go and can't go through the whole "oh, I hope this is your girl" or "I just have a feeling it's a girl" You don't have a feeling, please! That always just seems so ignorant to me. Also, it is a little frustrating when people assume you have two, three, etc. of one gender, that you would just automatically want/need/desire the other gender. Yes, in my case it is true, but not for all people which for whatever reason bothers me and makes me feel like I am disappointment to whomever is speaking because maybe I won't have that. Sorry. End rant. I just have felt the need to express how I really feel about the whole topic and feel like this forum out of anyone else, can really identify :) Like many of you have said, I sincerely hope everyone that has yet to find out gets their desired gender, but obviously, we wouldn't have put ourselves in this situation if it wasn't a remote possibility of the opposite outcome. No matter how long it takes to bond whether it been 1 day or 1 year. Good luck to all of you!!!

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Good luck to you!!!