2nd trimester loss... back at the swaying

Hi guys!

It's taken me a few weeks since my second trimester (19.2 weeks) loss of my successful sway baby girl, to come back on here. It was just so hard to come on here.
We lost our baby girl on june 29th due to something called cord stricture. Her umbilical cord was very small at the base. She didn't get enough nutrients. Its a freak accident that can happen to any pregnancy and is completely unstoppable. She had no chromosomal issues and appeared very healthy.
She was very much wanted and we swayed hard for over 7 months to conceive her.

I'm back on here now in hopes of giving this whole thing another shot.
We were ready to do gender selection (HT) ivf just to ensure we got our little girl back. However after talking with 2 separate (highly recommend) mediums... both assured me that I'll get pregnant naturally with a baby girl again soon. Like as in Oct. Even if they are both wrong... it gave me hope. Something you lose during a traffic event like this.
Long story short.. I've started cardio and LE again in preparation for our first attempt in sept/oct. My OB cleared us to start trying 1 cycle after losing her. I'll be starting 3 cycles after to give my bofy time to heal. I'm meeting with my RE soon in hopes of getting Clomid again for my attempt.


Anyway just wanted to say to everyone on here... enjoy your pregnancies and little healthy babies. I am so jealous of you all. Thank you for everyone's support on here too! [emoji7]

Anyone else swaying in fall?!

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I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome back.

(((Huge Hugs)))

It's good to hear from you Robin- I've been thinking of you often! I think you have a great plan, and I cannot imagine how hard all of this is for you. You are an amazing woman and are such an inspiration. I'm hoping and praying that your rainbow baby comes to you real soon [emoji4]🤞🏻[emoji1317]!


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Lots of hugs xxx

Hi Robin,

I'm also swaying girl again after losing our much longed-for daughter at 20 weeks (due to placental abruption).

Here if you want to chat.

Xxx


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Hi Robin,

I'm also swaying girl again after losing our much longed-for daughter at 20 weeks (due to placental abruption).

Here if you want to chat.

Xxx


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Actually that would be lovely to talk to someone who's gone through this!

Sorry to hear of your loss [emoji17]

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(((Huge Hugs)))

It's good to hear from you Robin- I've been thinking of you often! I think you have a great plan, and I cannot imagine how hard all of this is for you. You are an amazing woman and are such an inspiration. I'm hoping and praying that your rainbow baby comes to you real soon [emoji4]🤞🏻[emoji1317]!


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Thank you!! Xo

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I'm so sorry for your loss, Robin! Welcome back, and best wishes for a successful sway and a healthy baby!

So many hugs Robin! So sorry for your loss sweetie! No one should ever have to go through the tragedy of losing a child! Cheering youth for another healthy baby girl you get to hold in your arms every day and night!


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Actually that would be lovely to talk to someone who's gone through this!

Sorry to hear of your loss [emoji17]

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I'm also swaying pink again after we lost our longed-for daughter at 17 weeks in May. She had the umbilical cord wrapped around her neck 3 times. She was a successful sway so I'm praying we can somehow make another girl!

I'd love to talk to both of you if you're interested!


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I'm so sorry for your loss, Robin! Welcome back, and best wishes for a successful sway and a healthy baby!

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Thank you and congrats maxim!!

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I'm also swaying pink again after we lost our longed-for daughter at 17 weeks in May. She had the umbilical cord wrapped around her neck 3 times. She was a successful sway so I'm praying we can somehow make another girl!

I'd love to talk to both of you if you're interested!


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If love that!! [emoji7]

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Robin and Nebethetepet,

Would love to connect with you both since we've all been through such similar tragic experiences. Is there a way of setting up a private group chat on here? X


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Welcome back Robin. Just wanted to send you and all the other mums here who have had losses huge hugs and lots of love, light and healing. I cannot imagine the pain you've been through and I wish you all healthy rainbow babies in the near future.
I am swaying and ttc in September and October so I look forward to reading all your journeys xx

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Welcome back Robin. Just wanted to send you and all the other mums here who have had losses huge hugs and lots of love, light and healing. I cannot imagine the pain you've been through and I wish you all healthy rainbow babies in the near future.
I am swaying and ttc in September and October so I look forward to reading all your journeys xx

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Yay! So excited to start trying again. I'm so looking forward to fall now

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Yay! So excited to start trying again. I'm so looking forward to fall now

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So glad you are excited to try again you are amazing! Fx so tightly for your beautiful rainbow girl xx

Robin, so good to hear from you and that you have a great plan for the future. HUGS to all of you that have suffered such a tragic loss. Praying for you all!

Robin, as you already know my heart is breaking for you - I have no words to express how sorry I am.

But. I do have to mention that I really cannot support anyone walking away from IVF on the advice of a medium. IVF is a hard process and not 100% (you get a gender guarantee, but not a guarantee of pregnancy) but your odds of success with it do not improve with time and I have seen too many people decide to sway only to end up with an opposite and going back to HT in the end, only 2-3 years later and with much poorer odds. If it was something that wasn't right for you, wasn't right for your family, that wouldn't matter to me, but on the advice of a medium, I just feel like you possibly need to revisit this in your mind and with your husband (and please don't feel you need to reply to this or argue, I just have to say that because I don't want you to make a choice you may regret)

If you do end up deciding to sway, I'll of course help you however I can. Clomid is a great pink sway, diet and exercise are great, we know it's worked for you in the past but it is not the gender guarantee that IVF/PGD is.

I also want to warn you of a potential pitfall that I have seen with some of my swayers who have lost babies (particularly of their desired gender). They become very, very highly motivated, to and sometimes past the brink of obsession, with swaying. And it is the control-freak kind of behavior where they think about swaying all the time, want to do everything just perfectly, because they believe on some level that by doing so they can force the universe to comply with their wishes. But we've seen so many of the most dedicated, most intense swayers get opposites that I really do think it makes a huge difference in the outcome so I just want to give you a heads up on that pitfall so you can avoid it. :heart:

Thank you for your reply! Yes we haven't taken ivf off the table completely yet. If we do not conceive by dec/Jan we will be doing it. I hope to get Clomid in Sept/oct and start there first. I don't believe in ALL mediums but the one I went to predicted both girl pregnancies for me so I have some faith.

I am the complete opposite of those statistics you just posted. If anything this loss taught me how the little things don't matter and to stop stressing over things I cannot control. Also I feel that EVEN if you do get your desired gender it's not guaranteed you will even carry to full term! After swaying hard last time for months with no success... we are doing a more lax away. I am not doing one attempt. It never works for us.
I will be doing a modified version of LE and exercising bc I want to feel better. We just want a healthy happy baby to complete our family. Being stuck in limbo land really sucks!

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Good luck and pink dust!! And let me know how I can help! :)

its good to see you back robin :) i hope whatever path you end up following be it swaying or ht that you get your healthy full-term baby girl who you are all able to have and hold in your arms and not just your hearts, Mrs T and Nebethetepet i hope the same for you both as well :heart:

we lost our second child (first girl) at 18 weeks with no explanation ever found and i just want to say that although it may not always feel like it after a loss, a healthy pregnancy with a healthy full term baby at the end of it is possible, the road after loss isnt an easy one but i wish you all the best of luck on your swaying/ht/ttc journeys xx

Could I join? I lost my much longed for baby girl (successful sway) on the 25 July due to clots in the placenta and a potential clotting disorder (I am waiting for the official debrief). In the meantime I am starting the LE diet again and once I feel better from the birth, will begin exercising again. I hope it's ok if I join you x

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Could I join? I lost my much longed for baby girl (successful sway) on the 25 July due to clots in the placenta and a potential clotting disorder (I am waiting for the official debrief). In the meantime I am starting the LE diet again and once I feel better from the birth, will begin exercising again. I hope it's ok if I join you x

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Hi and welcome! I am so sorry about your loss. It's a tough journey. I took some time off as well and then joined a gym. I actually found it helped a lot. It gave me a way to blow off steam.
When are you thinking of ttc again?

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Hi Robin.
I want to ttc as soon as possible but have to wait for the post mortem and the results to see if I have a clotting disorder. I would've gone to the gym again but I am bleeding really heavily again and just feel too rubbish today, physically and emotionally. It's definitely a tough ride.

Hi ladies,

I would love to join you all. I am so sorry to read of each of your losses, it is unthinkable the universe can be so cruel. I am getting ready to begin my first sway as we will be TTC another daughter in January.

I have two beautiful boys who are 6.5 and almost 1 and a daughter who would have just turned 3. I lost her the week before she was due as the result of a cord accident. She was absolutely divine, perfectly healthy and my biggest baby yet. I still cannot believe she was lost when we literally had 7 days to go.

I am both excited and terrified to be pregnant again. My last pregnancy was terrifying and I expected to lost my son until he was finally placed on my chest.

I look forward to chatting to you all and hope we all get our take home daughters in the new year.

Hi ladies, we didn't work out how to set up a private group chat on here, so a couple of us have been communicating via FB. I'm happy to set up a private group on there for us few to communicate privately. Please pm me if you're interested. Hugs to all who have endured these tragic losses X


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Tainted, I am so sorry to read your story. How tragic. Are you TTC at the moment? X

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Hi ladies,

I would love to join you all. I am so sorry to read of each of your losses, it is unthinkable the universe can be so cruel. I am getting ready to begin my first sway as we will be TTC another daughter in January.

I have two beautiful boys who are 6.5 and almost 1 and a daughter who would have just turned 3. I lost her the week before she was due as the result of a cord accident. She was absolutely divine, perfectly healthy and my biggest baby yet. I still cannot believe she was lost when we literally had 7 days to go.

I am both excited and terrified to be pregnant again. My last pregnancy was terrifying and I expected to lost my son until he was finally placed on my chest.

I look forward to chatting to you all and hope we all get our take home daughters in the new year.

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I am so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you and your family. I hope we can all get our beautiful daughter's!

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Ladies, just please let me know how I can be of help. :heart:

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Tainted, I am so sorry to read your story. How tragic. Are you TTC at the moment? X

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Hi Honeybee37, not TTC just yet. I'm breastfeeding so hoping to have regular cycles return now bub will go longer without a feed. Hoping to start swaying shortly and trying again in January.

When are you planning to TTC again?

Hi ladies. I set up a 'secret' fb group for us to chat. Please just pm me your fb email address if you'd like to join Xx


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