You're doing books wrong atomic! You need to listen to audiobooks while also doing all those other projects -- 2 for 1! :P I love efficiency haha
Sincerely,
The "boy" mom fighting her husband's sperm
But seriously, your write up has made me wonder now if the serotonin and endorphin levels associated with those little "boosts" (I know the feeling well!) or feelings of overwhelming/failures is what's having their role in the swaying!
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October 2nd, 2018, 04:47 PM #11
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October 2nd, 2018, 05:05 PM #12Dream User
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Great explanation atomic!
Also throwaway I love reading what you write. You really do seem like such a boy mom personality. I hope so much it works out for you!
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October 2nd, 2018, 07:54 PM #13
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October 2nd, 2018, 09:33 PM #14Dreamer
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I can’t thank you enough Atomic! It’s all very interesting. You are so right that everything is a challenge; even relaxing! LOL However, I actually feel so much better after reading this. I have a history of being all about work and projects. However, over the last year or so I’ve been more layed back than ever before. No time like the present.
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Prayed and swayed for a little
2020 I still can’t believe we have a girl!!
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October 2nd, 2018, 10:42 PM #15
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October 3rd, 2018, 02:19 AM #16Dream User
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October 3rd, 2018, 07:03 AM #17
Haha, you have me pegged for sure! If this is my longed for boy: we'll go back and transfer that healthy XX and abnormal XY we have frozen from IVF when DS is a year! We want 3 kids still, and even though I never wanted another girl, this has been my bargain with the universe lol. If this is a boy though, you better believe my planning will be going right back into me getting to the skinny I was before DD -- though hopefully in a healthier way!
If this is a girl, I'm going to keep... doing what I've been doing since at this point HE is more my lifestyle than anything else lol. But will do more extreme things if driven to it, which I hate to consider, but after everything I've been through... will not mess around. Already secretly saving for a possible Ericcsson IUI since we are fortunate enough to live very close to one -- and, like with this baby, I am realizing I have more hurtles than others because of DH's sperm and am already worried about further miscarriages. I can't go through all that again.
@3boys And haha, I know I mention the red meat 3boys -- I hadn't eaten red meat from 12 to 26! So the girl sways made sense for why I got DD -- but we also had tons of sex and I have a nutso boy personality. Every example atomic used for Martha/Jeanie (and herself, haha) have always been exact things in my life! I have had my moments of depression, but I usually just rant them out and then immediately go to planning again -- planning makes me feel better! My husband always calls me 'Liz Lemon' from the American show "30 Rock" with Tina Fey because there's a scene where she does what "turns her on" with a new boyfriend, and she goes to Office Max and rolls around in the organizing supplies lol. He ALWAYS brings that up because I practically get off on organizing and coming up with projects for things haha
But now I'm just so conscious of odds and statistics in all of this (and myself) that I'm just having to see how far I can push myself with these coin flips
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October 3rd, 2018, 11:40 AM #18
Sadly, for some reason, even though I know "learning styles" have been entirely debunked, I can't listen and understand things very easily. I have to see things to comprehend them - even turn on the subtitles so I can read my TV shows!
Yep. I think we've gotten sooo hung up on "testosterone" that no one has ever even investigated any of this other stuff. There are gobs of different hormones in the human body, any or all of which could potentially affect gender ratio for all we know. People often ask me about cortisol too and there's just really not enough data for me to do anything other than the most broad sort of speculation, the type I prefer not to indulge in since then everyone starts focusing on my speculation rather than just doing what has worked for most people, most of the time.!!! Questions??Check out the NEW and improved Complete Index !!!
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October 5th, 2018, 09:19 AM #19Dreamer
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This is very interesting atomic. You write so well! I have three boys and as I read you talking about about blue swayers (girl mums) feeling overwhelmed and worried to fail, I actually feel like that’s me now. I feel so so nervous at the thought of trying again for a girl, because I know I can’t actually control everything and have to believe that timing isn’t the be all answer and that’s just that. I feel like I need to get the diet thing part of my life far in advance and just let go of the little unimportant things in life. I can’t change who I am but I think just learning to let go and chill out a bit is going to help at least. Like not taking on these big effort projects that I know exactly what you mean about getting those buzzy feelings from. I’m so the same about resenting my husband being all relaxed, but hey if I join him maybe I’ll actually enjoy it. Rather than assuming these other things are more in need of my attention. Anyway, the whole defeated feeling is strong with me. I’m on the pill for now and before I had my children had bad endo, so have a suspicion a fourth child may not happen for us anyway. I just feel nervous at the thought of yet another sway fail and I am seriously thinking of getting a plan because I just can’t deal with working out what I should be eating etc etc so if I pay for the service I don’t need to worry. I’m quite happy with the timings aspect; Abstain isn’t a must but mainly all I need to do is test for ovulation and have sex once, right, lol! Nothing else apart from exercise is a big deal. So I just don’t want to be worried about squeezing loads of thinking and worrying into my day, have I remembered this, should I do that. I’ve asked questions as I go along and quite happy nothing else is super important to include. ....apart from hubby cycling and smoking!lol
I can totally see how I got my boys, i got fixated on timings in the wrong way and I was swaying boy in other ways, I am totally that person who wouldn’t really ask for help and think I could probably do things better and more officiantly, easily influencing my husband to do things my way, being a bit bossy etc but now I just feel deflated and a bit like I’m chasing something that I’m never going to get. When it comes to swaying i can’t do anything about itLast edited by PINKwish16; October 5th, 2018 at 09:31 AM.
Swaying for asoon!
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October 5th, 2018, 12:29 PM #20
It's natural to feel worried and concerned that your sway won't work out, but it's a matter of degree. Boy moms will think "I'm so worried that my sway won't work that I need to do more and more to make by sway better." Girl moms might think "I'm so worried that my sway won't work that I am not going to try." (so either not trying at all or not swaying because they're so sure that it won't work) It's really hard to describe until you've been through it but when I got pregnant with my daughter I just felt so out of control with everything in my universe and trying with her felt way more like stepping off a plank over a ravine and not knowing what was going to happen. With my boys it was this big deliberate thing that thought I had planned out perfectly - with the exception of my first who I got when we were young and super human, I always planned to get pregnant and went about it very methodically.
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