2nd trimester loss... back at the swaying

[Georgia_Peach]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Robin! Welcome back, and best wishes for a successful sway and a healthy baby!

Thank you and congrats maxim!!

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[Georgia_Peach]

I'm also swaying pink again after we lost our longed-for daughter at 17 weeks in May. She had the umbilical cord wrapped around her neck 3 times. She was a successful sway so I'm praying we can somehow make another girl!

I'd love to talk to both of you if you're interested!


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If love that!! [emoji7]

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[MrsTheatrical]

Robin and Nebethetepet,

Would love to connect with you both since we've all been through such similar tragic experiences. Is there a way of setting up a private group chat on here? X


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[kittendreams]

Welcome back Robin. Just wanted to send you and all the other mums here who have had losses huge hugs and lots of love, light and healing. I cannot imagine the pain you've been through and I wish you all healthy rainbow babies in the near future.
I am swaying and ttc in September and October so I look forward to reading all your journeys xx

[Georgia_Peach]

Welcome back Robin. Just wanted to send you and all the other mums here who have had losses huge hugs and lots of love, light and healing. I cannot imagine the pain you've been through and I wish you all healthy rainbow babies in the near future.
I am swaying and ttc in September and October so I look forward to reading all your journeys xx

Yay! So excited to start trying again. I'm so looking forward to fall now

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[kittendreams]

Yay! So excited to start trying again. I'm so looking forward to fall now

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So glad you are excited to try again you are amazing! Fx so tightly for your beautiful rainbow girl xx

[Shannshaff]

Robin, so good to hear from you and that you have a great plan for the future. HUGS to all of you that have suffered such a tragic loss. Praying for you all!

[atomic sagebrush]

Robin, as you already know my heart is breaking for you - I have no words to express how sorry I am.

But. I do have to mention that I really cannot support anyone walking away from IVF on the advice of a medium. IVF is a hard process and not 100% (you get a gender guarantee, but not a guarantee of pregnancy) but your odds of success with it do not improve with time and I have seen too many people decide to sway only to end up with an opposite and going back to HT in the end, only 2-3 years later and with much poorer odds. If it was something that wasn't right for you, wasn't right for your family, that wouldn't matter to me, but on the advice of a medium, I just feel like you possibly need to revisit this in your mind and with your husband (and please don't feel you need to reply to this or argue, I just have to say that because I don't want you to make a choice you may regret)

If you do end up deciding to sway, I'll of course help you however I can. Clomid is a great pink sway, diet and exercise are great, we know it's worked for you in the past but it is not the gender guarantee that IVF/PGD is.

I also want to warn you of a potential pitfall that I have seen with some of my swayers who have lost babies (particularly of their desired gender). They become very, very highly motivated, to and sometimes past the brink of obsession, with swaying. And it is the control-freak kind of behavior where they think about swaying all the time, want to do everything just perfectly, because they believe on some level that by doing so they can force the universe to comply with their wishes. But we've seen so many of the most dedicated, most intense swayers get opposites that I really do think it makes a huge difference in the outcome so I just want to give you a heads up on that pitfall so you can avoid it.

[Georgia_Peach]

Thank you for your reply! Yes we haven't taken ivf off the table completely yet. If we do not conceive by dec/Jan we will be doing it. I hope to get Clomid in Sept/oct and start there first. I don't believe in ALL mediums but the one I went to predicted both girl pregnancies for me so I have some faith.

I am the complete opposite of those statistics you just posted. If anything this loss taught me how the little things don't matter and to stop stressing over things I cannot control. Also I feel that EVEN if you do get your desired gender it's not guaranteed you will even carry to full term! After swaying hard last time for months with no success... we are doing a more lax away. I am not doing one attempt. It never works for us.
I will be doing a modified version of LE and exercising bc I want to feel better. We just want a healthy happy baby to complete our family. Being stuck in limbo land really sucks!

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[atomic sagebrush]

Good luck and pink dust!! And let me know how I can help!