Low sex drive question

[Hallie]

Hello 🙋🏼
DH and I are hoping to sway pink this year. I have done lots of reading on here and have a question about abstaining which I can't find an answer to. Both dh and I have low sex drives and can both quite easily go without for 3 weeks at a time (dh also not helping himself)
I know one attempt is best for a girl but is it recommended after abstaining for so long ? Or should we make an effort to bd on non fertile days to lower sperm count ?
Thank you in advance
Xx

[atomic sagebrush]

I prefer you guys have him release once a week for decent sperm quality. 3 weeks of abstain is not good for sperm.

Please do not BD to "lower sperm count" he's not going to be able to keep up with it, and it will make tons of stress for you guys. Just go ahead with abstain but don't go longer than 1 week.

[Hallie]

Thank you x