UK SMOG Wannabes - November (moved from PL)

[Inglewood]

Well I had the drs today to try to get progesterone cream as lp is 8 days ish but she said no but would refer me onto the specialists again. I'm cd3, is it too late to start B6 and does anyone know what dose? Do not want to go down the specialist route as I'd feel bad for swaying.

I had tingling like sunset mentioned and I started at 150mg, cut to 100mg and still had them, so take with care. What I had was rare, very few people on here seem to have had it as I asked about when I had it. x

[Sunset]

Maybebaby ~ with ds1 i wrote the most detailed birth plan ever as an attempt to feel in control and prepared, but as most people know after having had a baby or 2: birthplans never go to plan lol i ended up in theatre with a retained placenta and needed a spinal and everything is pretty much a blur so i don't think anyone even as much as looked at my birthplan. with ds2 i did what you said and wrote a birthplan, stating everything i didn't want to happen (experiences from my first labour etc) but then ds2 decided to come early and that was it, my birthplan was out the window.. so this time i'm not gonna bother! i will probably take a piece of A4 paper and write in bold laters "EPIDURAL PLEASE" and stick that on the front of my hospital notes and that will count as my birthplan haha

Indigoviolet ~ good luck! i didn't realise you're in the 2ww! fx for a bfp!

inglewood ~ it must be nice to "know" what to expect this time with the CS.. at least you've been through it before what is the recovery like?

[DoulaMama]

Hope u all get the births you want as it's an impt part of bringing our babies into this world and stand up for what you believe in and what you want!!! Go girls!! xx

Because I just can't read the birth stories without saying something(it's the student midwife in me!!!) I have to second Inglewoods comment! If you don't want to lie down to push your baby out...DON'T LIE DOWN! They cannot physically move you. Just refuse to move Midwives know how to catch a baby on the toilet, in the shower, on all fours...they are just being lazy and the whole protocol thing just requires them to do things a certain way. I was at a birth once where the mama did not want the Dr. to pry his fingers between baby's head and perineum(she was adamant on this and it truly doesn't need to be done)when she was crowning. He did anyway...She kicked him off of his stool, clear across the room! LOL! I think maybe he'll listen a bit better now Im not saying to get violent...LOL Anyway, birth your babies however you feel is right. You are the one going home to live with the experience for the rest of your life! Be informed and stand up for yourselves! xoxo Much love~

[maybebabythree]

Lol dola mama I felt like kicking my midwife in the face as she started sticking with no pain relief. She told me they can't numb skin but lo and behold - turns out shecould. I didn't do a birth plan ford ds1 just as well really as that all went to Pot. I wrote a bit for ds2 and that was stuck too. So all I want this time is pain relief. Someone who knows what they are doing to sticth me up not too fussed about birthing position but if I have to be on the heart monitor and on my back then I need more than gas and air! I am not too demanding - whatever happens it going to bloody hurt!

[chocolate]

Never heard of the tingling sensation, thanks for the tip! I took 50mg lunchtime, and fine, may try another 50mg of b6 tonight, will do a quick google for info first.

The dr didnt say much, I basically said my lp is short can I get prog. she said well once you are pregnant the lpd wont matter so I said but I read that there may not be enough time for my lining to thicken ready for implantation, to which she sort of said 'hmm' as if she didnt know. Thats when she said she can refer me on lol

[maybebabythree]

Chocolate - can you see another doctor at your surgery?

[DoulaMama]

Lol dola mama I felt like kicking my midwife in the face as she started sticking with no pain relief. She told me they can't numb skin but lo and behold - turns out shecould. I didn't do a birth plan ford ds1 just as well really as that all went to Pot. I wrote a bit for ds2 and that was stuck too. So all I want this time is pain relief. Someone who knows what they are doing to sticth me up not too fussed about birthing position but if I have to be on the heart monitor and on my back then I need more than gas and air! I am not too demanding - whatever happens it going to bloody hurt!

Yeah...if there is medical need for you to be lying down and strapped to monitors(can I ask why they need this...? Just being nosey) then it is unfair to ask a mom to just grit her teeth and bare it. A woman was meant to move and sway and do whatever feels right in the moment...not lay down on your back! Do we see any other mammals giving birth on their back? None!!! Anyway, I totally agree with what you're saying and same goes for induction. If there is a medical need to induce, pain relief is usually needed as it is unnatural and the pain is 3x as bad! Oh and I cannot believe she stitched you without pain relief!!!! OMG! I needed stitches with my first baby and I have to say that the stitching was worse than the birth...and I had no pain relief on board either. I hope you have a fabulous experience this time! You just put your foot down and start demanding!!! xo

[chocolate]

Chocolate - can you see another doctor at your surgery?

I could but to be honest now that Ive been referred they will say wait for that appointment, Ill just have to give b6 and ttc in the meantime and hope for the best

[deaks66]

I could but to be honest now that Ive been referred they will say wait for that appointment, Ill just have to give b6 and ttc in the meantime and hope for the best

Chocolate, i hope the b6 works for you! definately push for the progesterone (weird how my gp gave it to me without a seconds thought!) as it will really do the trick. I start mine tonight (2dpo - despite what ff reckons) and i really hope there is a little bean-to-be in there that it will do the trick for!

Im definately pro-epi! had one with ds1 and it was the only thing that got my through the following 2.5 hrs of pushing as i would have struggled to do that after hours and hours and hours of pain. Didnt have it for ds2 despite begging! There was enough time for it, they just didnt get their arses in gear! With dc3 i too will write in large letters on the front of my maternity reconds i reckon! Funny though, inlike any of you, i actually deal with contractions better by lying down on my back! Its such a personal thing and i hope we are able to give birth the way we want!

Indigo, keeping everything crossed for you!

Inglewood, hurray for not feeling sick today!

Hi everyone else!

[charlieispy]

For me my birthplan has always been very bare and minimal - with ds1 I think i just wrote no epidural, and for DH to cut the cord. For DS2 I was induced but didnt let them strap me down and got a pretty ok birth for induction. My best birth was ds3 a homebirth and then my birthplan read, no epi, let the cord stop pulsing, dh cut the cord and skin to skin. I really hope I can have another homebirth ds2 was meant to be one. 2 hours after giving birth I had my baby asleep beside me and a wagamamas on my lap BLISS. I know I am lucky to have had good births so far - but I must say I dont think i could ever give birth lieing on my back I would kill someone lol I have always been on all fours but holding onto something - hospital bed in the sitting up position and at home I used the sofa to lean on.