Anyone have no symptoms and things still be ok?

[Throwaway_panther]

ABC ive never found any chart anywhere that is right for all mine!! they are fun to do though wouldnt non-identical twin girls come from ovulating both sides? i have no idea which side ive ovulated on for any month ever, but if i could find out i bet at least a couple of my kids would be from the "wrong" side for their gender

You can ovulate more than one egg from the same side! No that I think the side matters for gender though!

[Throwaway_panther]

i completely understand wanting to know ASAP if baby is viable, i am hoping and praying for you to get all clear Nipt results so you can feel more relaxed and confident in this pregnancy

as for gender.. do what feels right for you, ive always found out gender around 18-20 weeks except for with my youngest where i made the decision to go team green, it was a sway baby and given my history of horrific GD team green was probably the worst decision i could make right? but still i wanted to experience the surprise with at least 1 baby so i was determined to do it!! i told myself i wasnt finding out until the birth so i could either let GD destroy the pregnancy like it had with some of my previous babies or i could enjoy the pregnancy without GD playing a a part, because no amount of GD/hating every second of everything will change the outcome anyway.
in the end i had an opposite, he is my 5th boy and the only one where i didnt have the pregnancy completely destroyed by GD, i am so so glad i didnt find out as i know full well what an "its a boy" pregnancy is like for me and i can honestly say it was nothing like that after finding out gender at his birth, its a slightly odd experience meeting a team green baby, its very much "so this is who you are!.." rather than the full blown hideous raging GD that the gender scans brought on for me.
i know Atomic strongly advises against team green for anyone with GD and i completely understand why!! but for me it turned out to be the right decision for that baby.
whatever you decide i have everything crossed for you and will keep an eye out for your updates!! xx

I was a big proponent of finding out gender with GD because SOOOO many people and things pointed boy for DD, and I wanted a boy so bad that I would have been devastated at birth I think. I am so grateful I fell in love with her as immediately as I did, but I'm sure some of you remember how awful my depression was about her when J first came here pregnant.

Now I just don't feel boy at all. All from that dream and Ramzi making me question myself so much I seriously can't imagine this being a boy. And I feel if I confirm girl early, I don't trust myself with this pregnancy. I have literally said I would rather die than have another girl, then was faced with the awful realities of IVF and our situation, and prayed so hard that I would still go back for our frozen XXs if I could just get our healthy son first. And everytime I get angry about this pregnancy being a girl, I feel like I'm just cursing myself to go into a devastating scan.

[ABC.2606]

It's funny, because in my crazed Ramzi searching, I found something that said women were just as likely to conceive any gender even when down to one tube or one ovary! So I think some of us really are putting way too much on it (I ovulated from my right with DD!). I was panicked because I think I O'd from my left based on pains from both sides, but more so from the left. But I actually had a cyst there during my FET so that left sided pain could still be from a cyst hanging out there from two months ago during IVF!

Either way, I'm convinced it's a girl now like unshakably. And still no consistent increase of symptoms. I looked up my diary with DD and I was already a slave to nausea and food aversions by now!

I will update you all with next scan this Wednesday. DH asked to come and now I am so scared of jinxing it

Well if you're going by OWT, less symptoms would indicate boy since "they say" you have more sickness with girls!! So maybe fewer symptoms is a good sign!!!

Can't wait to hear about your scan on Wednesday!!

[Throwaway_panther]

Well if you're going by OWT, less symptoms would indicate boy since "they say" you have more sickness with girls!! So maybe fewer symptoms is a good sign!!!

Can't wait to hear about your scan on Wednesday!!

Haha I'm not even going by OWT, since I'm also super hairy right now (versus one of the few OWTs that lined up with DD was me barely needing to shave or pluck -- and I'm of a pretty swarthy ethnicity haha). But I felt more symptoms from my brief pregnancy with our abnormal XYs! It's all me feeling it by intuition I guess... and that damn intuition study is what's making me feel it must be true. Even though I know that was one study and it wasn't 100% even then! Uugh, I'm half serious about someone needing to sedate me lol!

[atomic sagebrush]

RE side of pain and side of O...I have had SO many people message me in a panic because they had pain on one side that was supposed to be friendly to whichever gender, who later went on to see that on ultrasound they had actually ovulated from the other ovary entirely! Since eggs form in both ovaries it is totally possible to have pain on both sides (I always do) regardless of the side you ovulate from!

[atomic sagebrush]

You can ovulate more than one egg from the same side! No that I think the side matters for gender though!

Yes it's just the two "best" eggs are released. They could both be on the same side or one on each side. It's just the eggs themselves that respond best to the hormones and grow the fastest and just largely down to either luck or some unknown force we don't understand yet, what governs that.

[atomic sagebrush]

I was a big proponent of finding out gender with GD because SOOOO many people and things pointed boy for DD, and I wanted a boy so bad that I would have been devastated at birth I think. I am so grateful I fell in love with her as immediately as I did, but I'm sure some of you remember how awful my depression was about her when J first came here pregnant.

It's a double edged sword for sure, because for ~some~ people it's hard to love a grainy ultrasound and they have more feelz for a baby that's already arrived, but overall I have seen very few people who were better off not finding out in advance with anything more than the mildest of preferences. I just really think people should find out if they know they'll be upset. Can u do something like NIPT where you won't have to endure the scan? You'd find out on the phone or in the mail and you could deal with it without having to put on a brave face for anyone, if it was not what you were hoping for.

[ABC.2606]

RE side of pain and side of O...I have had SO many people message me in a panic because they had pain on one side that was supposed to be friendly to whichever gender, who later went on to see that on ultrasound they had actually ovulated from the other ovary entirely! Since eggs form in both ovaries it is totally possible to have pain on both sides (I always do) regardless of the side you ovulate from!

Yea it's weird - the past day or so my right side has been sore, although I know from the ultrasound that my left side has the biggest follicle! But who knows which one will ovulate, if both will, etc. Also my right ovary had several smaller follicles as well as a big one, while the left side only had a couple of them but had the largest one. So maybe the right ovary is just overcrowded?! LOL oh well - there is a lot of mystery to all this!!

[atomic sagebrush]

Imagine that it's like having zits LOL - if you have them on your right side of your forehead and left side of your forehead, they would both hurt, and the bigger one ~may~ hurt more but sometimes that's not always the case and you can have a smaller one that hurts like a momma. And then if you are able to pick one, it will feel better and go away, while the one on the other side that was unpickable may still hurt and hurt for days afterwards before it finally reabsorbs itself and goes away!

It's totally possible that a smaller follicle hurts worse than a bigger one, that both sides can hurt equally bad, and that ovulation actually make the pain on the side you ovulated from go away faster than on the side that didn't!

[Throwaway_panther]

RE side of pain and side of O...I have had SO many people message me in a panic because they had pain on one side that was supposed to be friendly to whichever gender, who later went on to see that on ultrasound they had actually ovulated from the other ovary entirely! Since eggs form in both ovaries it is totally possible to have pain on both sides (I always do) regardless of the side you ovulate from!

It's not even been just O! I've had what feels like round ligament pain also, but midwife assured it was likely a corpus luteum since I'm too early for RLP (though my uterus probably is a worn out balloon by this point lol). The real head scratcher is I've had it on both sides, just slightly worse on left -- though I'm wondering if the cyst from IVF on the left side just never went away?

We'll definitely do NIPT no matter what since we know we've had so many chromosomal issues. I've thought about getting gender on a card since a phone call would kill me too (definitely traumatized after two phone calls delivering me PGS results). But I also am reluctant to find out so early considering I'm convinced it's a girl and I'd have 30 weeks of depression instead of 20... or just staying team green and maybe being surprised at birth but coming to terms with it likely being a girl the whole time.
ETA: as soon as I wrote this my right side started hurting more lol. clearly making mountains out of mole hills here...