Anyone have no symptoms and things still be ok?

6w1d (6w6d by LMP) today, which I know is early, but I'm still having barely any symptoms. Maybe 10 seconds of nausea here, or a brief spike of breast tenderness. HCG and progesterone are all good/high, and we saw "early cardiac activity" on a scan at 5w5d.

But I have been pregnant TEN times now! I had symptoms stronger at this point for all except that first loss, and I was so close to DD's birth with that pregnancy that it was easy to confuse my symptoms with postpartum stuff. I looked at my pregnancy diary with DD, and at this point with her I had strong food aversions, lots more fatigue and nausea, etc.

I know considering 8 of those pregnancies were losses, maybe something different is good. But I still feel so anxious. I think a lot of this was spurred by a.) a dream last night that I woke up from an emergency section to be told I had a girl and was so disappointed in the dream and b.) yesterday DH asked to come to the next scan, and that made me feel nervous we're jinxing it since he's taking this pregnancy more seriously since he "feels differently about it."

I knew I'd be a mess with any future pregnancy... but omg did I underestimate it!

I had barely any symptoms with my sons. Occasional spikes like you describe but I didn’t feel pregnant for a very long time. The most I ever got was (several weeks in, more than you are now) occasional slight nausea on waking which was solved with a dry biscuit! All was fine :-)

with my first baby i had horrific sickness 24/7 for 28 weeks straight, i was even waking up through the night and vomiting, no real symptoms except the sickness.

with #2 i only threw up 4 times in the first 18 weeks, then lost the baby and a midwife stupidly commented that "the sicker you are the better the outcome" must be true i thought as it certainly fitted my situation.

#3 i threw up once.. but other than that 1 time i never felt sick or anything else pregnancy related and fully expected to have another loss.. but went to 39+2 with a healthy live baby.

ive now had 8 pregnancies (my loss was number 2) and can honestly say that each time has varied, one very sick, some moderate and a couple not sick at all, my first 5 babies i didnt have sore boobs at all but with number 6,7 and 8 they have been progressively sorer with each pregnancy!! last time it was agony just taking my bra off!!

i know how hard it is not to worry, but right now your numbers are good and your scan findings sound very very positive and that (symptoms or no symptoms) really is the best that you can hope for at this point, its no guarantee i know but so far so good :) one day at a time :heart: i have everything crossed for you and this baby xx

I had no symptons at all with my second until sometime in the second trimester. With my first I was only tired, nothing more. I’ve had the whole range of symptoms from nothing to full blown HG depending on the pregnancy.

My mom never had any symptoms with any of her pregnancies (and repeatedly told me they were psychological, LOL - boy was I ever in for a surprise with my first!) I had strong symptoms with 3 of mine and minor ones with 2. Also, in two of my pregnancies with major symptoms (1st and 4th) I did not even realize I was pregnant for some time and do not recall having any symptoms early on - they set in later but the pregnancies were well underway by then. I also had mega symptoms with my pregnancy that ended in miscarriage.

I know it's impossible not to worry but the thing is, the good numbers and heartbeat are the things to take seriously. The symptoms just aren't as indicative of things. While no one ever wants to see strong symptoms suddenly go away (esp. when still in the first tri) not having strong symptoms isn't such a strong cause for concern (and even symptoms going away is not always a bad thing, either - no one panic,now!).

Thinking of you! :heart:

Thank you all :( I know, having had strong symptoms with losses (and we have a good suspicion most of our losses were chromsomal), that having symptoms shouldn't make me feel better or worse. But I can't even go a few days now without stressing more! Every day pregnant is a day my heart goes more to this baby, even if they are a girl (which will gut me, too).

Can I just be in a coma until 40 weeks? :diaper:

I know you know better than anyone - sorry I hope that did not come off as dismissive.

We are all rooting for you and praying/PT every day for a healthy baby (preferably blue!) :heart:

TP - I think it's 100% normal and expected for you to be crazy with worry right now given your losses. You shouldn't feel remotely bad for feeling that way. I had very few symptoms (no m/s at all) this last pregnancy before my 7 week scan and I was very freaked out about it and I think some of the people I told about it thought I was just being paranoid. I had had OK early betas, progesterone was high, no bleeding, and even my DH too said that things felt different that time. But I had had two early losses just months before that pregnancy making me more paranoid and the lack of symptoms made me feel like something was wrong. Well, in my case, things were wrong. But who knows if the lack of symptoms was an actual indication of that or not - because of course, not having early symptoms does not always and probably most of the time does not mean something is wrong. But I don't feel bad about how worried I was about it because maybe my intuition really was preparing me for the worst.

BUT, one big difference for you that was not true in my situation is that you did have an early scan and the start of a heartbeat!!! When I went for my 7 week scan there wasn't anything close to a heartbeat - not even a fetal pole - just a small yolk sac measuring VERY far behind. I didn't have a scan before 6 weeks but I'm pretty confident there was never a heartbeat with that bub. So I think you have a much better start at this point then I had!

I know you've said this on here too but the symptoms thing is so strange. With DS2, I was nauseated, vomiting and felt miserable by 5 1/2 weeks. With DS1 though I didn't have any symptoms until 7-8 weeks. Also with him I had spotting off and on between weeks 5-8 (never figured out the cause). So I was a nervous wreck with him early on too but today he's my perfect little 5 year old :) Like atomic my mom had ZERO morning sickness with either of her two pregnancies (1 boy, 1 girl). And yet I ended up having quite a bit of m/s with both boys (it just started later with DS1). Who knows.

It sucks to worry so much but sadly for those of us who've gone through loss I think it's pretty much inevitable. Mamabird (I think it was Mamabird who said this...) said one time on here that going through losses really takes away the innocence of pregnancy and I totally think that is true. I feel like pregnancy has completely changed for me now after this past year & if I ever get pregnant with a healthy bub again I will feel exactly as you do - I'll want to be in a coma until 40 weeks!!!

In any case, I will be praying that you will be vomiting soon! (LOL - you understand of course I mean that in a positive way!). I prayed really hard for you around the time you O'd this time and will continue to do so until you're holding your healthy bub in your arms (and like atomic said hopefully it a boy bub!). We're rooting for you!!!

When is your next scan?

No worries atomic, it didn't come off like that at all! I think I feel like I have to keep apologizing because I feel like I'm right back in the "posting a ton and needing constant external comments" like I did when I was pregnant with DD. I am annoyed with myself!

And ABC, you always say the things that make me tear up (in the good way!). It actually really means a lot to me that you've been praying for me! And maybe how stressed I was about ovulation should chill me out, since I was so stressed I hadn't even O'd haha -- and clearly I was wrong!

I think it's the loaded stress of both loss and GD -- they take turns for what takes precedence, and I hate that I still feel that way. I looked up Ramzis and convinced myself it is a girl since the scan looks similar to my DD's first scan and then I just felt worse and felt like the lack of symptoms or early boy OWT symptoms were cruel tricks!

The lack of innocence about pregnancy is so true. And I feel more despondent than I'd thought about gender, since it's been such agony to get to #2... how could I even go through this again to try for a boy for #3? And I feel like I'm relying on other people's intuition because I'm right back to not trusting myself. I tried to bargain with God/the universe before this pregnancy, too :( I said, "grant me a healthy boy, and I WILL give those frozen XXs a chance after." But I keep feeling like I didn't do enough sway wise now, and worry that me even worrying about the gender stuff will bite me in the ass if I miscarry :(

I'm a mess today haha. All from that damn dream. Maybe this is just a pregnancy symptom :hide:

Yea the mix of GD & just worrying about the pregnancy sucks. I went into my 7 week ultrasound hoping to see baby on left side (even though I know ramzi has been debunked!) and that was SO much on my mind that it felt even more shocking when we got the bad news that there wouldn't even be a baby. It's hard dealing with both sets of feelings at once.

If it helps, I had a dream the other night that I gave birth to a boy and was really disappointed! But I'm not even pregnant LOL!!! I really think those dreams are just GD rearing it's ugly head again, and in your case not an indication of little bub's gender.

LOL as far as posting, I've been posting WAY too much on the tww board and feel like I'm getting really annoying so I'm trying to give it a breather now :) I get it! It's hard though with how intense this process is and for me at least there aren't really people IRL that I can talk about the ttc AND swaying thing to. And I'm an external processor so what do I do!!? LOL. :)

And my scan of the early sac was on the left side :( ugh. I forgot to answer, too: my next scan is this Wednesday.

I saw the pic and it looked like it was on the left side of the picture but doesn't that mean right side of your body? That's what I thought looking at the picture.

My friend who is pregnant showed me her 6 week pic & the yolk sac was on the left side of the picture and she is having a boy!

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I saw the pic and it looked like it was on the left side of the picture but doesn't that mean right side of your body? That's what I thought looking at the picture.

My friend who is pregnant showed me her 6 week pic & the yolk sac was on the left side of the picture and she is having a boy!

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Ramzi always confused me, so I hope you're right haha. I never was clear on if they meant anatomical directions. DD's earliest scan was similar (though the sac looked way differently shaped, if that means anything haha), for where fetal pole was, though I guess sac was in a slightly different place? I NEVER SHOULD HAVE LOOKED UP RAMZI.

I think it's supposed to be the mirror image of the picture.. like if you hold the pic up to your body what looks like it's left in the pic would actually be on the right side of the body.

But atomic should probably come in and tell us that Ramzi doesn't work anyways so that neither of us get caught up in it haha!! I feel like I get caught up on stuff like that too!! Today at my follicle ultrasound my biggest follicle was on the left side and I got all excited thinking I'll ovulate from the left and that will be better chance for a girl (even though I know that's also not true!). Ahhhhh what GD does to you :)

TP, first off, so happy to see you had a positive scan, that is so encouraging..FX that next scan is just as good!
Ditto to what has been said, I wouldn’t (and as difficult as it is not to read into’ every single detail!) put too much stock into symptoms or lack thereof...both my successful and unsuccessful pregnancies I had strong symptoms’ from the get go. The betas, scan etc are what matter- sending you all the most positive vibes for a healthy bundle :awe:
(And here I am with a third daughter, I can honestly say, I would not trade her for a million sons...I do hope you get your son, but either way, am sure you will be blessed )
Keep us posted!!

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I think it's supposed to be the mirror image of the picture.. like if you hold the pic up to your body what looks like it's left in the pic would actually be on the right side of the body.

But atomic should probably come in and tell us that Ramzi doesn't work anyways so that neither of us get caught up in it haha!! I feel like I get caught up on stuff like that too!! Today at my follicle ultrasound my biggest follicle was on the left side and I got all excited thinking I'll ovulate from the left and that will be better chance for a girl (even though I know that's also not true!). Ahhhhh what GD does to you :)

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We need atomic to talk us down lol. I'll sit here and lecture women on OWTs and biorhythms then in the same breath do that stupid ring test over my belly lol (which said boy incidentally haha).

I've talked about it before with people, but one day I want to really delve into why even the most logical of women can go full woo in pregnancy. So much myth and magic around it all still!!

just to fuel the "full woo" fire.. the ring test has very weirdly been right for every one of my kids, it said boy even when i desperately wanted girls, it said girl when i truly believed i couldn't have girls and was convinced they were boys and was also spot on for my youngest which was my team green baby boy!! i know its bullsh*t and would never go buying pink or blue off it but it is interesting and i feel i have to do it each time haha :) did you do it with your daughter? i so so hope its right for you this time :heart:

im fairly certain ramzi is left=right on an external scan pic and left=left on an internal scan pic, but even ramzi himself has guessed wrong a lot!! so i wouldnt trust it!!

there will always be myth and magic around pregnancy i think :) the wonderful thing about babies, is babies are magical things :D hows everything going TP? will you be finding out gender with the NIPT test?

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I think it's supposed to be the mirror image of the picture.. like if you hold the pic up to your body what looks like it's left in the pic would actually be on the right side of the body.

But atomic should probably come in and tell us that Ramzi doesn't work anyways so that neither of us get caught up in it haha!! I feel like I get caught up on stuff like that too!! Today at my follicle ultrasound my biggest follicle was on the left side and I got all excited thinking I'll ovulate from the left and that will be better chance for a girl (even though I know that's also not true!). Ahhhhh what GD does to you :)

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It doesn't, ha ha!

I just recently found out that he never actually published his study. So it's never been reviewed or checked by any other researchers and that is a huge red flag for me (not to mention that several people sent the guy $10 to guess their ultrasounds, and he guessed WRONG!!)

Re dreams - the most vivid and upsetting dreams I've ever had were when I was first pregnant with some of my kids! It really IS a pregnancy thing, especially early pregnancy. So you see you ARE INDEED having pregnancy symptoms! :bluecheer: :bluecheer: :bluecheer:

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It doesn't, ha ha!

I just recently found out that he never actually published his study. So it's never been reviewed or checked by any other researchers and that is a huge red flag for me (not to mention that several people sent the guy $10 to guess their ultrasounds, and he guessed WRONG!!)

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LOL interesting! Amazing how many women have gotten all caught up in & crazy about one unpublished study!!!!

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We need atomic to talk us down lol. I'll sit here and lecture women on OWTs and biorhythms then in the same breath do that stupid ring test over my belly lol (which said boy incidentally haha).

I've talked about it before with people, but one day I want to really delve into why even the most logical of women can go full woo in pregnancy. So much myth and magic around it all still!!

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Yea it is funny! Every great once in awhile I'll go on and check Chinese gender charts for the months I'm trying to conceive - even though I've NEVER found a version of it that was right for both of my boys!!

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just to fuel the "full woo" fire.. the ring test has very weirdly been right for every one of my kids, it said boy even when i desperately wanted girls, it said girl when i truly believed i couldn't have girls and was convinced they were boys and was also spot on for my youngest which was my team green baby boy!! i know its bullsh*t and would never go buying pink or blue off it but it is interesting and i feel i have to do it each time haha :) did you do it with your daughter? i so so hope its right for you this time :heart:

im fairly certain ramzi is left=right on an external scan pic and left=left on an internal scan pic, but even ramzi himself has guessed wrong a lot!! so i wouldnt trust it!!

there will always be myth and magic around pregnancy i think :) the wonderful thing about babies, is babies are magical things :D hows everything going TP? will you be finding out gender with the NIPT test?

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Haha, I never actually did it with my DD because I thought it was so ridiculous-- which shows how far gone I was the other day!! We'll definitely do an NIPT because of so many losses, so I'd want to make sure this baby's viable. I'm actually becoming torn on gender. I think I'm in a "it's probably a girl and I'll just be insanely depressed all pregnancy," so why not just not find out? But ugh. Idk.

And I found a study that showed the ring test had women actually subconsciously moved their muscles in their hands that twitched the ring/string! And I did find the study disproving Ramzi, too. Though I read too that Ramzi is where the placenta is supposed to be in relation to baby, not the fetal pole in the sac?! I've seen BOTH be termed Ramzi. Why did I do this to myself? lol

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LOL interesting! Amazing how many women have gotten all caught up in & crazy about one unpublished study!!!!

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Yes I felt like an utter idiot when I realized that, because it was just such a THING (even dating back ten years now) that I guess I assumed it was always a legit study...I'd even read the study but just not realized that it hadn't been published anywhere! Such a major red flag!!

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Yea it is funny! Every great once in awhile I'll go on and check Chinese gender charts for the months I'm trying to conceive - even though I've NEVER found a version of it that was right for both of my boys!!

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don't tell me things like that LOL

No seriously - the Chinese Gender Chart so messed with my head with DS 3! I didn't even have a gender preference until I checked that darn chart.

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Haha, I never actually did it with my DD because I thought it was so ridiculous-- which shows how far gone I was the other day!! We'll definitely do an NIPT because of so many losses, so I'd want to make sure this baby's viable. I'm actually becoming torn on gender. I think I'm in a "it's probably a girl and I'll just be insanely depressed all pregnancy," so why not just not find out? But ugh. Idk.

And I found a study that showed the ring test had women actually subconsciously moved their muscles in their hands that twitched the ring/string! And I did find the study disproving Ramzi, too. Though I read too that Ramzi is where the placenta is supposed to be in relation to baby, not the fetal pole in the sac?! I've seen BOTH be termed Ramzi. Why did I do this to myself? lol

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As with the biorhythms, I find that the more ridiculously complex a theory is, the less likely it is to be legit. So like biorhythms are only correct IF you know your precise lunar birth date and the hour you conceived and etc etc etc but then other sites say the exact opposite, and Ramzi is only correct IF you know the true location of the placenta using some perfectly done ultrasound at precisely the right moment of the pregnancy...and then other sites will say the exact opposite.
No one even knows what it's really supposed to be. The more complicated it is, the more open for interpretation it is, the less likely I think it is to be true. People just go thru and fiddle with their results till they get the biorhythm chart or the Ramzi interpretation to come out right and then tell people "oh wow this totally worked for me" and then whenever it doesn't, they think "oh that's because I figured it out wrong, let me refigure it out using a different lunar birth hour or different explanation of Ramzi", you know??? :)

i completely understand wanting to know ASAP if baby is viable, i am hoping and praying for you to get all clear Nipt results so you can feel more relaxed and confident in this pregnancy :)

as for gender.. do what feels right for you, ive always found out gender around 18-20 weeks except for with my youngest where i made the decision to go team green, it was a sway baby and given my history of horrific GD team green was probably the worst decision i could make right? but still i wanted to experience the surprise with at least 1 baby so i was determined to do it!! i told myself i wasnt finding out until the birth so i could either let GD destroy the pregnancy like it had with some of my previous babies or i could enjoy the pregnancy without GD playing a a part, because no amount of GD/hating every second of everything will change the outcome anyway.
in the end i had an opposite, he is my 5th boy and the only one where i didnt have the pregnancy completely destroyed by GD, i am so so glad i didnt find out as i know full well what an "its a boy" pregnancy is like for me and i can honestly say it was nothing like that after finding out gender at his birth, its a slightly odd experience meeting a team green baby, its very much "so this is who you are!.." rather than the full blown hideous raging GD that the gender scans brought on for me.
i know Atomic strongly advises against team green for anyone with GD and i completely understand why!! but for me it turned out to be the right decision for that baby.
whatever you decide i have everything crossed for you and will keep an eye out for your updates!! xx

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don't tell me things like that LOL

No seriously - the Chinese Gender Chart so messed with my head with DS 3! I didn't even have a gender preference until I checked that darn chart.

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LOL you mean bc it's control freaky? Don't worry I'd never plan ttc around that and I've probably only checked it about 2 times in the past 2 years! I think I've mainly checked it bc I've tried to see if there is any version that was right for both of my boys and there just isn't! They all either say that one of them should have been a girl or both of them! :)

That left ovulation study (the one with the 3 month pattern) trips me up way more than Chinese gender charts! And yet I KNOW girls can be conceived from the right!! Haha.

ABC ive never found any chart anywhere that is right for all mine!! they are fun to do though :) wouldnt non-identical twin girls come from ovulating both sides? i have no idea which side ive ovulated on for any month ever, but if i could find out i bet at least a couple of my kids would be from the "wrong" side for their gender :)

No no not at all, just because I know it is bogus and I know how much it messes with your heads! :)

We just had somebody this week get a girl from the right! All these things are just curiosities.

It's funny, because in my crazed Ramzi searching, I found something that said women were just as likely to conceive any gender even when down to one tube or one ovary! So I think some of us really are putting way too much on it (I ovulated from my right with DD!). I was panicked because I think I O'd from my left based on pains from both sides, but more so from the left. But I actually had a cyst there during my FET so that left sided pain could still be from a cyst hanging out there from two months ago during IVF!

Either way, I'm convinced it's a girl now :( like unshakably. And still no consistent increase of symptoms. I looked up my diary with DD and I was already a slave to nausea and food aversions by now!

I will update you all with next scan this Wednesday. DH asked to come and now I am so scared of jinxing it :(

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ABC ive never found any chart anywhere that is right for all mine!! they are fun to do though :) wouldnt non-identical twin girls come from ovulating both sides? i have no idea which side ive ovulated on for any month ever, but if i could find out i bet at least a couple of my kids would be from the "wrong" side for their gender :)

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You can ovulate more than one egg from the same side! No that I think the side matters for gender though!

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i completely understand wanting to know ASAP if baby is viable, i am hoping and praying for you to get all clear Nipt results so you can feel more relaxed and confident in this pregnancy :)

as for gender.. do what feels right for you, ive always found out gender around 18-20 weeks except for with my youngest where i made the decision to go team green, it was a sway baby and given my history of horrific GD team green was probably the worst decision i could make right? but still i wanted to experience the surprise with at least 1 baby so i was determined to do it!! i told myself i wasnt finding out until the birth so i could either let GD destroy the pregnancy like it had with some of my previous babies or i could enjoy the pregnancy without GD playing a a part, because no amount of GD/hating every second of everything will change the outcome anyway.
in the end i had an opposite, he is my 5th boy and the only one where i didnt have the pregnancy completely destroyed by GD, i am so so glad i didnt find out as i know full well what an "its a boy" pregnancy is like for me and i can honestly say it was nothing like that after finding out gender at his birth, its a slightly odd experience meeting a team green baby, its very much "so this is who you are!.." rather than the full blown hideous raging GD that the gender scans brought on for me.
i know Atomic strongly advises against team green for anyone with GD and i completely understand why!! but for me it turned out to be the right decision for that baby.
whatever you decide i have everything crossed for you and will keep an eye out for your updates!! xx

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I was a big proponent of finding out gender with GD because SOOOO many people and things pointed boy for DD, and I wanted a boy so bad that I would have been devastated at birth I think. I am so grateful I fell in love with her as immediately as I did, but I'm sure some of you remember how awful my depression was about her when J first came here pregnant.

Now I just don't feel boy at all. All from that dream and Ramzi making me question myself so much I seriously can't imagine this being a boy. :( And I feel if I confirm girl early, I don't trust myself with this pregnancy. I have literally said I would rather die than have another girl, then was faced with the awful realities of IVF and our situation, and prayed so hard that I would still go back for our frozen XXs if I could just get our healthy son first. And everytime I get angry about this pregnancy being a girl, I feel like I'm just cursing myself to go into a devastating scan. :(

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It's funny, because in my crazed Ramzi searching, I found something that said women were just as likely to conceive any gender even when down to one tube or one ovary! So I think some of us really are putting way too much on it (I ovulated from my right with DD!). I was panicked because I think I O'd from my left based on pains from both sides, but more so from the left. But I actually had a cyst there during my FET so that left sided pain could still be from a cyst hanging out there from two months ago during IVF!

Either way, I'm convinced it's a girl now :( like unshakably. And still no consistent increase of symptoms. I looked up my diary with DD and I was already a slave to nausea and food aversions by now!

I will update you all with next scan this Wednesday. DH asked to come and now I am so scared of jinxing it :(

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Well if you're going by OWT, less symptoms would indicate boy since "they say" you have more sickness with girls!! :) So maybe fewer symptoms is a good sign!!!

Can't wait to hear about your scan on Wednesday!!

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Well if you're going by OWT, less symptoms would indicate boy since "they say" you have more sickness with girls!! :) So maybe fewer symptoms is a good sign!!!

Can't wait to hear about your scan on Wednesday!!

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Haha I'm not even going by OWT, since I'm also super hairy right now (versus one of the few OWTs that lined up with DD was me barely needing to shave or pluck -- and I'm of a pretty swarthy ethnicity haha). But I felt more symptoms from my brief pregnancy with our abnormal XYs! It's all me feeling it by intuition I guess... and that damn intuition study is what's making me feel it must be true. Even though I know that was one study and it wasn't 100% even then! Uugh, I'm half serious about someone needing to sedate me lol!

RE side of pain and side of O...I have had SO many people message me in a panic because they had pain on one side that was supposed to be friendly to whichever gender, who later went on to see that on ultrasound they had actually ovulated from the other ovary entirely! Since eggs form in both ovaries it is totally possible to have pain on both sides (I always do) regardless of the side you ovulate from!

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You can ovulate more than one egg from the same side! No that I think the side matters for gender though!

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:agree: Yes it's just the two "best" eggs are released. They could both be on the same side or one on each side. It's just the eggs themselves that respond best to the hormones and grow the fastest and just largely down to either luck or some unknown force we don't understand yet, what governs that.

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I was a big proponent of finding out gender with GD because SOOOO many people and things pointed boy for DD, and I wanted a boy so bad that I would have been devastated at birth I think. I am so grateful I fell in love with her as immediately as I did, but I'm sure some of you remember how awful my depression was about her when J first came here pregnant.

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It's a double edged sword for sure, because for ~some~ people it's hard to love a grainy ultrasound and they have more feelz for a baby that's already arrived, but overall I have seen very few people who were better off not finding out in advance with anything more than the mildest of preferences. I just really think people should find out if they know they'll be upset. Can u do something like NIPT where you won't have to endure the scan? You'd find out on the phone or in the mail and you could deal with it without having to put on a brave face for anyone, if it was not what you were hoping for.

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RE side of pain and side of O...I have had SO many people message me in a panic because they had pain on one side that was supposed to be friendly to whichever gender, who later went on to see that on ultrasound they had actually ovulated from the other ovary entirely! Since eggs form in both ovaries it is totally possible to have pain on both sides (I always do) regardless of the side you ovulate from!

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Yea it's weird - the past day or so my right side has been sore, although I know from the ultrasound that my left side has the biggest follicle! But who knows which one will ovulate, if both will, etc. Also my right ovary had several smaller follicles as well as a big one, while the left side only had a couple of them but had the largest one. So maybe the right ovary is just overcrowded?! :) LOL oh well - there is a lot of mystery to all this!!

Imagine that it's like having zits LOL - if you have them on your right side of your forehead and left side of your forehead, they would both hurt, and the bigger one ~may~ hurt more but sometimes that's not always the case and you can have a smaller one that hurts like a momma. And then if you are able to pick one, it will feel better and go away, while the one on the other side that was unpickable may still hurt and hurt for days afterwards before it finally reabsorbs itself and goes away!

It's totally possible that a smaller follicle hurts worse than a bigger one, that both sides can hurt equally bad, and that ovulation actually make the pain on the side you ovulated from go away faster than on the side that didn't! :)

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RE side of pain and side of O...I have had SO many people message me in a panic because they had pain on one side that was supposed to be friendly to whichever gender, who later went on to see that on ultrasound they had actually ovulated from the other ovary entirely! Since eggs form in both ovaries it is totally possible to have pain on both sides (I always do) regardless of the side you ovulate from!

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It's not even been just O! I've had what feels like round ligament pain also, but midwife assured it was likely a corpus luteum since I'm too early for RLP (though my uterus probably is a worn out balloon by this point lol). The real head scratcher is I've had it on both sides, just slightly worse on left -- though I'm wondering if the cyst from IVF on the left side just never went away?

We'll definitely do NIPT no matter what since we know we've had so many chromosomal issues. I've thought about getting gender on a card since a phone call would kill me too (definitely traumatized after two phone calls delivering me PGS results). But I also am reluctant to find out so early considering I'm convinced it's a girl and I'd have 30 weeks of depression instead of 20... or just staying team green and maybe being surprised at birth but coming to terms with it likely being a girl the whole time.
ETA: as soon as I wrote this my right side started hurting more lol. clearly making mountains out of mole hills here...